Zen and the Art of Dealing with Difficult People

Zen and the Art of Dealing with Difficult People
Author: Mark Westmoquette
Publisher: National Geographic Books
Total Pages: 0
Release: 2021-12-14
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 178678548X

This is a unique guide to coping with challenging people using practical Zen and mindfulness tools. It helps readers explore their reactions, break free from knee-jerk response patterns and see if these people may in fact prove to be useful teachers in life – troublesome Buddhas. This is a guide to applying the teachings of mindfulness and Zen to the troublesome or challenging people in our lives. Perhaps you can see there’s often a pattern to your behaviour in relation to them and that it often causes pain – perhaps a great deal of pain. The only way we can grow is by facing this pain, acknowledging how we feel and how we’ve reacted, and making an intention or commitment to end this repeating pattern of suffering. In this book, Mark Westmoquette speaks from a place of profound personal experience. A Zen monk, he has endured two life-changing traumas caused by other people: his sexual abuse by his own father; and his stepfather’s death and mother’s very serious injury in a car crash due to the careless driving of an off-duty policeman. He stresses that by bringing awareness and kindness to these relationships, our initial stance of “I can’t stand this person, they need to change” will naturally shift into something much broader and more inclusive. The book makes playful use of Zen koans – apparently nonsensical phrases or stories – to help jar us out of habitual ways of perceiving the world and nudge us toward a new perspective of wisdom and compassion.

The Art and Science of Dealing with Difficult People

The Art and Science of Dealing with Difficult People
Author: David Brown
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Total Pages: 130
Release: 2011-10-01
Genre: Business & Economics
ISBN: 1628731567

In The Art and Science of Dealing with Difficult People, David Brown pinpoints the seven principles of relationship building that are crucial to creating a successful working environment. Brown breaks down each principle by providing easy to understand instructions and universally applicable management skills. Brown’s philosophy is to approach work place discord as a problem from both a managerial and lower level perspective. He offers advice on how to treat employees, while at the same time asking leaders to reflect and make self-adjustments which will facilitate a more efficient work space. Readers will gain a deeper understanding of how their employees view management personnel, what leadership skills are most effective, and how to ensure two-way communication. Using Brown’s tried and true tools, anyone can learn to focus on how to motivate, establish trust, and form a psychological contract. Numerous case studies throughout allow readers to observe the concrete application of Brown’s suggestions in real-life scenarios and complex situations, such as mergers and staff integration, information management, and more. In addition, The Art and Science of Dealing with Difficult People provides readers with skills drawn from an understanding of the basic fundamentals of human behavior.

The Art of Dealing With People

The Art of Dealing With People
Author: Les Giblin
Publisher: Les Giblin Books
Total Pages: 54
Release: 2001-01-01
Genre: Business & Economics
ISBN: 0961641630

What is the one quality that all successful people have in common? They have mastered the art of dealing with people! Let this book show you how to: Achieve your goals Handle the human ego Become a master conversationalist Make others feel good about themselves And much more! Skill with people is the one essential ingredient for success and happiness at home and in business. "The Art of Dealing With People" gives you the skills to take your people skills to a level that you never thought possible! Skill in human relations is similar to skill in any other field, in that success depends on understanding and mastering certain basic general principles. You must not only know what to do, but why you're doing it. As far as basic principles are concerned, people are all the same. Yet each individual person you meet is different. If you attempted to learn some gimmick to deal successfully with each separate individual you met, you would be face with a hopeless task. Influencing people is an art, not a gimmick. When you apply gimmicks in a superficial, mechanical manner, you go through the same motions as the person who "has a way," but it doesn't work for you. The purpose of this book is to give you knowledge based upon an understanding of human nature: why people act the way they do. The methods presented in this book have been tested on thousands of people who have attended my human relations seminars. They are not just my pet ideas of how you should deal with people, but ideas that have stood the test of how you must deal with people. That is, if you want to get along with them and get what you want at the same time. Yes, we all want success and happiness. And the day is long past, if it ever existed, when you could achieve these goals by forcing people to give you what you want. And begging is no better, for no one has respect for, or any desire to help, the person who constantly kowtows and literally goes around with his hand out, begging other people to like him. The one successful way to get the things you want from life is to acquire skill in dealing with people. Download now and you will learn how.

Getting Along

Getting Along
Author: Amy Gallo
Publisher: Harvard Business Press
Total Pages: 326
Release: 2022-09-13
Genre: Business & Economics
ISBN: 164782107X

Named one of "22 new books…that you should consider reading before the year is out" by Fortune "This practical and empathetic guide to taking the high road is worth a look for workers lost in conflict." — Publisher's Weekly A research-based, practical guide for how to handle difficult people at work. Work relationships can be hard. The stress of dealing with difficult people dampens our creativity and productivity, degrades our ability to think clearly and make sound decisions, and causes us to disengage. We might lie awake at night worrying, withdraw from work, or react in ways we later regret—rolling our eyes in a meeting, snapping at colleagues, or staying silent when we should speak up. Too often we grin and bear it as if we have no choice. Or throw up our hands because one-size-fits-all solutions haven't worked. But you can only endure so much thoughtless, irrational, or malicious behavior—there's your sanity to consider, and your career. In Getting Along, workplace expert and Harvard Business Review podcast host Amy Gallo identifies eight familiar types of difficult coworkers—the insecure boss, the passive-aggressive peer, the know-it-all, the biased coworker, and others—and provides strategies tailored to dealing constructively with each one. She also shares principles that will help you turn things around, no matter who you're at odds with. Taking the high road isn't easy, but Gallo offers a crucial perspective on how work relationships really matter, as well as the compassion, encouragement, and tools you need to prevail—on your terms. She answers questions such as: Why can't I stop thinking about that nasty email?! What's behind my problem colleague's behavior? How can I fix things if they won't cooperate? I've tried everything—what now? Full of relatable, sometimes cringe-worthy examples, the latest behavioral science research, and practical advice you can use right now, Getting Along is an indispensable guide to navigating your toughest relationships at work—and building interpersonal resilience in the process.

Dealing With Difficult People

Dealing With Difficult People
Author: Rick Brinkman
Publisher: McGraw Hill Professional
Total Pages: 127
Release: 2006-04-07
Genre: Business & Economics
ISBN: 0071487158

Explains how to: Identify 10 bothersome behaviors and deal successfully with each of them Understand why people become difficult Use sophisticated techniques to neutralize whining, negativity, attacks, tantrums and more Cultivate the nine "take-charge" skills that prevent people from becoming difficult

Powerful Phrases for Dealing with Difficult People

Powerful Phrases for Dealing with Difficult People
Author: Renee Evenson
Publisher: AMACOM
Total Pages: 242
Release: 2013-10-15
Genre: Business & Economics
ISBN: 0814432999

How to Manage Work Relationships in a Constructive Way that Leads to Success. Learning how to maintain strong, harmonious work relationships is essential. Unfortunately, at some point in your career, you'll have to work with people whose personalities or habits make every interaction with them a trial. Communications expert Renee Evenson has written the definitive phrasebook on how to confront the situations that can arise when dealing with difficult personalities and bring about a positive outcome. Powerful Phrases for Dealing with Difficult People is packed with practical and easy-to-use tactics such as: 325 powerful phrases to communicate effectively, as well as powerful actions to take in support of those phrases. 30 common personality traits, behaviors, and workplace scenarios along with the phrases that work best with each. Nonverbal communication actions to back up your words. Sample dialogues that demonstrate how phrasing improves interactions. A five-step process for moving from conflict to resolution. "Why This Works" sections that provide detailed explanations. Often, an employee who can interact well with others and feels comfortable handling conflict will be promoted over an employee who possesses greater job or technical knowledge. From egotistical bosses to meeting monopolizers, you'll learn how to develop the skills to handle any type of conflict with anyone.

How to Deal With Difficult People

How to Deal With Difficult People
Author: Gill Hasson
Publisher: John Wiley & Sons
Total Pages: 215
Release: 2014-10-29
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0857085719

DON’T LET PROBLEM PEOPLE GET TO YOU! Whether it’s a manager who keeps moving the goal posts, an uncooperative colleague, negative friend, or critical family member, some people are just plain hard to get along with. Often, your immediate response is to shrink or sulk, become defensive or attack. But there are smarter moves to make when dealing with difficult people. This book explains how to cope with a range of situations with difficult people and to focus on what you can change. This book will help you to: Understand what makes difficult people tick and how best to handle them Learn ways to confidently stand up to others and resist the urge to attack back Develop strategies to calmly navigate emotionally-charged situations Deal with all kinds of difficult people – hostile, manipulative and the impossible Know when to choose your battles, and when to walk away Why let someone else’s bad attitude ruin your day? How to Deal With Difficult People arms you with all the tools and tactics you need to handle all kinds of people – to make your life less stressful and a great deal easier.

Dealing with Difficult People

Dealing with Difficult People
Author: Roy C. Lilley
Publisher: Kogan Page Publishers
Total Pages: 164
Release: 2006
Genre: Business & Economics
ISBN: 9780749447519

Dealing with Difficult People looks at individual behaviour, what drives it and how to cope with it. It explains how to recognize and understand difficult people and their actions as a means to resolve problematic situations and awkward issues. A practical, accessible book, it is essential reading for managers looking to improve performance, sales people looking to win more business and for anyone who has to deal with difficult colleagues or the public.

Dealing with Difficult People (HBR Emotional Intelligence Series)

Dealing with Difficult People (HBR Emotional Intelligence Series)
Author: Harvard Business Review
Publisher: Harvard Business Press
Total Pages: 83
Release: 2018-04-17
Genre: Business & Economics
ISBN: 163369609X

Learn how to deal with difficult colleagues and clients. At the heart of dealing with difficult people is handling their--and your own--emotions. How do you stay calm in a tough conversation? How do you stay unruffled in the face of passive-aggressive comments? And how do you know if you're difficult to work with? This book explains the research behind our emotional response to awful colleagues and shows how to build the empathy and resilience to make those relationships more productive. Books in this series are based on the work of experts including: Daniel Goleman Tony Schwartz Nick Morgan Daniel Gilbert This collection of articles includes "To Resolve a Conflict, First Decide: Is It Hot or Cold?" by Mark Gerzon; "Taking the Stress Out of Stressful Conversations," by Holly Weeks; "The Secret to Dealing with Difficult People: It's About You," by Tony Schwartz; "How to Deal with a Mean Colleague," by Amy Gallo; "How To Deal with a Passive-Aggressive Colleague," by Amy Gallo; "How to Work with Someone Who's Always Stressed Out," by Rebecca Knight; "How to Manage Someone Who Thinks Everything Is Urgent," by Liz Kislik; and "Do You Hate Your Boss?" by Manfred F. R. Kets de Vries. HOW TO BE HUMAN AT WORK. The HBR Emotional Intelligence Series features smart, essential reading on the human side of professional life from the pages of Harvard Business Review. Each book in the series offers proven research showing how our emotions impact our work lives, practical advice for managing difficult people and situations, and inspiring essays on what it means to tend to our emotional well-being at work. Uplifting and practical, these books describe the social skills that are critical for ambitious professionals to master.

Coping with Difficult People

Coping with Difficult People
Author: Robert M. Bramson, Ph.D.
Publisher: Dell
Total Pages: 242
Release: 1988-09-01
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 0440202019

Bosses, friends, family members, they've made your life hell -- until now! Based on fourteen years of research and observation, Dr. Robert Bramson's proven-effective techniques are guaranteed to help you right the balance and take charge of your life. Learn how to: Stand up to anyone -- without fighting. Blunt a sniper's attack. Get a clam to talk. Cut off a Sherman tank at the pass. Manage bulldozers. Get stallers off the dime. Move a complainer into a problem-solving mode. Learn the six basic steps that allow you to cope with just about anyone. Reclaim the power the rightfully belongs to you in any relationship!