CHAPTER THREE FEARS Have you ever found yourself convincing yourself why you should not embark on some new enterprise or another. How often do you do this, is it a habit with you. In other words you are not in the habit of always telling yourself why you should try a lot of new ventures, rather you do the opposite and worse still you even do it to your friends. You always discourage your friends from trying something new and you may not even know it seeing it has become such a part of you. Did you know this is based on your inner fears? Do not worry because we all have them and it is because so much garbage has been programmed into our lives over the years from our birth by society or by bad influence and it continues to happen everyday. It is reality for you when you have lived a certain experience, no one can tell you it did not happen when it happened to you. Let us look at an example of how our mind convinces us even when we may not be very conscious it is happening. Did you know that as real as something may seem to you, it may also be a lie in fact most of the time when there is no factual evidence to disprove it then it is a lie and we buy into this lie. You had an opportunity to get involved with a jewelry business. You are excited about it because of the manner it was presented to you. Then your mind goes to work on you (fear) you begin to see yourself having to wear this jewelry as part of your advertising. You know the compliments you have received on how beautiful they wear on you especially how you accessorize with them so you are now getting used to this life style and feel you should keep most of what you should be selling...it is not free. So your mind is telling you at this point of how much money you are loosing while selling this jewelry. It tells you how much you have purchased for yourself and how much you have actually sold. Mind you, you have not yet started this business but it has been presented to you and you do love it because you love jewelry. Now having rehearsed allthe above scenario in your mind you have convinced yourself why you should not even try it much less do it. Then your mind reminds you of the last thing you sold (coffee) real gourmet coffee. You drank so much coffee with your family and ended up with even much more in your pantry. Most parties you got invited to, you would take coffee as your party gift. You made a little sale but somehow it did not go quite as you anticipated to your dismay. At some point your friends stopped inviting you to their parties so you would stop giving them your gift of gourmet coffee. It was disaster and you do not plan on trying it again. Wow! If I were your friend or you I am convinced already, I will certainly not try it. But think about the word TRY. How convincing is that word. TRY is a word we often use when we are not sure of something so we say I will TRY. But we do not feel strongly about it so we should really not bother at all till we are convinced it is something we want to do. It is much more affirmative when we say I will DO this or that. From the get go we are convinced it is something we like and are willing to put our all into it. There is no FEAR there. This is exactly how quickly we buy into lies as a result of the fears we harbor and I will go into it later on in this chapter to talk to you about the root cause of FEAR. As soon as you recognize it you will be delivered from it through a simple prayer. Let us look at Amy and Pam two good friends in their 5th grade both 11years old. It is the beginning of summer and their families were both planning summer vacation, but they will be driving to their location out of state to see wonderful sites and have a great family time and some adventure too. Both Amy and Pam decided they wanted to make some vacation money so they can spend it on shopping for their friends and themselves in buying souvenirs and some memorabilia they can show off for having had a great summer. They knew their pocke