Why We Should Stop Praising Our Children for Being Smart

Why We Should Stop Praising Our Children for Being Smart
Author: Aurora Brooks
Publisher: BabyDreamers.net
Total Pages: 41
Release: 101-01-01
Genre: Health & Fitness
ISBN: 1991116764

Why We Should Stop Praising Our Children for Being Smart is a thought-provoking short read that challenges the traditional approach to praising children's intelligence. In this book, the author explores the concept of a fixed mindset and its potential negative impact on children's development. With a comprehensive table of contents, readers can easily navigate through the various topics covered in this enlightening book. The Fixed Mindset Trap is the first chapter, where the author delves into the dangers of labeling children as "smart" and the limitations it can impose on their growth. The Power of Effort follows, emphasizing the importance of valuing hard work and perseverance over innate abilities. Building Resilience is another crucial aspect discussed, highlighting the significance of teaching children how to bounce back from failures and setbacks. Fostering a Love for Learning explores strategies to cultivate a genuine passion for acquiring knowledge, while Developing a Growth Mindset delves into the mindset shift necessary for children to embrace challenges and view failures as opportunities for growth. The Impact of Intelligence Praise examines the potential negative consequences of constantly praising children for their intelligence, such as fear of failure and performance pressure. Comparison and Competition explores the detrimental effects of constantly comparing children to their peers and the importance of fostering a supportive environment. The Role of Effort Praise emphasizes the significance of praising children's efforts rather than their intelligence, encouraging persistence and embracing mistakes as part of the learning process. Building Self-Confidence focuses on strategies to boost children's self-esteem and belief in their abilities, while Teaching the Value of Hard Work emphasizes the importance of instilling a strong work ethic. Setting Realistic Expectations explores the benefits of setting achievable goals and Emphasizing the Process highlights the value of focusing on the journey rather than just the end result. Developing a Growth Mindset Culture discusses how to create an environment that nurtures a growth mindset, both at home and in schools. The Importance of Specific Feedback emphasizes the power of providing constructive feedback that focuses on strategies and growth areas. Encouraging Self-Reflection encourages children to reflect on their progress and identify areas for improvement. Nurturing a Growth Mindset at Home provides practical tips for parents to model a growth mindset and create a safe space for their children to explore and learn. Implementing a Growth Mindset in Schools explores strategies for educators to foster a growth mindset in the classroom, including teaching the power of "yet" and providing growth-oriented feedback. The book concludes with a chapter on Celebrating Progress, highlighting the This title is a short read. A Short Read is a type of book that is designed to be read in one quick sitting. These no fluff books are perfect for people who want an overview about a subject in a short period of time. Table of Contents Why We Should Stop Praising Our Children for Being Smart The Fixed Mindset Trap The Power of Effort Building Resilience Fostering a Love for Learning Developing a Growth Mindset The Impact of Intelligence Praise Fear of Failure Performance Pressure Comparison and Competition The Role of Effort Praise Encouraging Persistence Embracing Mistakes Building Self-Confidence Teaching the Value of Hard Work Setting Realistic Expectations Emphasizing the Process Developing a Growth Mindset Culture The Importance of Specific Feedback Recognizing Strategies Identifying Growth Areas Encouraging Self-Reflection Nurturing a Growth Mindset at Home Modeling a Growth Mindset Providing Encouragement Creating a Safe Space Implementing a Growth Mindset in Schools Teaching the Power of Yet Providing Growth-Oriented Feedback Celebrating Progress Conclusion Frequently Asked Questions Have Questions / Comments?

Elevating Child Care

Elevating Child Care
Author: Janet Lansbury
Publisher: Rodale Books
Total Pages: 177
Release: 2024-04-30
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0593736168

A modern parenting classic—a guide to a new and gentle way of understanding the care and nurture of infants, by the internationally renowned childcare expert, podcaster, and author of No Bad Kids “An absolute go-to for all parents, therapists, anyone who works with, is, or knows parents of young children.”—Wendy Denham, PhD A Resources for Infant Educarers (RIE) teacher and student of pioneering child specialist Magda Gerber, Janet Lansbury helps parents look at the world through the eyes of their infants and relate to them as whole people who have natural abilities to learn without being taught. Once we are able to view our children in this light, even the most common daily parenting experiences become stimulating opportunities to learn, discover, and connect with our child. A collection of the most-read articles from Janet’s popular and long-running blog, Elevating Child Care focuses on common infant issues, including: • Nourishing our babies’ healthy eating habits • Calming your clingy, fearful child • How to build your child’s focus and attention span • Developing routines that promote restful sleep Eschewing the quick-fix tips and tricks of popular parenting culture, Lansbury’s gentle, insightful guidance lays the foundation for a closer, more fulfilling parent-child relationship, and children who grow up to be authentic, confident, successful adults.

Pride and Joy

Pride and Joy
Author: Kenneth Barish Ph.D.
Publisher: Oxford University Press
Total Pages: 275
Release: 2012-05-28
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 0199976376

Pride and Joy is a different kind of parenting book. In Pride and Joy, child psychologist Kenneth Barish brings together the best of recent advances in clinical and neuroscience research with the author's three decades of experience working with children and families. He shows how a deeper appreciation of our children's emotions offers parents a new understanding of their children's development and better solutions to the problems in their lives. Barish offers advice to parents on how we can restore more joyfulness and pride in our relationships with our children and how we can help children bounce back from disappointment and defeat. He shows how we can repair family relationships that have been damaged by frequent anger and resentment and how we can preserve our children's idealism and their concern for others--how we can raise children who feel good about themselves and also care about the needs and feelings of others. Barish also offers advice on how to solve problems of daily family life--establishing rules and limits, doing homework and going to sleep, winning and losing at games, our children's reluctance to talk to us, their tantrums and lack of motivation, and their addiction to television and video games. He presents down-to-earth recommendations for solving these common family problems--problems that too often erode the joyfulness of our children and our pleasure in being parents. Pride and Joy is both informative and highly practical, and a balanced answer to the extreme methods that too often dominate parenting debates. Few parenting books address the central issues of concern to today's parents while also offering parents as much day-to-day advice.

If I Have to Tell You One More Time...

If I Have to Tell You One More Time...
Author: Amy McCready
Publisher: TarcherPerigee
Total Pages: 322
Release: 2012-08-30
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0399160590

Draws on the author's Positive Parenting Solutions online course to explain how to correct negative behaviors in children, introducing the psychological theories of Alfred Adler on using empowerment to promote healthy child development.

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
Author: Adele Faber
Publisher: Harper Collins
Total Pages: 306
Release: 1999-10
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0380811960

You Can Stop Fighting With Your Chidren! Here is the bestselling book that will give you the know–how you need to be more effective with your children and more supportive of yourself. Enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, the down–to–earth, respectful approach of Faber and Mazlish makes relationships with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding. Their methods of communication, illustrated with delightful cartoons showing the skills in action, offer innovative ways to solve common problems.

Mindset

Mindset
Author: Carol S. Dweck
Publisher: Ballantine Books
Total Pages: 322
Release: 2007-12-26
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 0345472322

From the renowned psychologist who introduced the world to “growth mindset” comes this updated edition of the million-copy bestseller—featuring transformative insights into redefining success, building lifelong resilience, and supercharging self-improvement. “Through clever research studies and engaging writing, Dweck illuminates how our beliefs about our capabilities exert tremendous influence on how we learn and which paths we take in life.”—Bill Gates, GatesNotes “It’s not always the people who start out the smartest who end up the smartest.” After decades of research, world-renowned Stanford University psychologist Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D., discovered a simple but groundbreaking idea: the power of mindset. In this brilliant book, she shows how success in school, work, sports, the arts, and almost every area of human endeavor can be dramatically influenced by how we think about our talents and abilities. People with a fixed mindset—those who believe that abilities are fixed—are less likely to flourish than those with a growth mindset—those who believe that abilities can be developed. Mindset reveals how great parents, teachers, managers, and athletes can put this idea to use to foster outstanding accomplishment. In this edition, Dweck offers new insights into her now famous and broadly embraced concept. She introduces a phenomenon she calls false growth mindset and guides people toward adopting a deeper, truer growth mindset. She also expands the mindset concept beyond the individual, applying it to the cultures of groups and organizations. With the right mindset, you can motivate those you lead, teach, and love—to transform their lives and your own.

Psychological Perspectives on Praise

Psychological Perspectives on Praise
Author: Eddie Brummelman
Publisher: Routledge
Total Pages: 177
Release: 2020-07-20
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 1000166333

Praise is perhaps the most widely used technique to influence others. When used appropriately, praise can motivate people, make them feel better, and improve their social relationships. Often, however, praise fails to work as intended and may even cause harm. Psychological Perspectives on Praise reviews and integrates psychological theory and research to provide an overarching perspective on praise. With contributions from leading scholars in the field, this book amalgamates diverse theoretical and empirical perspectives on praise. The book starts with providing an overview of prominent theories that seek to explain the effects of praise, including self-enhancement theory, self-verification theory, attribution theory, and self-determination theory. It then discusses several lines of empirical research on how praise impacts competence and motivation, self-perceptions (e.g., self-esteem and narcissism), and social relationships. It does so in a range of contexts, including children’s learning at school, employees’ commitment at work, and people’s behavior within romantic relationships. The book concludes by showing how praise can be understood in its developmental and cultural context. Revealing that praise is a message rich in information about ourselves and our social environments, this book will be of interest to social, organizational, personality, developmental, and educational psychologists; students in psychology and related disciplines; and practitioners including teachers, managers, and counselors who use praise in their daily practice.

Brain Rules for Baby (Updated and Expanded)

Brain Rules for Baby (Updated and Expanded)
Author: John Medina
Publisher: Pear Press
Total Pages: 338
Release: 2014-04-22
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0983263396

What’s the single most important thing you can do during pregnancy? What does watching TV do to a child’s brain? What’s the best way to handle temper tantrums? Scientists know. In his New York Times bestseller Brain Rules, Dr. John Medina showed us how our brains really work—and why we ought to redesign our workplaces and schools. Now, in Brain Rules for Baby, he shares what the latest science says about how to raise smart and happy children from zero to five. This book is destined to revolutionize parenting. Just one of the surprises: The best way to get your children into the college of their choice? Teach them impulse control. Brain Rules for Baby bridges the gap between what scientists know and what parents practice. Through fascinating and funny stories, Medina, a developmental molecular biologist and dad, unravels how a child’s brain develops – and what you can do to optimize it. You will view your children—and how to raise them—in a whole new light. You’ll learn: Where nature ends and nurture begins Why men should do more household chores What you do when emotions run hot affects how your baby turns out, because babies need to feel safe above all TV is harmful for children under 2 Your child’s ability to relate to others predicts her future math performance Smart and happy are inseparable. Pursuing your child’s intellectual success at the expense of his happiness achieves neither Praising effort is better than praising intelligence The best predictor of academic performance is not IQ. It’s self-control What you do right now—before pregnancy, during pregnancy, and through the first five years—will affect your children for the rest of their lives. Brain Rules for Baby is an indispensable guide.

How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes

How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes
Author: Melinda Wenner Moyer
Publisher: Penguin
Total Pages: 353
Release: 2022-06-21
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0593086953

How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes is a clear, actionable, sometimes humorous (but always science-based) guide for parents on how to shape their kids into honest, kind, generous, confident, independent, and resilient people...who just might save the world one day. As an award-winning science journalist, Melinda Wenner Moyer was regularly asked to investigate and address all kinds of parenting questions: how to potty train, when and whether to get vaccines, and how to help kids sleep through the night. But as Melinda's children grew, she found that one huge area was ignored in the realm of parenting advice: how do we make sure our kids don't grow up to be assholes? On social media, in the news, and from the highest levels of government, kids are increasingly getting the message that being selfish, obnoxious and cruel is okay. Hate crimes among children and teens are rising, while compassion among teens has been dropping. We know, of course, that young people have the capacity for great empathy, resilience, and action, and we all want to bring up kids who will help build a better tomorrow. But how do we actually do this? How do we raise children who are kind, considerate, and ethical inside and outside the home, who will grow into adults committed to making the world a better place? How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes is a deeply researched, evidence-based primer that provides a fresh, often surprising perspective on parenting issues, from toddlerhood through the teenage years. First, Melinda outlines the traits we want our children to possess—including honesty, generosity, and antiracism—and then she provides scientifically-based strategies that will help parents instill those characteristics in their kids. Learn how to raise the kind of kids you actually want to hang out with—and who just might save the world.

NurtureShock

NurtureShock
Author: Po Bronson
Publisher: Twelve
Total Pages: 254
Release: 2009-09-03
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 0446563323

In a world of modern, involved, caring parents, why are so many kids aggressive and cruel? Where is intelligence hidden in the brain, and why does that matter? Why do cross-racial friendships decrease in schools that are more integrated? If 98% of kids think lying is morally wrong, then why do 98% of kids lie? What's the single most important thing that helps infants learn language? NurtureShock is a groundbreaking collaboration between award-winning science journalists Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman. They argue that when it comes to children, we've mistaken good intentions for good ideas. With impeccable storytelling and razor-sharp analysis, they demonstrate that many of modern society's strategies for nurturing children are in fact backfiring--because key twists in the science have been overlooked. Nothing like a parenting manual, the authors' work is an insightful exploration of themes and issues that transcend children's (and adults') lives.