Shadow Marriage

Shadow Marriage
Author: Paul Dunion
Publisher: iUniverse
Total Pages: 206
Release: 2006-08
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0595388493

The author suggests that nothing strikes a stake through the heart of marital hopes and dreams like the incessant pursuit of happiness, with the therapeutic community often colluding with this cultural imperative. As spouses demand that their partners and their marriages make them happy, a myriad of unfortunate dynamics ensue making the typical marriage unbearable. "Shadow Marriage-A Descent into Intimacy offers both couples and professionals an uniquely in depth perspective upon marriage that can't be found in the pages of any other text." -Dr. George Rogers. Author of Terror, Bonding and Psychotherapy. "Paul Dunion's Shadow Marriage-A Descent into Intimacy collects the many lost voices and broken hearts of modern marriage. When you truly dive into your own story with the tools found in this book, and flush out the teachings and the blessings, your marriage and maybe even your life could be saved." -Jeffrey Duvall. Author of Men, Meaning and Prayer-The Reconciliation of Heart and Soul in Modern Manhood. "Shadow Marriage is wonderfully insightful and fully grounded at the same time! Dr. Dunion has encapsulated many years of experience into his text. You can feel the weight of each sentence as it comes off the page. This book will help anyone gain a deeper understanding of the inner workings of love and relationship." -Cliff Barry. Founder of Shadow Work Seminars.

In the Shadow of Marriage

In the Shadow of Marriage
Author: Anne M. O. Griffiths
Publisher: University of Chicago Press
Total Pages: 354
Release: 1997
Genre: History
ISBN: 9780226308739

Anne Griffiths originally went to Botswana to establish a university course in family law. But independent fieldwork in Botswana convinced her of the central role of the traditional customary legal system that stands alongside the colonial common law of courts and magistrates she was examining in her course. In the first comparative work on these two systems, Griffiths shows how the structure of both legal institutions is based on power and gender relations that heavily favor males. Griffiths's analysis is based on careful observation of how people actually experience the law as well as the more standard tools of statutes and cases familiar to Western legal scholars. She explains how women's access to law is determined by social relations over which they have little control. In this powerful feminist critique of law and anthropology, Griffiths shows how law and custom are inseparable for Kwena women. Both colonial common law and customary law pose comparable and constant challenges to Kwena women's attempts to improve their positions in society.

The Ebk Lyrics of Sunshine and Shadow

The Ebk Lyrics of Sunshine and Shadow
Author: Eleanor Alexander
Publisher: Wiley-Blackwell
Total Pages: 255
Release: 2001
Genre: HISTORY
ISBN: 9780814707555

A New York Times Notable Book of 2002 . Sexism, racism, self-hatred, and romantic love: all figure in prominently in this scholarly-but nicely hard-boiled-discussion of the bond between the famous Paul Laurence Dunbar and his wife Alice. Eleanor Alexander's analysis of turn-of-the-twentieth-century black marriage is required reading for every student of American, especially African-American, heterosexual relationships.. OCoNell Painter, Edwards Professor of American History, Princeton University, Author of Sojourner Truth, A Life, A Symbol. Rich in documentation and generous in analysis, Lyrics of Sunshine and Shadow advances our understanding of late nineteenth- and early twentieth-century African American social and cultural history in compelling and unexpected ways. By exposing the devastating consequences of unequal power dynamics and gender relations in the union of the celebrated writers, Paul Laurence Dunbar and Alice Ruth Moore, and by examining the hidden underside of the Dunbars' storybook romance where alcohol, sex, and violence prove fatal, Eleanor Alexander produces a provocative, nuanced interpretation of late Victorian courtship and marriage, of post-emancipation racial respectability and class mobility, of pre-modern sexual rituals and color conventions in an emergent elite black society.. OCoThadious M. Davis, Vanderbilt University. Eleanor Alexander's vivid account of the most famous black writer of his day, Paul Laurence Dunbar, and his wife Alice, illuminates the world of the African American literati at the opening of the twentieth century. The Dunbars' fairy-tale romance ended abruptly, when Alice walked out on her alcoholic, abusive spouse. Alexander's access to scores of intimate letters and her sensitive interpretation of the Dunbars mercurial highs and lows reveal the tragic consequences of mixing alcohol, ambition and amour. The Dunbars were precursors for another doomed duo: Scott and Zelda Fitzgerald. Alexander's poignant story of the Dunbars sheds important light on love and violence among DuBois's talented tenth.. OCoCatherine Clinton, author of Fanny Kemble's Civil Wars. Lyrics of Sunshine and Shadow debunks Dunbar myths... Lyrics asks us to consider the ways in which racism and sexism operate together.. OCo The Crisis On February 10, 1906, Alice Ruth Moore, estranged wife of renowned early twentieth-century poet Paul Laurence Dunbar, boarded a streetcar, settled comfortably into her seat, and opened her newspaper to learn of her husband's death the day before. Paul Laurence Dunbar, son of former slaves, whom Frederick Douglass had dubbed the most promising young colored man in America, was dead from tuberculosis at the age of 33. Lyrics of Sunshine and Shadow traces the tempestuous romance of America's most noted African-American literary couple. Drawing on a variety of love letters, diaries, journals, and autobiographies, Eleanor Alexander vividly recounts Dunbar's and Moore's tumultuous affair, from a courtship conducted almost entirely through letters and an elopement brought on by Dunbar's brutal, drunken rape of Moore, through their passionate marriage and its eventual violent dissolution in 1902. Moore, once having left Dunbar, rejected his every entreaty to return to him, responding to his many letters only once, with a blunt, one-word telegram (No). This is a remarkable story of tragic romance among African-American elites struggling to define themselves and their relationships within the context of post-slavery America. As such, it provides a timely examination of the ways in which cultural ideology and politics shape and complicate conceptions of romantic love."

Romancing the Shadow

Romancing the Shadow
Author: Connie Zweig
Publisher: Wellspring/Ballantine
Total Pages: 373
Release: 1999-02-02
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 0345417402

Beneath the social mask we wear every day, we have a hidden shadow side: an impulsive, wounded, sad, or isolated part that we generally try to ignore, but which can erupt in hurtful ways. As therapists Connie Zweig and Steve Wolf show in this landmark book, the shadow can actually be a source of emotional richness and vitality, and acknowledging it can be a pathway to healing and an authentic life. "Romancing the shadow"--meeting your dark side, beginning to understand its unconscious messages, and learning to use its powerful energies in productive ways--is the challenging and exciting soul work that Zweig and Wolf offer in this practical, rewarding guide. Drawing on the timeless teachings of Carl Jung and compelling stories from their clinical practices, Zweig and Wolf reveal how the shadow guides your choices in love, sex, marriage, friendship, work, and family life. With their innovative method, you can uncover the unique patterns and purpose of your shadow and learn to defuse negative emotions; reclaim forbidden or lost feelings; achieve greater self-acceptance; heal betrayal; reimagine and re-create relationships; cultivate compassion for others; renew creative expressions; and find purpose in your suffering. The shadow knows why good people sometimes do bad things. Romancing the shadow and learning to read the messages it encodes in daily life can deepen your consciousness, imagination, and soul.

Marrying for a Future

Marrying for a Future
Author: Sidharthan Maunaguru
Publisher: University of Washington Press
Total Pages: 204
Release: 2019-03-27
Genre: History
ISBN: 0295745428

The civil war between the Sri Lankan state and Tamil militants, which ended in 2009, lasted more than three decades and led to mass migration, mainly to India, Canada, England, and continental Europe. In Marrying for a Future, Sidharthan Maunaguru argues that the social institution of marriage has emerged as a critical means of building alliances between dispersed segments of Tamil communities, allowing scattered groups to reunite across national borders. Maunaguru explores how these fragmented communities were rekindled by connections fostered by key participants in and elements of the marriage process, such as wedding photographers, marriage brokers, legal documents, and transit places. Marrying for a Future contributes to transnational and diaspora marriage studies by looking at the temporary spaces through which migrants and refugees travel in addition to their home and host countries. It provides a new conceptual framework for studies on kinship and marriage and addresses a community that has been separated across borders as a result of war.

Marriage: Naked but Not Ashamed

Marriage: Naked but Not Ashamed
Author: Dr. Gabriel Owoso
Publisher: Xlibris Corporation
Total Pages: 88
Release: 2012-04-18
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1469148803

Getting married, staying married and being happily married are three disconnected realities for many couples all over the world. A cocktail of wrong attitudes, inappropriate postures and unwholesome speech has progressively turned many marriages from something to be enjoyed into something to be endured with spiritual, emotional and even physical scars to show for it. Recognizing God as the author of marriage and the Bible as the most authentic guide on marriage, this book, together with the others in the series, are devoted to amplifying simple but profound biblical principles that are divinely designed by God to guarantee success and joy in marriage. This particular book, Naked but not Ashamed, is based principally on the teachings on marriage as contained in Genesis, the First Book of the Holy Bible. It focuses on how to dethrone secrecy, deceitfulness, hypocrisy, discord, and mockery, whilst enthroning transparency, sincerity, trust, togetherness and mutual understanding (that is, enthroning naked but not ashamed) in a marital relationship. This book is for you If marriage is a futuristic project for you but you want to understand how it works before you jump in; If you are about to marry and you want to get it right from the first day; If you are already married and you want your marriage to be transformed from bitter endurance to sweet enjoyment; or from sweet to sweeter; If you are a marriage counselor; If you are a pastor or a minister in the service of God.

Creating a Marriage

Creating a Marriage
Author: James Greteman
Publisher: Paulist Press
Total Pages: 116
Release: 1993
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 9780809133932

Longtime counselor James Greteman weaves tales of married couples at various stages of their relationships with insightful descriptions and analyses of the experience. Acting as both a preparation book and a resource for "young couples", this work has a deep Christian resonance that cuts across the borders of all denominations.

The Inner Marriage

The Inner Marriage
Author: Elliott Saxby
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Total Pages: 236
Release: 2022-11-08
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1644116057

How to integrate and evolve your inner masculine and feminine • Explains polarity work as a tool to heal trauma, become less judgmental, and develop a more integrated relationship with ourselves and others • Explores 44 common traits of mature and immature masculine and feminine expressions, explaining how to evolve unhealthy expressions into healthy ones • Offers simple yet profound methods for evolving your inner masculine and feminine, as well as healing the shadow Polarity work allows us to balance, evolve, and integrate the masculine and feminine energies within our personality to create an inner union that supports the release and transformation of trauma on the cellular and soul level. It is a holistic practice that leads to the embodiment of both what we choose and who we really are. Fusing ancient Vedic knowledge and Western psychology with Tantric and Taoist wisdom, Elliott Saxby offers simple yet profound methods for evolving our inner masculine and feminine as well as healing the shadow side of these expressions. The Inner Marriage explores sexuality and desire through polarity work and the need to realign our physical, mental, and emotional bodies to generate power through our sexuality. Using the polarity framework in relation to universal laws, this practical guide off ers maps and exercises that invite us to evolve, harmonize, and integrate opposing energies. An invaluable tool in integrative and non-dual therapy and the development of emotional intelligence.