Guyland

Guyland
Author: Michael Kimmel
Publisher: HarperCollins
Total Pages: 448
Release: 2018-07-24
Genre: Social Science
ISBN: 0062886509

One of the most eminent scholars and writers on men and masculinity and the author of the critically acclaimed Manhood in America turns his attention to the culture of guys, aged 16 to 26: their attitudes, their relationships, their rules, and their rituals. “Kimmel is our seasoned guide into a world that, unless we are guys, we barely know exists. As he walks with us through dark territories, he points out the significant and reflects on its meaning.”—Mary Pipher, Ph.D., author of Reviving Ophelia The passage from adolescence to adulthood was once clear. Today, growing up has become more complex and confusing, as young men drift casually through college and beyond—hanging out, partying, playing with tech toys, watching sports. But beneath the appearance of a simple extended boyhood, a more dangerous social world has developed, far away from the traditional signposts and cultural signals that once helped boys navigate their way to manhood—a territory Michael Kimmel has identified as "Guyland." In mapping the troubling social world where men are now made, Kimmel offers a view into the minds and times of America's sons, brothers, and boyfriends, and he works toward redefining what it means to be a man today—and tomorrow. Only by understanding this world and this life stage can we enable young men to chart their own paths, stay true to themselves, and emerge safely from Guyland as responsible and fully formed male adults.

Where Boys Become Men

Where Boys Become Men
Author: Fran COLO
Publisher:
Total Pages: 160
Release: 2018-12-05
Genre:
ISBN: 9781790775767

Verbal abuse, physical discipline, grit and testosterone-fueled nonsense; high school at my all-male, religious, military Academy was all of that and much more. Inside the Academy's walls were hundreds of adolescent boys, and without any substantial female presence to reign in our aggressive, crude and disgusting nature, we fought, pranked each other, said and did revolting things, and we loved every second of it. But the real character of the Academy was found in its teachers and administrators. Mostly comprised of ex-military, former athletes, and old school religious instructors, they followed a strict and unforgiving teaching philosophy. But they didn't always discipline us for our inappropriate behavior. In fact, sometimes they joined in, and while students in other schools would embarrass and make fun of each other, our teachers often made fun of and embarrassed us. That's because the Academy was not a place that made any room for political correctness or people's feelings. It was a place designed to prepare us for life. Unlike most of today's schools, which shape this country's youth into entitled little crybabies, the Academy prepared us for the real world. Our coaches and teachers did not celebrate mediocrity. We learned how to handle harsh criticism, humiliation, failure, and adversity, all while learning self-discipline, respect, and how to carry ourselves with integrity. Did we goof off along the way? You're damn right we did, because the Academy was a place that allowed boys to be boys, but as a result, it taught us how to be men. As traditional male behaviors and characteristics get increasingly stifled in today's world of soft and spineless snowflakes, this book aims to illustrate the value such behaviors and characteristics have and the lessons that can be learned from them. The Academy is an example of how allowing such traits to thrive in the proper setting and with the proper guidance can lead to the virtues and fortitude necessary for life. Through a series of insights and short stories, this book takes you on my journey through life at the Academy and how it helped turn me into the man I am today.

Raising Boys to Be Good Men

Raising Boys to Be Good Men
Author: Aaron Gouveia
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Total Pages: 181
Release: 2020-06-16
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 151074942X

"If you are the parent of a boy . . . this is the book you need . . . insightful, enlightened, practical." —Peggy Orenstein, New York Times bestselling author of Boys & Sex From the dad who created the viral tweet supporting his son wearing nail polish, this essential parenting guide shares 36 parenting tips for battling gender norms, bringing down "man up" culture, and helping sons realize their potential. Our boys are in a crisis. Toxic masculinity and tough guy-ism are on display daily from our leaders, and we see anger, dysfunction, violence, and depression in young men who are suffocated by harmful social codes. Our young sons are told to stop throwing like a girl. They hear phrases like “man up” when they cry. They are told “boys will be boys” when they behave badly. The “Girl Power” movement has encouraged women to be whoever and do whatever they want, but that sentiment is not often extended to boys. Just watch the bullying when boys try ballet, paint their fingernails, or play with a doll. But we can treat this problem—and the power lies in the hands of parents. It's not only possible to raise boys who aren't emotionally stifled and shoved into stereotypical gender boxes; it's vital if we want a generation of men who can express their emotions, respect women, and help nurse society back to a halfway healthy place. We can reframe manhood. From Aaron Gouveia, who gained viral fame after tweeting his support for his son’s painted fingernails (and who knows toxic masculinity very well), learn practical and actionable tips such as: Don’t accept different standards for moms and dads Teach boys that “girl” is not an insult and retire phrases like “boys will be boys” Show boys that expressing their emotions and being physical is a good thing Let boys pursue nontraditional interests and hobbies Talk to boys about consent and privilege Model healthy and respectful relationships for boys to emulate Penned with equal parts humor, biting snark, and lived advice, Raising Boys to Be Good Men is the essential parenting guide for raising sons to realize their potential outside the box. ​

How Boys Become Men: Transforming Dragon Spirit Into Courageous Heart

How Boys Become Men: Transforming Dragon Spirit Into Courageous Heart
Author: Ted Braude
Publisher:
Total Pages: 130
Release: 2014-05-01
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 9780983226161

In this wonderfully informative and important book, Ted Braude provides practical steps for parents in helping their children, their boys, become good men. Written in clear language, this book will help any parent fulfill one of the most important responsibilities in life. An amazingly helpful guide, filled with clear practices that work!

Boys

Boys
Author: Rachel Giese
Publisher: Seal Press
Total Pages: 202
Release: 2018-12-11
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1580058752

A vital and sweeping examination of today's "boy crisis," demonstrating the ways in which we raise boys into a culture of toxic masculinity and offering solutions that can liberate us all Whether they're being urged to "man up" or warned that "boys don't cry," young men are subjected to damaging messages about manliness: they must muzzle their emotions and never show weakness, dominate girls and compete with one another. Boys: What It Means to Become a Man examines how these toxic rules can hinder boys' emotional and social development. If girls can expand the borders of femaleness, could boys also be set free of limiting, damaging expectations about manhood and masculinity? Could what's been labelled "the boy crisis" be the beginning of a revolution in how we raise young men? Drawing on extensive research and interviews with educators, activists, parents, psychologists, sociologists, and young men, Giese -- mother to a son herself -- examines the myths of masculinity and the challenges facing boys today. She reports from boys-only sex education classes and recreational sports leagues; talks to parents of transgender children and plays video games with her son. She tells stories of boys navigating the transition into manhood and how the upheaval in cultural norms about sex, sexuality and the myths of masculinity have changed the coming of age process for today's boys. With lively reportage and clear-eyed analysis, Giese reveals that the movement for gender equality has the potential to liberate us all.

When Boys Become Boys

When Boys Become Boys
Author: Judy Y. Chu
Publisher: NYU Press
Total Pages: 244
Release: 2014
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 081472485X

When Judy Y. Chu first encountered the four-year-old boys we meet in this book, they were experiencing a social initiation into boyhood. They were initially astute in picking up on other peopleOCOs emotions, emotionally present in their relationships, and competent in their navigation of the human social world. However, the boys gradually appeared less perceptive, articulate, and responsive, and became more guarded and subdued in their relationships as they learned to prove that they are boys primarily by showing that they area not agirls.a a a Based on a two-year study of boys aged four to six, a When Boys Become Boys aoffers a new way of thinking about boysOCO development.a Chu finds that behaviors typically viewed as natural for boys reflect an adaptation to culturesathat require boys to be emotionally stoic, competitive, and aggressive if they are to be accepted as real boys.a Yet even as boys begin to reap the social benefits of aligning with norms of masculine behavior, they pay a psychological and relational price for hiding parts of their authentic selves. a a Through documenting boysOCO perceptions of the obstacles they face and the pressures they feel to conform, and showing that their compliance with norms of masculine behavior is neither automatic nor inevitable, this accessible and engaging bookaprovides insightainto ways in which adults can foster boysOCO healthy resistance andahelp them to access a broader range of options for expressing themselves."

Boys Becoming Men

Boys Becoming Men
Author: Lowell Sheppard
Publisher: Authentic
Total Pages: 0
Release: 2002
Genre: Rites and ceremonies
ISBN: 9781850784739

The paper in this volume are organized in three parts: scriptural, contextual and theological. The central question being addressed is: how do Christians living in contexts, where Islam is a majority or minority religion, experience, express or think of the Cross? This is, therefore, an exercise in listening. As the contexts from where these engagements arise are varied, the papers in drawing scriptural, contextual and theological reflections offer a cross-section of Christian thinking about Jesus and the Cross.

As Boys Become Men

As Boys Become Men
Author: Mukul Kumar
Publisher:
Total Pages: 230
Release: 2016-03-14
Genre: Fiction
ISBN: 9788129138521

Freedom, friends and fun. That's how most of us remember our college years. But for those studying to get into the coveted Indian Civil Services, college life acquires an additional layer. As Boys Become Men revolves around three such boys, Mihir, Uday and Sandeep, who set out together to crack the Civil Services exam. Narrated by the thoughtful and intense Mihir, this book explores college life, friendship, romance, leaving home and adjusting to a new environment, and describes how negotiating the path between dharma and desire, love and lust, can be tricky. A sparkling story of the bond between a boisterous trio, the book will take you on a journey of discovery, where boys become men, and students become civil servants. In the course the book also ends up telling us what not to do when writing the Civil Services exam. A slice-of-life tale with a 'Mona Lisa' flavour that offers fun and romance aplenty, this book also imparts philosophical truths that will help every young person out to discover life.

Basketball Junkie

Basketball Junkie
Author: Chris Herren
Publisher: St. Martin's Press
Total Pages: 286
Release: 2011-05-10
Genre: Biography & Autobiography
ISBN: 1429924144

As seen in ESPN Films’ Unguarded, a “powerful . . . bracing . . . exceptional” true account of the former NBA and overseas pro’s rise and harrowing fall (NPR Books). I was dead for thirty seconds. That’s what the cop in Fall River told me. When the EMTs found me, there was a needle in my arm and a packet of heroin in the front seat. At basketball-crazy Durfee High School in Fall River, Massachusetts, junior guard Chris Herren carried his family’s and the declining city’s dreams on his skinny frame. He was heavily recruited by major universities, chosen as a McDonald’s All-American, featured in a Sports Illustrated cover story, and at just seventeen years old became the central figure in Fall River Dreams, an acclaimed book about the 1994 Durfee team’s quest for the state championship. Leaving Fall River for college, Herren starred on Jerry Tarkanian’s Fresno State Bulldogs team of talented misfits, which included future NBA players as well as future convicted felons. His gritty, tattooed, hip-hop persona drew the ire of rival fans and more national attention: Rolling Stone profiled him, 60 Minutes interviewed him, and the Denver Nuggets drafted him. When the Boston Celtics acquired his contract, he lived the dream of every Massachusetts kid—but off the court Herren was secretly crumbling, as his alcohol and drug use escalated and his life spiraled out of control. Twenty years later, Chris Herren was a husband, a father, and a heroin junkie, who would flirt with death—and ultimately live to tell about it.

Boys Will be Men

Boys Will be Men
Author: Paul Kivel
Publisher: Gabriola Island, B.C. : New Society Publishers
Total Pages: 264
Release: 1999
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN:

While the women's liberation movement produced dynamic changes in society's assumptions about girls' roles, little has changed about our attitude toward the role of boys. Yet the cycle of violence and oppression will not stop until boys are raised to become part of the struggle to end it. Boys will Be Men is for all parents who have a vision of a society where peace and justice exist; for parents raising their sons in economically disadvantaged communities; for feminists who feel confused about raising their sons, and for parents of color who need to add their sons' strength to their communities.