Voices of Perfectionism

Voices of Perfectionism
Author: Patricia Ann Schuler
Publisher: DIANE Publishing
Total Pages: 135
Release: 1999
Genre: Gifted children
ISBN: 0788188267

Investigates the characteristics of perfectionistic gifted adolescents in a rural middle school, how they perceived their perfectionism, the influences on their perfectionism, & the consequences of their perfectionistic behaviors in the context of their rural middle school experiences. Qualitative & quantitative methods of data collection were employed to gather data from 20 gifted adolescents identified as having perfectionistic tendencies. Semi-structured interviews, record & document review, self-report teacher survey, & participant observation were used to identify factors that may influence the perceptions & behaviors of this population.

Never Good Enough

Never Good Enough
Author: Monica Ramirez Basco
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Total Pages: 292
Release: 2000-03-02
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 068486293X

This practical guide to overcoming the dangers of being a perfectionist--from debilitating feelings of self-doubt to difficulties with other people--shows readers how their perfectionist tendencies can actually help them succeed.

Developing Multiple Talents

Developing Multiple Talents
Author: Douglas Eby
Publisher: Douglas Eby
Total Pages: 218
Release: 2011-09-16
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 9781463663964

This is a brief overview of some of the key aspects of our personality and inner life that can affect how well we access and express creative talents. Especially for teens and adults with multipotentiality. Included are references to creativity research, perspectives of psychologists, creativity coaches and personal development leaders, as well as comments by a wide range of actors, directors, writers and other creative people. A free PDF version of the book is available to purchasers of the paperback.

The Healthy Compulsive

The Healthy Compulsive
Author: Gary Trosclair
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield
Total Pages: 233
Release: 2020-02-08
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 1538132613

Gary Trosclair explores the power of the driven personality and the positive outcomes those with obsessive compulsive personality disorder can achieve through a mindful program of harnessing the skills that can work, and altering those that serve no one. If you were born with a compulsive personality you may become rigid, controlling, and self-righteous. But you also may become productive, energetic, and conscientious. Same disposition, but very different ways of expressing it. What determines the difference? Some of the most successful and happy people in the world are compelled by powerful inner urges that are almost impossible to resist. They’re compulsive. They’re driven. But some people with a driven personality feel compelled by shame or insecurity to use their compulsive energy to prove their worth, and they lose control of the wheel of their own life. They become inflexible and critical perfectionists who need to wield control, and they lose the point of everything they do in the process. A healthy compulsive is one whose energy and talents for achievement are used consciously in the service of passion, love and purpose. An unhealthy compulsive is one whose energy and talents for achievement have been hijacked by fear and its henchman, anger. Both are driven: one by meaning, the other by dread. The Healthy Compulsive: Healing Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder and Taking the Wheel of the Driven Personality, will serve as the ultimate user’s guide for those with a driven personality, including those who have slid into obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD). Unlike OCD, which results in specific symptoms such as repetitive hand-washing and intrusive thoughts, OCPD permeates the entire personality and dramatically affects relationships. It also requires a different approach to healing. Both scientifically informed and practical, The Healthy Compulsive describes how compulsives get off track and outlines a four-step program to help them consciously cultivate the talents and passions that are the truly compelling sources of the driven personality. Drawing from his 25 years of clinical experience as a psychotherapist and Jungian psychoanalyst, and his own personal experience as someone with a driven personality, Trosclair offers understanding, inspiring stories of change, and hope to compulsives and their partners about how to move to the healthy end of the compulsive spectrum.

The Voice of Shame

The Voice of Shame
Author: Robert G. Lee
Publisher: Taylor & Francis
Total Pages: 412
Release: 2013-04-15
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 1135061734

Shame and shame reactions are two of the most delicate and difficult issues of psychotherapy and are among the most likely to defy our usual dynamic, systemic, and behavioral theories. In this groundbreaking new collection, The Voice of Shame, thirteen distinguished authors show how use of the Gestalt model of self and relationship can clarify the dynamics of shame and lead us to fresh approaches and methods in this challenging terrain. This model shows how shame issues become pivotal in therapeutic and other relationships and how healing shame is the key to transformational change. The contributors show how new perspectives on shame gained in no particular area transfer and generalize to other areas and settings. In so doing, they transform our fundamental understanding of psychotherapy itself. Grounded in the most recent research on the dynamics and experience of shame, this book is a practical guide for all psychotherapists, psychologists, clinicians, and others interested in self, psychotherapy, and relationship. This book contains powerful new insights for the therapist on a full-range of topics from intimacy in couples to fathering to politics to child development to gender issues to negative therapeutic reactions. Filled with anecdotes and case examples as well as practical strategies, The Voice of Shame will transform your ideas about the role of shame in relationships - and about the potential of the Gestalt model to clarify and contextualize other approaches.

Gifted Adolescents

Gifted Adolescents
Author: Paula Olszewski-Kubilius
Publisher:
Total Pages: 49
Release: 2009-10
Genre: Education
ISBN: 9781593634018

Part of Prufrock Press' Practical Strategies Series in Gifted Education, "Gifted Adolescents" focuses on talent development in adolescence, critical issues facing adolescents, and implications for educational practice and parenting. The series offers 25 timesaving books on critical topics for educating gifted learners. Filled with practical information and advice, these books are ideal for classroom teachers, preservice teachers, and graduate students. In preparing this series, the authors have kept the busy classroom teacher in mind. The result is a timesaving introduction to the most important issues in gifted education.

Confessions of a Raging Perfectionist

Confessions of a Raging Perfectionist
Author: Amanda Jenkins
Publisher: Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.
Total Pages: 226
Release: 2013-04-19
Genre: Biography & Autobiography
ISBN: 1414385757

Amanda is a raging perfectionist. She begins each day with a long list. “Keep the house picked up; limit myself to two Diet Cokes; spend special time with each of the kids; work out; pray; avoid sugar; read a chapter in a book about something very important; read my Bible; call my mom.” She determines each day’s worth, and ultimately her own, by keeping track of her stats—pounds gained or lost, stuff accomplished. That is, until God spoke into her life, waking her up to the true costs of her addiction to perfection. Confessions of a Raging Perfectionist is more than Amanda’s confession; it’s a journey of letting go of the subtle but destructive idols of her overactive inner voice and replacing them with God’s truth. Amanda hopes her journey can inspire others to let God dig in to their own lives, uncovering the subtle lies we unconsciously live by.

Perfectly Hidden Depression

Perfectly Hidden Depression
Author: Margaret Robinson Rutherford
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
Total Pages: 261
Release: 2019-11-01
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 1684033608

When your life looks perfect, but you’re silently falling apart… If you were raised to believe that painful emotions are a sign of weakness, or if being vulnerable has always made you feel unsafe, then you may have survived by creating a perfect-looking life—a life where you appear to be successful, engaged, and always there for others. The problem? You’re filled with self-criticism and shame, and you can’t allow yourself to express fear, anger, loss, or grief. You recognize something is wrong, but you’re not sure what exactly—only that you feel trapped and alone. If this sounds like you, you may have perfectly hidden depression (PHD). With this compassionate guide, you’ll begin the process of understanding your perfectionism, identifying destructive beliefs, and connecting with emotions suppressed for far too long. You’ll also find tangible tips for quieting that critical inner voice, and powerful strategies for coping with difficult feelings. Most importantly, you’ll learn that asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength. If you’re ready to stop hiding and start healing, this groundbreaking book will guide you—every imperfect step of the way.

Moving Past Perfect

Moving Past Perfect
Author: Thomas S. Greenspon
Publisher: Free Spirit Publishing
Total Pages: 130
Release: 2012
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1575423871

Perfectionism is about believing that if we can just do something perfectly, other people will love and accept us - and if we can't, we'll never be good enough. That belief is a burden that can negatively affect all areas of a person's life. In this positive, practical book (retitled and updated edition), psychologist Tom Greenspon explains perfectionism, where it comes from, and what parents can do about it. He describes a healing process for transforming perfectionism into healthy living practices and self-acceptance. Parents who want to help their kids move past perfectionism and live happier, healthier lives in which they're free to make mistakes, to learn, and to grow will benefit from this book. In addition, parents who struggle with their own perfectionism - and whose perfectionism takes a toll on the family - will find help for themselves within these pages.

The Perfection Deception

The Perfection Deception
Author: Jane Bluestein
Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.
Total Pages: 314
Release: 2015-08-25
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 0757318258

When Dr. Bluestein would tell someone that she just finished writing a book on perfectionism, she would often hear a whole tirade on shoddy workmanship and terrible customer service. 'If you ask me, we need a whole lot more perfectionism,' one individual insisted