Escape from Intimacy

Escape from Intimacy
Author: Anne Wilson Schaef
Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
Total Pages: 176
Release: 1989
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 9780062548603

Schaef investigates "sexual anorexia", sexual violence, the role of shame and guilt, the role of self-esteem, the myth of the cosmic mate, relationship as "fix", and how these beliefs translate into an avoidance of intimacy. A 12-step program for recovery is offered.

Wired for Intimacy

Wired for Intimacy
Author: William M. Struthers
Publisher: ReadHowYouWant.com
Total Pages: 302
Release: 2010-02
Genre: Health & Fitness
ISBN: 1458765555

Pornography is powerful. Our contemporary culture as been pornified, and it shapes our assumptions about identity, sexuality, the value of women and the nature of relationships. Countless Christian men struggle with the addictive power of porn. But common spiritual approaches of more prayer and accountability groups are often of limited help. In this book neuroscientist and researcher William Struthers explains how pornography affects the male brain and what we can do about it. Because we are embodied beings, viewing pornography changes how the brain works, how we form memories and make attachments. By better understanding the biological realities of our sexual development, we can cultivate healthier sexual perspectives and interpersonal relationships. Struthers exposes false assumptions and casts a vision for a redeemed masculinity, showing how our sexual longings can actually propel us toward sanctification and holiness in our bodies. With insights for both married and single men alike, this book offers hope for freedom from pornography.

Pop Song

Pop Song
Author: Larissa Pham
Publisher: Catapult
Total Pages: 288
Release: 2021-05-04
Genre: Biography & Autobiography
ISBN: 1646220277

"A warm and expansive portrait of a woman’s mind that feels at once singular and universal," this collection of essays interweaves commentary on modern life, feminism, art, and sex with the author's own experiences of obsession, heartbreak, and vulnerability (BuzzFeed). Like a song that feels written just for you, Larissa Pham's debut work of nonfiction captures the imagination and refuses to let go. Pop Song is a book about love and about falling in love—with a place, or a painting, or a person—and the joy and terror inherent in the experience of that love. Plumbing the well of culture for clues and patterns about love and loss—from Agnes Martin's abstract paintings to James Turrell's transcendent light works, and Anne Carson's Eros the Bittersweet to Frank Ocean's Blonde—Pham writes of her youthful attempts to find meaning in travel, sex, drugs, and art, before sensing that she might need to turn her gaze upon herself. Pop Song is also a book about distances, near and far. As she travels from Taos, New Mexico, to Shanghai, China and beyond, Pham meditates on the miles we are willing to cover to get away from ourselves, or those who hurt us, and the impossible gaps that can exist between two people sharing a bed. Pop Song is a book about all the routes by which we might escape our own needs before finally finding a way home. There is heartache in these pages, but Pham's electric ways of seeing create a perfectly fractured portrait of modern intimacy that is triumphant in both its vulnerability and restlessness. "Each of the essays in this debut collection reads like a mini-memoir . . . in which the author reflects on her experiences of young love, trauma, and transcendence through discussions of art and music . . . with an intimacy that is at once tender and expansive." —New York magazine

When Society Becomes an Addict

When Society Becomes an Addict
Author: Anne Wilson Schaef
Publisher: Harper Collins
Total Pages: 172
Release: 1988-04-20
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 0062548549

An incisive look at the system of addiction pervasive in Western society today.

Sexual Detours

Sexual Detours
Author: Holly Hein
Publisher: Golden Books Adult Publishing
Total Pages: 288
Release: 2000-04-01
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 9780312253356

The Startling Truth Behind Love, Lust, and Infidelity At long last, we have a book about affairs that is not about blame. Sexual Detours offers an illuminating-and powerful-portrait of the human psyche that sheds light on the hidden dark recesses of the world of infidelity. Its striking and metaphorical language unravels the secrets behind affairs. This book is for anyone who has ever been enchanted and beguiled by the idea of a romance; entangled in a clandestine relationship; devastated by betrayal; recovering from loss; or even simply hoping to find love and happiness. In short, everyone. We've all thought about having an affair. Who hasn't wondered what it would be like to have a relationship with that special person . . . right next door . . . in the other office . . . or just around the corner? We all crave ecstasy, obsession, excitement, and romance. And we all find intimacy and elusive chimera slipping from our grasp. Sometimes, we look for solace in the arms of a lover and seek a romantic exit on the highway of our lives as we struggle with our dreams and wishes, fears and realities. With insight and sensitivity, Dr. Holly Hein leads us on a voyage of discovery that explores the true meaning behind our sexual detours. She shows us why we do it. How we do it. And what to do about it. Dr. Hein clarifies that an affair reveals more about our selves than about our sex lives; it is more about the chemistry of escape than about sexual lightening. And, ultimately, an affair is more about the betrayal of the self than it is about breaking marriage vows. Every affair has a cover story and carries a secret message written in code-it is as unique as a fingerprint. Dr. Hein explains how to decipher the hidden code and to interpret the true message behind the cover story, repairing the cables of communication and translating the language of the inner world. Vivid case histories illustrate how unrecognized, unexpressed needs often surface in disguise, leading us to take flight and reject what our partner symbolizes as we seek escape in the fantasy of a tryst. Dr. Hein illustrates how an affair conceals the real issues-showing us how to recognize this-and tells us what steps to take in order to have more rewarding intimate relationships. Sexual Detours is a beacon to all who have been touched by the anguish, denial, resentment, guilt, and shame of an affair, encouraging us to emerge from the pain of infidelity and create a self-awareness that will forge the bonds of a lasting intimacy.

Deeper Dating

Deeper Dating
Author: Ken Page
Publisher: Shambhala Publications
Total Pages: 265
Release: 2014-12-30
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0834829924

With exercises, practical tools, and inspiring stories, Deeper Dating will guide you on a journey to find the love—and personal fulfillment—you long for Lose weight. Be confident. Keep your partner guessing. At the end of the day, this soulless approach to dating doesn't lead to love but to insecurity and desperation. In Deeper Dating, Ken Page presents a new path to love. Out of his decades of work as a psychotherapist and his own personal struggle to find love, Page teaches that the greatest magnet for real love lies in our "Core Gifts"—the places of our deepest sensitivity, longing, and passion. Deeper Dating guides us to discover our own Core Gifts and empowers us to express them with courage, generosity, and discrimination in our dating life. When we do this, something miraculous happens: we begin to attract people who love us for who we are, we become more self-assured and emotionally available, and we lose our taste for relationships that chip away at our self-esteem. Without losing a pound, changing our hairstyle, or buying a single new accessory, we find healthy love moving closer . . . Deeper Dating integrates the best of human intimacy theory with timeless spiritual truths and translates them into a practical, step-by-step process.

Co-Dependence

Co-Dependence
Author: Anne Wilson Schaef
Publisher: Harper Collins
Total Pages: 124
Release: 2012-12-04
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 0062271164

The explosive bestseller that revolutionized our understanding of the addictive process. With a new introduction addressing the backlash to the co-dependency movement.

Escape from Crazyville

Escape from Crazyville
Author: Billie J. Garrett
Publisher: AuthorHouse
Total Pages: 209
Release: 2011-04-01
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1456723316

Escape From Crazyville is a book designed to help women trapped in abusive toxic love relationships to safely navigate their way to refuge. In order to escape Crazyville, one has to adopt a strategic military mindset. You have to be more seriously determined and committed to your freedom than youve ever been concerning any venture of your life. You have to select and involve the people that you whole heartedly trust. It has to be a coordinated eff ort. And even an eff ort wont do. You have to work on your plan to make it fool proof. Th ere are appropriate agencies and support entities in which you can avail yourself to the necessary services, who are waiting to assist you with your escape plan. You can not just decide one day out of the blue that your fed-up, youve had enough and you are simply not going to take it anymore. Getting mad on the spur, packing a few bags announcing, Im done, Im out, is by no means a realistic escape plan. Doing so can quite possibly eff ect a death sentence on you and your loved ones. Be sensible. You did not get into this relationship over night. You will have to strategically plan your work and eff ectively work your escape plan to get free. Th is book is designed to help you successfully chart and navigate that course. It is not a long read. Th erefore study it carefully and read it as many times as need be to establish your great worth in this life and your rights and plans towards Manifest Destiny... Youll be glad you did!

Meditations for People Who (May) Worry Too Much

Meditations for People Who (May) Worry Too Much
Author: Anne Wilson Schaef
Publisher: Ballantine Books
Total Pages: 386
Release: 2013-10-09
Genre: Body, Mind & Spirit
ISBN: 0804151148

Anne Wilson Schaef's bestselling Meditations for Women Who Do Too Much invited women to do less and live more. In this wise and graceful sequel to that beloved book, which is also a collection of daily meditations, Schaef encourages us to give up the worries that trouble so many of our lives. Schaef helps us to smile at our worries and encourages us to re-examine our discontent and our desperate need to control our lives. She ponders with us the true nature of love, solitude, creativity, friendship, sorrow, intimacy, and all the experiences that go into making a life. Best of all, she inspires us to respect our own particular inner rhythm and intuitive wisdom, to live this moment, now, with trust and joy.

The Svetlana Boym Reader

The Svetlana Boym Reader
Author: Svetlana Boym
Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing USA
Total Pages: 557
Release: 2018-04-19
Genre: Literary Criticism
ISBN: 1501337505

Svetlana Boym was a prolific writer, a charismatic professor, a novelist, and a public intellectual. She was also a fiercely resourceful and reflective immigrant; her most resonant book, The Future of Nostalgia, was deeply rooted in that experience. Even after The Future of Nostalgia carried her fame beyond academic circles, few readers were aware of all of her creative personas. She was simply too prolific, and her work migrated across most people's disciplinary boundaries-from literary and cultural studies through film, visual, and material culture studies, performance, intermedia, and new media. The Svetlana Boym Reader presents a comprehensive view of Boym's singularly creative work in all its aspects. It includes Boym's classic essays, carefully chosen excerpts from her five books, and journalistic gems. Showcasing her roles both as curator and curated, the reader includes interviews and excerpts from exhibition catalogues as well as samples of intermedial works like Hydrant Immigrants. It also features autobiographical pieces that shed light on the genealogy of her scholarly work and rarities like an excerpt from Boym's first graduate school essay on Russian literature, complete with marginalia by her mentor Donald Fanger. Last but not least, the reader includes late pieces that Boym did not live to see through publication, as well as transcripts of her memorable last lectures and performances.