Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships

Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships
Author: Patricia L. Papernow
Publisher: Routledge
Total Pages: 247
Release: 2013-06-07
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1136701559

Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships is designed to be useful both to stepfamily members themselves and to a wide variety of practitioners, as well as to educators, judges, mediators, lawyers and medical personnel.

The Smart Stepfamily

The Smart Stepfamily
Author: Ron L. Deal
Publisher: Bethany House
Total Pages: 272
Release: 2006
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 076420159X

Each member has their own unique place in a family. Ron Deal explores the myth of the "blended" family offering practical, realistic solutions for stepfamilies.

One Plus One Equals Ten

One Plus One Equals Ten
Author: Janice Love (R.)
Publisher:
Total Pages: 240
Release: 2013-01-14
Genre: Stepfamilies
ISBN: 9780615695389

A divorced, mother of two, Janice had tossed aside her ideas of marital bliss and become content with being on her own . . . that was until her also recently divorced pastor made it his mission to take her as his new bride. Falling in love with Rev. Bobby Love was easy, but no one prepared the couple for what came after saying, "I do," when blending two homes equated to a stepfamily of ten!With honesty, humor, and compassion, Janice R. Love recounts her experiences as a mom, stepmom, and pastor's wife in One Plus One Equals Ten: A First Lady's Survival Guide for Stepmoms. Tackling tough questions, One Plus One Equals Ten offers real life examples, faith-based inspiration, and practical tips and strategies for both new and struggling stepparents. If you are thinking about dating or planning to marry someone with children, or have already married and are having difficulty adjusting to "living-in-step," this book is for you! Includes Useful Tips and Resources:* Certified Stepfamily Coach and experience-based suggestions and strategies* Relevant and inspiring Bible verses * Over a dozen recommended references for stepparents * Additional pages for journaling and notes* And much, much more!

Secrets to Stepfamily Success

Secrets to Stepfamily Success
Author: Gloria Lintermans
Publisher: Gloria Lintermans
Total Pages: 314
Release: 2010-06
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1605944181

THE SECRETS TO STEPFAMILY SUCCESS offers tools that can significantly lower the alarming 70% rate of step and blended family divorce, helping families evolve into highly nurturing, reliable refuges of warmth, safety, encouragement, strength, caring, and joy. Step and blended families have a unique dynamic with which couples must cope, along with all the other normal challenges of life and marriage. See how these families differ in up to sixty structural and dynamic ways from typical intact biological families--including consisting of two co-parenting homes and ex-spouses--and learn how to successfully recognize and manage these challenges. For most couples, trying to build a successful remarriage can mysteriously bring out their deepest personal fears, longings, shames, and hopes. The key to not only survival, but living this journey well, begins with discovering opportunities to heal and to succeed; it is not about blame or badness. With the right preparation and resources, a multi-home step or blended family can be a stable and solid foundation for co-parents and children. Gloria Lintermans is the author of THE HEALING POWER OF GRIEF: The Journey Through Loss to Life and Laughter, THE HEALING POWER OF LOVE: Transcending the Loss of a Spouse to New Love, THE NEWLY DIVORCED BOOK OF PROTOCOL: How to Be Civil When You Hate Their Guts, and RETCO CHIC: A Guide to Fabulous Vintage and Designer Resale Shopping in North America & Online. Her articles have appeared in local and national magazines, and she is a retired newspaper columnist whose column has been syndicated in English and Spanish language newspapers worldwide.

The Stepfamily Survival Guide

The Stepfamily Survival Guide
Author: Natalie Nichols Gillespie
Publisher: Fleming H. Revell Company
Total Pages: 228
Release: 2004
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 9780800759216

Offers practical solutions to common challenges, including how to alleviate stepfamily stress, apply a united front in discipline styles, and approach co-parenting with grace.

Becoming A Stepfamily

Becoming A Stepfamily
Author: Patricia L. Papernow
Publisher: CRC Press
Total Pages: 449
Release: 2015-07-17
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 1317758153

What determines whether stepfamilies remain together? What helps stepfamilies overcomes the difficulties of remarriage and become mutually supportive family units? How can mental health professionals better support this development? This book brings both clarity and depth to the unique and complex dynamics of remarried families. Patricia Papernow draws on interviews with over 100 stepfamily members, up-to-date research, a solid theoretical framework, and an empathic clinical sensibility to present an insightful model of stepfamily development, the Stepfamily Cycle. This details account of the sages of forming a lasting, cohesive group is richly illustrated by stepfamily members' own stories. Becoming a Stepfamily describes the developmental challenges involved in building nourishing, reliable relationships between stepparents and stepchildren, in the newly married couple, and between different family groups who must learn to live together in a remarried family. Papernow discusses the factors that influence the pace and ease of development, and she provides four full length case studies illustrating the varied paths through the stepfamily cycle to the successful remarried life. The author offers therapists, clergy, school personnel, and others involved with stepfamilies a range of effective interventions, including preventive, educational, and clinical approaches. She provides practical guidance for helping family members deal constructively with the differing attachments of children to their biological parents and stepparents, assisting stepparents as they cope with feeling excluded from the powerful biological parent-child bond, and guiding biological parents torn between their spouse's need for intimacy and privacy and their children's needs for support and attention.

Preparing to Blend

Preparing to Blend
Author: Ron L. Deal
Publisher: Baker Books
Total Pages: 175
Release: 2021-09-14
Genre: Religion
ISBN: 1493433555

A Premarital Guide for Blended Family Couples If you want to enter a blended family marriage well, this is the book for you. Aimed at engaged or pre-engaged couples who have at least one child from a previous relationship, Preparing to Blend offers wise counsel on parenting, finances, establishing family identity, and daily routines for your new life together. Within these pages you will learn how to: · predict common issues · define expectations · create solutions You, your soon-to-be-spouse, and your children will benefit from exercises designed to accelerate family bonding and help you better understand each other. There is even a chapter to help you plan your wedding with your children in mind, so you can build a strong future together. Preparing to Blend is also an ideal premarital counseling tool for marriage coaches, mentors, and pastors wanting to prepare couples for complex blended family dynamics. If you are considering forming a blended family, Preparing to Blend is the resource you've been looking for.

Stepmonster

Stepmonster
Author: Wednesday Martin
Publisher: HarperCollins
Total Pages: 333
Release: 2011-01-21
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0547394314

An honest and groundbreaking guide to understanding the complicated emotions that develop between stepmothers and children. When faced with often overwhelming challenges, what woman with stepchildren is unfamiliar with that “stepmonster” feeling? Half of all women in the United States will live with or marry a man with children. To guide women new to this role—and empower those who are struggling with it—Wednesday Martin draws upon her own experience as a stepmother. She's frank about the harrowing process of becoming a stepmother, she considers the myths and realities of being married to a man with children, and she counteracts the cultural notion that stepmothers are solely responsible for the problems that often develop. Along the way, she interviews other stepmothers and stepchildren and offers up fascinating insights from literature, anthropology, psychology, and evolutionary biology that explain the little-understood realities of this unique parent-child relationship and—in an unexpected twist—shows why the myth of the Wicked Stepmother is the single best tool for understanding who real stepmothers are and how they feel.

The Smart Stepdad

The Smart Stepdad
Author: Ron L. Deal
Publisher: Bethany House
Total Pages: 179
Release: 2011-04-01
Genre: Religion
ISBN: 144121464X

While resources abound for stepmothers, stepfathers are often left to travel a difficult road without clear directions. Ron Deal offers advice for men navigating the stepfamily minefield, including how to connect with stepchildren, being a godly role model, how to discipline, dealing with the biological dad, and keeping the bond strong with one's new spouse. He gives perspective on what the kids are going through and why things don't work the same as in a biological family. The Smart Stepdad provides essential guidelines to help stepfathers not only survive but succeed as both dad and husband.

The Single Girl's Guide to Marrying a Man, His Kids, and His Ex-Wife

The Single Girl's Guide to Marrying a Man, His Kids, and His Ex-Wife
Author: Sally Bjornsen
Publisher: Penguin
Total Pages: 257
Release: 2005-04-05
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1440625271

A funny, honest, and empathetic resource for the novice stepmother on maintaining sanity, solving hair-raising identity issues, regaining a sense of humor, and surviving what you did for love.... What happens when the honeymoon comes to a screeching halt and you're faced with a houseful of rambunctious children, an ever-present ex-wife, and a new husband trying to balance the chaos? This helpful guide includes advice on: • The kids: Adjusting to suspicion, resentment, and biological-parent loyalties • The ex-wife: Living calmly alongside her, whether she's a psycho or the perfect mother • The holidays: Accommodating old family traditions and developing new ones • The sex: Keeping love alive through the kids' bed-wettings and nightmares • The finances: Building safety nets and avoiding financial disasters • The urge to be evil: Accepting it, and then stopping yourself from saying something you'll regret—to him, the kids, or her • Plus an invaluable list of resources, websites, publications, and organizations specifically for the new stepmother