There are several thousand, if not millions of married men who are in the closet today. For the majority of these men, dating, marriage, family and careers have kept them there. Fears of separation from family, loss of friends, and loss of job are those things which cause them to hide behind the mask of heterosexual male. These men had little if no opportunity to explore this after adolescence. Many lived in small towns across the country. They have lived with fear, anxiety and guilt. Many successfully hid it from their wives. Some did not. The evolution of the Internet opened many doors for these men. Statistics prove that coming out usually ends in divorce. Not My Father's Footsteps takes a look at one such journey...an odyssey that in less than a year took him from inside the closet to a new life outside. It is a journey of love and torment, and finding love again. It is the story of seedy spas and confinement in the psychiatric ward for a brief time. By going back to his roots, he has been able to come out of his darkness and into the light of being a gay man.