The White Knight Syndrome: Rescuing Yourself from Your Need to Rescue Others

The White Knight Syndrome: Rescuing Yourself from Your Need to Rescue Others
Author: Mary C. Lamia
Publisher: Echo Point Books & Media, LLC
Total Pages: 257
Release: 2021-08-01
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN:

Rescuing others, losing yourself. Are you a white knight? Are you attracted to needy, damaged, or helpless people? Do you feel like your love can heal your partner? Are you overly involved in your partner's problems? Are you hungry for constant reassurance in relationships? Do you make excuses for your partner? Do you try to "save" people from themselves? In legends and fairytales, the white knight rescues the damsel in distress, falls in love, and saves the day. Real-life white knights are men and women who enter into romantic relationships with damaged and vulnerable partners, hoping that love will transform their partner's behavior or life-a relationship pattern that seldom leads to a storybook ending. If this dynamic sounds familiar to you, you may be a white knight; hoping to receive admiration, validation, or love from your partners, but managing only to cheat yourself out of emotionally healthy relationships. It's time to come to your own rescue, and this book can help. With well-written analysis, engaging insight, and salient case studies, The White Knight Syndrome is a much-needed and well-executed guide to understanding and resolving the white knight syndrome in yourself.

The White Knight Syndrome

The White Knight Syndrome
Author: Mary C. Lamia
Publisher: Echo Point+ORM
Total Pages: 262
Release: 2021-08-09
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 1648371299

Break the pattern of losing yourself in other people’s problems with this “outstanding resource and must-read for every compulsive rescuer” (Ronald F. Levant, Ed. D.). Are you attracted to needy, damaged, or helpless people? Are you overly involved in your partner's problems? Are you hungry for constant reassurance in relationships? Do you try to “save” people from themselves? In legends and fairytales, the white knight rescues the damsel in distress, falls in love, and saves the day. Real-life white knights are men and women who enter into romantic relationships with damaged and vulnerable partners, hoping that love will transform their partner’s behavior or life. It’s a relationship pattern that seldom leads to a storybook ending. Hoping to receive validation and love from their partners, white knights only cheat themselves out of emotionally healthy relationships. If this sounds like you, it's time to come to your own rescue. With engaging insight and informative case studies, The White Knight Syndrome is a guide to understanding and resolving the white knight syndrome in yourself.

The Autobiography of F.B.I. Special Agent Dale Cooper

The Autobiography of F.B.I. Special Agent Dale Cooper
Author: Scott Frost
Publisher:
Total Pages: 212
Release: 1991
Genre: Fiction
ISBN:

Beyond the coffee and doughnuts--the real Agent Cooper. Beginning with his 13th birthday, Cooper's autobiography is a unique portrait of a man who is complex and elusive, yet hard-working and generous for a rare glimpse into the private life of the G-Man who captured America's attention.

Grief Isn't Something to Get Over

Grief Isn't Something to Get Over
Author: Mary C. Lamia
Publisher: American Psychological Association
Total Pages: 214
Release: 2022-04-05
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 1433837951

The loss of a loved one can be overwhelming. How do we endure grief? Can we simply forget, or "get over it?" This book explains the science behind bereavement, from emotion to the persistence of memory, and shows readers how to understand and adapt to death as a part of life. Responses to loss are typically associated with negative emotions, traumatic memories, or separation distress, but we grieve because we care. This book demonstrates how negative emotional responses experienced in grief often follow experiences with positive emotional memories. Dr. Lamia emphasizes an understanding and acceptance of post-loss emotions. Grief Isn't Something to Get Over aims to expand our understanding of bereavement, placing it in alignment with how emotions work. Using numerous case examples and personal vignettes, this book helps readers recognize the ways in which emotions are connected to memories and influence our experiences of loss.

What Motivates Getting Things Done

What Motivates Getting Things Done
Author: Mary Lamia
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield
Total Pages: 151
Release: 2017-06-29
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 144220382X

A marvel of evolution is that humans are not solely motivated by their desire to experience positive emotions. They are also motivated, and even driven to achieve, by their attempt to avoid or seek relief from negative ones. What Motivates Getting Things Done: Procrastination, Emotions, and Success explains how anxiety is like a highly motivating friend, why you should fear failure, and the underpinnings of shame, distress, and fear in the pursuit of excellence. Many successful people put things off until a deadline beckons them, while countless others can’t resist the urge to do things right away. Dr. Lamia explores the emotional lives of people who are successful in their endeavors—both procrastinators and non-procrastinators alike—to illustrate how the human motivational system works, why people respond to it differently, and how everyone can use their natural style of getting things done to their advantage. The book illustrates how the different timing of procrastinators and non-procrastinators to complete tasks has to do with when their emotions are activated and what activates them. Overall, What Motivates Getting Things Done illustrates how emotions play a significant role in our style of doing, along with our way of being, in the world. Readers will acquire a better understanding of the innate biological system that motivates them and how they can make the most of it in all areas of their lives.

What Unbreakable Looks Like

What Unbreakable Looks Like
Author: Kate McLaughlin
Publisher: Wednesday Books
Total Pages: 336
Release: 2020-06-23
Genre: Young Adult Fiction
ISBN: 1250173825

"Raw, unflinching, and authentic, Kate McLaughlin's thoughtful What Unbreakable Looks Like carefully crafts a story exposing the vulnerability of underage trafficked girls and what it takes to begin the process of healing from sexual trauma."–Christa Desir, author, advocate, and founding member of The Voices and Faces Project Lex was taken–trafficked–and now she’s Poppy. Kept in a hotel with other girls, her old life is a distant memory. But when the girls are rescued, she doesn’t quite know how to be Lex again. After she moves in with her aunt and uncle, for the first time in a long time, she knows what it is to feel truly safe. Except, she doesn’t trust it. Doesn't trust her new home. Doesn’t trust her new friend. Doesn’t trust her new life. Instead she trusts what she shouldn’t because that's what feels right. She doesn’t deserve good things. But when she is sexually assaulted by her so-called boyfriend and his friends, Lex is forced to reckon with what happened to her and that just because she is used to it, doesn’t mean it is okay. She’s thrust into the limelight and realizes she has the power to help others. But first she’ll have to confront the monsters of her past with the help of her family, friends, and a new love. Kate McLaughlin’s What Unbreakable Looks Like is a gritty, ultimately hopeful novel about human trafficking through the lens of a girl who has escaped the life and learned to trust, not only others, but in herself.

True

True
Author: Erin McCarthy
Publisher: Penguin
Total Pages: 322
Release: 2014-04-01
Genre: Fiction
ISBN: 0425274462

A New Adult novel from USA Today bestselling author Erin McCarthy, for fans of Colleen Hoover! When Rory Macintosh’s roommates find out that their studious and shy friend has never been with a guy, they decide that, as an act of kindness they’ll help her lose her virginity by hiring confident, tattooed bad boy Tyler Mann to do the job…unbeknownst to Rory. Tyler has told Rory that he’s not good enough for her. She’s smart, doctor smart, while he’s barely scraping by at his EMT program, hoping to pull his younger brothers out of the hell their druggy mother has left them in. But he can’t seem to stay away from her, and even when Rory knows she should push him away, something about him makes it nearly impossible for her to resist—even though her heart is at stake… Torn between common sense and desire, the two find themselves caught up in a passionate relationship. But when Tyler’s broken family threatens to destroy his future, and hers, Rory will need to decide whether to cut her ties to his risky world or follow her heart, no matter what the cost…

The Upside of Shame: Therapeutic Interventions Using the Positive Aspects of a "Negative" Emotion

The Upside of Shame: Therapeutic Interventions Using the Positive Aspects of a
Author: Vernon C. Kelly Jr.
Publisher: W. W. Norton & Company
Total Pages: 240
Release: 2018-02-06
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 0393711951

Understanding shame as a signal that things we enjoy are being impeded. There is much more to shame than its reputation as a negative emotional state. This clinical book delves into the role of shame in many complex issues such as personality disorders, anxiety, depression, and addictions. In each example the authors show how an understanding of the positive side of shame can be translated into practical therapeutic interventions.

Freak the Mighty

Freak the Mighty
Author: Rodman Philbrick
Publisher: Usborne Publishing Ltd
Total Pages: 140
Release: 2015-04-01
Genre: Juvenile Fiction
ISBN: 1409591050

Max is used to being called Stupid. And he is used to everyone being scared of him. On account of his size and looking like his dad. Kevin is used to being called Dwarf. And he is used to everyone laughing at him. On account of his size and being some cripple kid. But greatness comes in all sizes, and together Max and Kevin become Freak The Mighty and walk high above the world. An inspiring, heartbreaking, multi-award winning international bestseller.

The Art of Being Human

The Art of Being Human
Author: Michael Wesch
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
Total Pages: 370
Release: 2018-08-07
Genre:
ISBN: 9781724963673

Anthropology is the study of all humans in all times in all places. But it is so much more than that. "Anthropology requires strength, valor, and courage," Nancy Scheper-Hughes noted. "Pierre Bourdieu called anthropology a combat sport, an extreme sport as well as a tough and rigorous discipline. ... It teaches students not to be afraid of getting one's hands dirty, to get down in the dirt, and to commit yourself, body and mind. Susan Sontag called anthropology a "heroic" profession." What is the payoff for this heroic journey? You will find ideas that can carry you across rivers of doubt and over mountains of fear to find the the light and life of places forgotten. Real anthropology cannot be contained in a book. You have to go out and feel the world's jagged edges, wipe its dust from your brow, and at times, leave your blood in its soil. In this unique book, Dr. Michael Wesch shares many of his own adventures of being an anthropologist and what the science of human beings can tell us about the art of being human. This special first draft edition is a loose framework for more and more complete future chapters and writings. It serves as a companion to anth101.com, a free and open resource for instructors of cultural anthropology. This 2018 text is a revision of the "first draft edition" from 2017 and includes 7 new chapters.