The Self-Mothering Effect

The Self-Mothering Effect
Author: Lady Wake
Publisher:
Total Pages: 154
Release: 2021-11-05
Genre:
ISBN: 9781954920156

The stress caused by abusive or traumatic experiences can affect every aspect of life, making it difficult to feel happy, fulfilled, and maintain healthy relationships. What's worse is that it can be passed on to your children. Through personal experience and thousands of hours of research, author LadyWake has found the missing link. She calls it The Self-Mothering Effect. We all know how powerful and loving a concerned Mom can be when her child is suffering and it is with this sweet intensity that we must mother ourselves if we are to finally heal our childhood trauma patterns. In this book, you will discover that you can trace your current lack of fulfillment, stress, depression, and overwhelm to past traumas; childhood trauma increases the risk of an individual experiencing serious mental and physical health conditions in adulthood; parents can pass their traumas to their children, creating generational trauma patterns and unfair baggage for them to sort through; and you can heal from narcissistic abuse, codependency, and any other emotional trauma. The unique WAAKE methodology offered in this book provides a solid foundation for healing your childhood trauma patterns and preventing them from repeating in your children's lives.

The Emotionally Absent Mother, Updated and Expanded Second Edition

The Emotionally Absent Mother, Updated and Expanded Second Edition
Author: Jasmin Lee Cori
Publisher: The Experiment
Total Pages: 305
Release: 2017-04-18
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1615193820

The groundbreaking guide to self-healing and getting the love you missed. Was your mother preoccupied, distant, or even demeaning? Have you struggled with relationships—or with your own self-worth? Often, the grown children of emotionally absent mothers can’t quite put a finger on what’s missing from their lives. The children of abusive mothers, by contrast, may recognize the abuse—but overlook its lasting, harmful effects. Psychotherapist Jasmin Lee Cori has helped thousands of men and women heal the hidden wounds left by every kind of undermothering. In this second edition of her pioneering book, with compassion for mother and child alike, she explains: Possible reasons your mother was distracted or hurtful—and what she was unable to give The lasting impact of childhood emotional neglect and abuse How to find the child inside you and fill the “mother gap” through reflections and exercises How to secure a happier future for yourself (and perhaps for your children)

Mothering the Self

Mothering the Self
Author: Stephanie Lawler
Publisher: Routledge
Total Pages: 244
Release: 2002-01-04
Genre: Social Science
ISBN: 1134697163

The mother-daughter relationship has preoccupied feminist writers for decades, but typically it has been the daughter's story at centre-stage. Mothering the Self brings together these maternal and daughterly stories by drawing on in-depth interviews with women who speak both as mothers and as daughters. This study examines the ways in which these mothers and daughters participate in their understanding of class, gender, and race locations, both using and resisting them. The result is a fresh start from which to consider the far-reaching implications of this relationship - not simply for mothers and daughters, but in terms of how we understand the shaping of the self and its place within the social world.

The Emotionally Absent Mother, Second Edition: How to Recognize and Cope with the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect (Second)

The Emotionally Absent Mother, Second Edition: How to Recognize and Cope with the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect (Second)
Author: Jasmin Lee Cori
Publisher: The Experiment, LLC
Total Pages: 353
Release: 2017-04-18
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1615193839

The groundbreaking guide to self-healing and getting the love you missed “Years ago, I was on vacation and read The Emotionally Absent Mother. That book was one of many that woke me up. . . . I began the process of reparenting and it’s changed my life.”—Dr. Nicole LePera, New York Times–bestselling author of How to Do the Work Was your mother preoccupied, distant, or even demeaning? Have you struggled with relationships—or with your own self-worth? Often, the grown children of emotionally absent mothers can’t quite put a finger on what’s missing from their lives. The children of abusive mothers, by contrast, may recognize the abuse—but overlook its lasting, harmful effects. Psychotherapist Jasmin Lee Cori has helped thousands of men and women heal the hidden wounds left by every kind of undermothering. In this second edition of her pioneering book, with compassion for mother and child alike, she explains: Possible reasons your mother was distracted or hurtful—and what she was unable to give The lasting impact of childhood emotional neglect and abuse How to find the child inside you and fill the “mother gap” through reflections and exercises How to secure a happier future for yourself (and perhaps for your children).

Self-Mothering

Self-Mothering
Author: Deborah L. Bernal
Publisher: Balboa Press
Total Pages: 245
Release: 2017-07-10
Genre: Biography & Autobiography
ISBN: 1504382226

Raising ourselves from cradle to grave is a big job! Breaking old habits and challenging our cultivated mindsets is difficult. As children we are guided by our parents and teachers, but as adults, who assists us in our development? Who can help us to heal the wounds of our childhoods, repair the brokenness of our adulthoods, and inspire the next chapters of our new lives? While it takes a village to raise a child, it takes a council to raise an adult. In Self-Mothering: My Mothers Council, author and physiatrist Deborah Lee Bernal introduces an active process to help us find heroes, contemporary role models, and personal mentorspeople that we can rely on to help us develop and heal as adults. Through this process of self-mothering, you can choose who motivates you and whom you want to emulate for your own council of mothers; this council can guide you to your destiny, and Dr. Bernal suggests a number of renowned women to follow on this path: Maya Angelou, the lawyer mother; Fa Mulan, mother wit; the biblical prophetess Deborah, the queen mother; Mother Teresa, doctor mom; Harriet Tubman, the godmother; and many, many more. The lives of these women speak volumes and can today reveal a path to your own enlightenment. You do not have to choose these mothers; you can choose the women for your own council of mothers. Because through all stages of our lives, we need our mothers counsel.

The Mother Factor

The Mother Factor
Author: Stephan B. Poulter, Ph.D
Publisher: Prometheus Books
Total Pages: 352
Release: 2010-10-29
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1615920609

Whether it is acknowledged or not, mothers leave an indelible impression on their children. This enlightening book can help readers connect with their past to correct self-defeating behaviors, reach their full emotional potentials, and live happier, more fulfilling lives.

Our Mothers, Ourselves

Our Mothers, Ourselves
Author: Henry Cloud
Publisher: Zondervan
Total Pages: 257
Release: 2015-08-04
Genre: Religion
ISBN: 0310343550

In Our Mothers, Ourselves, Henry Cloud and John Townsend show how understanding how our mothers have profoundly influenced our lives can set us on a path toward wholeness and growth. No one has influenced the person you are today like your mother. The way she handled your needs as a child has shaped your worldview, your relationships, your marriage, your career, your self-image - your life. Our Mothers, Ourselves can help you identify areas that need reshaping, to make positive choices for personal change, and to establish a mature relationship with Mom today. The Phantom Mom The China Doll Mom The Controlling Mom The Trophy Mom The Still-the-Boss Mom The American Express Mom You'll learn how your mom affected you as a child and may still be affecting you today. Our Mothers, Ourselves is a biblical, realistic, and empowering route to wholeness and growth, to deeper and more satisfying bonds with your family, friends, and spouse - and to a new, healthier way of relating to your mother. This book was previously titled The Mom Factor.

Will I Ever be Good Enough?

Will I Ever be Good Enough?
Author: Karyl McBride
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Total Pages: 275
Release: 2008
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1416551328

A resource for daughters of mothers with narcissistic personality disorder explains how to manage feelings of inadequacy and abandonment in the face of inappropriate maternal expectations and conditional love, in a step-by-step guide that shares recommendations for creating a personalized program for self-protection and recovery. 50,000 first printing.

The Emotionally Absent Mother

The Emotionally Absent Mother
Author: Jasmin Lee Cori
Publisher: The Experiment
Total Pages: 0
Release: 2010-09-14
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 9781615190287

Was your mother too busy, too tired, or too checked-out to provide you with the nurturing you needed as a child? Men and women who were “undermothered” as children often struggle with intimate relationships, in part because of their unmet need for maternal care. The Emotionally Absent Mother will help you understand what was missing from your childhood, how this relates to your mother’s own history, and how you can fill the “mother gap” by: Examining the past with compassion for yourself and your mother Finding the child inside of you and learning to mother yourself Opening to the archetype of the Good Mother Allowing friends and loved ones to provide support, guidance, and other elements of good mothering that you missed Through reflections, exercises, and clear explanations, psychotherapist Jasmin Lee Cori helps adult sons and daughters heal the wounds left by mothers who failed to provide the essential ingredients that every child needs. She traces perceived personal “defects” back to mothering deficits, relieving self-blame. And, by teaching today’s undermothered adults to cultivate the mothering they missed, she helps them secure a happier future—for themselves and their children.

The Primal Wound

The Primal Wound
Author: Nancy Newton Verrier
Publisher: British Association for Adoption and Fostering (Ba
Total Pages: 0
Release: 2009
Genre: Adopted children
ISBN: 9781905664764

Originally published in 1993, this classic piece of literature on adoption has revolutionised the way people think about adopted children. Nancy Verrier examines the life-long consequences of the 'primal wound' - the wound that is caused when a child is separated from its mother - for adopted people. Her argument is supported by thorough research in pre- and perinatal psychology, attachment, bonding and the effects of loss.