Why You Behave in Ways You Hate

Why You Behave in Ways You Hate
Author: Irwin Gootnick
Publisher:
Total Pages: 244
Release: 2006-05
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 9781883955182

Have you ever met anyone who didn't have some behavior he or she couldn't stand? Why do we so often continue to behave in ways that make us unhappy? Why don't we learn from our mistakes? Why does willpower fail? Have you adopted the qualities that you hated in your parents? Do you wonder why? Many of the available self-help books give advice and present general ideas about the cause of our problems but do not provide in-depth insight into the reasons behind our behavior. They don't tell us why it is so difficult to follow their advice or our own desires and to overcome our problems. Why You Behave in Ways You Hate does. Dr. Gootnick explains why children blame themselves for their parents' faults and how this creates hidden, destructive mind-sets that cause the behaviors that plague us. In a clear, straightforward way, he shows you how to see past the psychological blinders that make it difficult for you to see how these mind-sets operate and then to take effective action. Seven charts identify specific behaviors and allow you to look up your personal problem and understand at a glance how it originated or how you may have responded to it. Using individual personality profiles of you and your family members, you will be able to analyze what happened in the past and to institute changes in your thinking and behavior. In addition, because Why You Behave in Ways You Hate is based on family dynamics, it is an invaluable asset for parents working on problems they may have with their children. It will help break the generational cycle of doing to your children what was done to you. Who is this book for? Its for anyone who has difficulty in achieving success in school or a career, who repeatedly get involved in bad relationships, or who have trouble extricating themselves from abusive relationships. It also appeals to parents who have problems with their children, to those who feel insecure, inadequate, or depressed without cause, and to individuals who have problems with addictions or weight control, or who sacrifice their own interests for others.

Behave

Behave
Author: Robert M. Sapolsky
Publisher: Penguin
Total Pages: 801
Release: 2018-05-01
Genre: Science
ISBN: 0143110918

New York Times bestseller • Winner of the Los Angeles Times Book Prize • One of the Washington Post's 10 Best Books of the Year “It’s no exaggeration to say that Behave is one of the best nonfiction books I’ve ever read.” —David P. Barash, The Wall Street Journal "It has my vote for science book of the year.” —Parul Sehgal, The New York Times "Immensely readable, often hilarious...Hands-down one of the best books I’ve read in years. I loved it." —Dina Temple-Raston, The Washington Post From the bestselling author of A Primate's Memoir and the forthcoming Determined: A Science of Life Without Free Will comes a landmark, genre-defining examination of human behavior and an answer to the question: Why do we do the things we do? Behave is one of the most dazzling tours d’horizon of the science of human behavior ever attempted. Moving across a range of disciplines, Sapolsky—a neuroscientist and primatologist—uncovers the hidden story of our actions. Undertaking some of our thorniest questions relating to tribalism and xenophobia, hierarchy and competition, and war and peace, Behave is a towering achievement—a majestic synthesis of cutting-edge research and a heroic exploration of why we ultimately do the things we do . . . for good and for ill.

Why We Hate

Why We Hate
Author: Jack Levin
Publisher: Prometheus Books
Total Pages: 276
Release: 2010-05
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 1615926488

Are we born with a propensity to hate, or is it something we learn? Both enlightening and insightful, this momentous and timely work offers hope that civilized human beings can come to grips with an age-old problem.

Imperfect Harmony

Imperfect Harmony
Author: Joshua Coleman
Publisher: Macmillan + ORM
Total Pages: 315
Release: 2003-07-29
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1429992646

Dr. Joshua Coleman is a caring psychologist who nonetheless isn't afraid to tell the truth: not all marriages can be joyful at all times, but that isn't a cause for divorce, especially with children involved. Even if your marriage is never going to be the one you dreamed of, you can still live happily ever after. Dr. Coleman provides wise and compassionate advice on becoming a happy person in an unhappy situation. In this groundbreaking work, Dr. Coleman also teaches readers how to: - Reduce out-of-control conflict in the home - Let go of the fairy-tale marriage ideal and create a better reality - Accept change in your partner and make peace with what you can't change - Maintain domestic harmony in times of crisis Unhappy husbands and wives finally have an alternative to the devastation of divorce. And by maintaining imperfect harmony, each parent has the opportunity to love, to care for, and to teach his or her children "full-time."

The Empathy Trap

The Empathy Trap
Author: Jane McGregor
Publisher: Sheldon Press
Total Pages: 117
Release: 2013-05-16
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 1847092772

Sociopathy affects an estimated 1- 4% of the population, but not all sociopaths are cold-blooded murderers. They're best described as people without a conscience, who prey on those with high levels of empathy, but themselves lack any concern for others' feelings and show no remorse for their actions. Drawing on real life cases, The Empathy Trap: Understanding Antisocial Personalities explores this taboo subject and looks at how people can protect themselves against these arch-manipulators. Topics include: - Defining sociopathy, and related conditions such as psychopathy, narcissism, and personality disorder - How sociopaths operate and why they're often difficult to spot - Identifying sociopathic behavior - The sociopath's relations with other people and why they often go unpunished - Coping with the aftermath of a destructive relationship - Re-establishing boundaries and control of your life - Practical advice for keeping sociopaths at bay - Resources and further help.

Nincompoopery

Nincompoopery
Author: John R. Brandt
Publisher: HarperCollins Leadership
Total Pages: 212
Release: 2019-07-16
Genre: Business & Economics
ISBN: 1400213681

CEO and award-winning business writer John R. Brandt offers concrete examples of how any organization can innovate in ways that delight customers and attract top-level talent. Nincompoopery--terrible customer service, idiotic business processes, and soul-crushing management practices--surrounds all of us. We lose time, patience, and profits as stuck-in-the-past organizations actively prevent us (and our customers) from getting the value we (and they) deserve. In Nincompoopery, Brandt leverages research across thousands of companies to show leaders how to find and kill the corporate stupidity that drives customers crazy. It usually starts by asking simple questions, such as: Why should our customers have to rekey their data multiple times to make a single purchase? Why are there four levels of approval just to order basic supplies? Why can’t we get qualified candidates for open positions, or provide new employees with decent training? In short: How did we become such nincompoops? And when will we stop? Brandt has worked with hundreds of companies to help them outwit competitors, and in this book, he shares his unique blueprint for success. Nincompoopery offers leaders the answers they need--and the profits they crave--with a scoop of humor on the side.

A Deeper Cut

A Deeper Cut
Author: David Morgan
Publisher: Phoenix Publishing House
Total Pages: 316
Release: 2020-11-30
Genre: Political Science
ISBN: 1800130171

Building on the bestselling The Unconscious in Social and Political Life, the first book in the Political Minds series, A Deeper Cut investigates such vital issues as left and right populisms, colonialism and racism, social care for the mentally ill, manipulation of the masses in the third world, Alice Miller on family politics, diversity, Orwellian thinking, trade unions, religious fundamentalism, NHS politics, activism, and tyranny. Featuring compelling contributions from Lord John Alderdice, Elizabeth Cotton, Tomasz Fortuna, Stephen Frosh, Samir Gandesha, Mary Joan Gerson, Liz Greenway, Roger Hartley, Luisa Passalacqua, Kate Pugh, Marco Puricelli, Edgard Sanchez Bernal, Elisabeth Skale, Mark Stein, and Margot Waddell. Galvanised by events outside of his consulting room, David Morgan began The Political Mind seminars at the British Psychoanalytical Society in 2015 and their successful run continues today. A series of superlative seminars that examine the effects of the current upheaval going on worldwide, this book is the second to bring these seminars from leading thinkers to a wider audience. Leading politicians, writers, educators, psychoanalysts, psychologists, philosophers, psychotherapists, and psychologists are gathered together in this fascinating volume that investigates social upheaval on the worldwide stage. Stimulating and thought-provoking, this is a must-read for every citizen asking just what is happening in the world today.

Eat Sanely

Eat Sanely
Author: Terese Katz
Publisher: Lulu.com
Total Pages: 200
Release: 2011-04-01
Genre: Health & Fitness
ISBN: 0557405599

The Sociopath at the Breakfast Table

The Sociopath at the Breakfast Table
Author: Jane McGregor
Publisher: Turner Publishing Company
Total Pages: 190
Release: 2014-02-17
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 0897936973

Sociopaths can be found in every facet of life: personal relationships, work, school, and family. Most people have been in a relationship or interacted with more than one sociopath in their lifetime, often not recognizing their danger until it was too late. The Sociopath At the Breakfast Table breaks new ground in the field of abusive relationships. It presents an emerging theory about sociopathic interaction: SEAT, or the "Sociopath-Empath-Apath Triad." With this new found understanding of how sociopaths worm their way into people's lives, readers can use the tips and techniques found in this book to protect themselves from potential harm. More importantly, the authors show how empathy can be used as an antidote to sociopathic abuse - thus, victims are able to seize back power and ultimately regain control over their lives. This book presents readers information and tips on every aspect of interactions with a sociopath, from avoiding meeting one, to getting rid of them, dealing with the aftermath, and regaining control of their life.

Ego Is the Enemy

Ego Is the Enemy
Author: Ryan Holiday
Publisher: Penguin
Total Pages: 258
Release: 2016-06-14
Genre: Business & Economics
ISBN: 069819215X

The instant Wall Street Journal, USA Today, and international bestseller “While the history books are filled with tales of obsessive visionary geniuses who remade the world in their image with sheer, almost irrational force, I’ve found that history is also made by individuals who fought their egos at every turn, who eschewed the spotlight, and who put their higher goals above their desire for recognition.” —from the prologue Many of us insist the main impediment to a full, successful life is the outside world. In fact, the most common enemy lies within: our ego. Early in our careers, it impedes learning and the cultivation of talent. With success, it can blind us to our faults and sow future problems. In failure, it magnifies each blow and makes recovery more difficult. At every stage, ego holds us back. Ego Is the Enemy draws on a vast array of stories and examples, from literature to philosophy to his­tory. We meet fascinating figures such as George Marshall, Jackie Robinson, Katharine Graham, Bill Belichick, and Eleanor Roosevelt, who all reached the highest levels of power and success by con­quering their own egos. Their strategies and tactics can be ours as well. In an era that glorifies social media, reality TV, and other forms of shameless self-promotion, the battle against ego must be fought on many fronts. Armed with the lessons in this book, as Holiday writes, “you will be less invested in the story you tell about your own specialness, and as a result, you will be liberated to accomplish the world-changing work you’ve set out to achieve.”