Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues

Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues
Author:
Publisher:
Total Pages:
Release: 2016
Genre:
ISBN: 9781370976102

As Rod Stewart said back in the 1970's, "the first cut is the deepest". Since Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues focuses on those "first and deepest cuts", it is a program that will take a while to work through completely. This puts a strong focus on experiencing and releasing the emotions of the past and relies heavily on its many audio programs to facilitate the emotional component to that healing process.NOTICE: This Book contains sections that are greatly enhanced by the use of 60+ MP3 complimentary audios that are downloadable separately. Contact the author for more information. See the title page for contact information.Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues is an "Inner Child" approach for grieving abandonment issues and healing the unfinished business of childhood. Since the wounds of unmet childhood needs are emotional in nature, recovery from these wounds needs a healing process emotional in nature. We humans are also meaning-makers and information processors who need to know why and how we are the way we are. That's why Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues is designed with an insight-oriented (cognitive) component as well as an experiential (emotional) component.Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues is an "Inner Child" focused, step-by-step approach for grieving abandonment issues and healing the unfinished business of childhood. Since the wounds of unmet childhood needs are emotional in nature, recovery from these wounds needs a healing process emotional in nature. The program integrates an interactive workbook with approximately 60 MP3 Audio programs that are designed to help release blocked emotions and resolve childhood grief & loss issues. While the audios are not absolutely necessary, they will enhance healing process dramatically. Contact the author for information on how to download the complimentary audios. See the title page of the book for contact information.During the wounding process... the pain that accumulated during the first stage of development was carried forward as a foundation for the work of the second stage... then the combined pain from the first and second stages are carried forward as a foundation for the experience of the third stage, etc. Similarly, the healing that accumulates as you work through the first stage is carried forward as a foundation for healing the second stage... then the combined healing from the first and second stages are carried forward as a foundation for healing the third stage, etc.

Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues

Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues
Author: Don Carter
Publisher: Overcoming
Total Pages: 196
Release: 2012-06
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 9781632877482

Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues is an "Inner Child" approach for grieving abandonment issues and healing the unfinished business of childhood. Since the wounds of unmet childhood needs are emotional in nature, recovery from these wounds needs a healing process emotional in nature. We humans are also meaning-makers and information processors who need to know why and how we are the way we are. That's why Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues is designed with an insight-oriented (cognitive) component as well as an experiential (emotional) component. The program integrates an interactive workbook with approximately 60 MP3 Audio programs that are designed to help release blocked emotions and resolve childhood grief & loss issues. While the audios are not absolutely necessary, they will enhance healing process dramatically. Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues is the second in the four-part Thawing the Iceberg Series by Don Carter, MSW, LCSW.

Thawing Toxic Relationships

Thawing Toxic Relationships
Author: Don Carter
Publisher: Createspace Independent Pub
Total Pages: 194
Release: 2012-09-17
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 9781479325412

Thawing Toxic Relationships is number three of a four part series entitled Thawing the Iceberg. The Thawing the Iceberg Series is designed to address various issues outlined in the author's bestselling book, Thaw – Freedom from Frozen feelings. The other two books in the Series are: Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome and Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues. Thawing Toxic Relationships is a book about healing and co-creating healthy, functional relationships for those who grew up in a dysfunctional family. If you relate to Don Carter's Iceberg Model, would like to have a genuinely happy and functional relationship then this book is for you! Building healthy relationships, a skill that eludes most people who have been raised in a less-than-nurturing family, is the ultimate objective for Thawing Toxic Relationships. Read about the Cycle of Drama, the Chemistry of drama how to save your marriage, improve communication, how to set and maintain healthy boundaries, be assertiveness, identify relationship mind games (Distance and Pursuit games, the Punishment Cycle, the Drama Triangle - and why we play them). Gather the tools and skills necessary to overcome these and many other dysfunctional relationship patterns. Thawing Toxic Relationships - Sample of content • NOTE: All books in the Thawing the Iceberg Series contain the Iceberg Model in the first five chapters so that they stand-alone as a complete work. • Chapter 1: "What the hell is wrong with you?" (p.4) Motivation, Dependency Needs, Iceberg Model • Chapter 2: Anatomy of an Emotional Wound (p.16) Abandonment, Shame, & Contempt - False Self • Chapter 3: The Art of Survival (p.28) External Focus, Impression Management - Invented Self • Chapter 4: Who am I Really? (p.36) Imperfect World & Spirituality - True Self • Chapter 5: Distractions & Dependencies (p.40) Addictions, Obsessions/Compulsions, and Other Issues Sample of Exercises & Recovery Activities: • Workbook Introduction: Separateness & Connectedness (p.46) Distance & Pursuit; Ego-State Functioning • From Section 1.1: Core Issues & Relationships Styles (p.49) Externalizers & Internalizers; Codependents & Counter-Dependents • From Section 1.2: Exploring Your Developmental Stages (p.54) Assessing the Development of Psychological Positions & Relationship Styles • From Section 1.3: Infatuation & Identification vs. True Intimacy (p.65) Why we Hurt the Ones we Love: Cycles of Abandonment, Shame, and Contempt • From Section 1.4: Psychological Sweatshirt's (p.72) Examples of Mixed Messages & Relationship Polarities • From Section 2.1: Structuring Time & the Three Hungers of the Inner Child (p.76) Structure Hunger, Stimulus Hunger, & Position Hunger • From Section 2.3: Games We Play (p.86) Complimentary & Crossed Transactions • From Section 2.3: Distorted Perceptions, Payoffs for Playing Games (p.94) Some Classic Mind Games, Moves, and Payoffs • From Section 3.3: Are You Living Life in Reaction? (p.110) Friend or Foe? - Treating Each Other Like an Enemy • From Section 3.7: Key Relationship Skills (p.119) Communication & Ego-State Functioning • From Section 3.7.6: Analyzing Your Transactions (p.127) Analyzing Communication, Feelings & Emotions

Thaw

Thaw
Author: Don Carter
Publisher: Overcoming (Self Help)
Total Pages: 186
Release: 2011-10-23
Genre:
ISBN: 9781632877604

THAW - Freedom from Frozen Feelings, is a book about the emotional wounds of abandonment, shame, and contempt created by growing up in a less-than-nurturing family. If you experience abandonment issues, emotional flooding, toxic shame, a pattern of dysfunctional relationships, or you help people who do, THAW - Freedom from Frozen Feelings is a "must have". The book outlines the wounding process experienced by those who were raised in a less-than-nurturing family; how those emotional wounds show up in various personal and interpersonal problems in adulthood. An innovative, easy to understand, integrated model of addiction, codependency, enabling relationships, Adult/Child Syndrome and other manifestations of emotional abandonment is presented. Moderate to severe cases of abandonment comes from situations in which the child does not fully or consistently get their emotional dependency needs met such as when the child lives in a shame-based family system. In such families the children get messages of disapproval through constant criticism rather than messages of approval and warmth. A shame-based family system is characterized by the parent's use of shame to provide direction. Children who get their dependency needs met fully on a regular basis will thrive, flourish, and grow at a healthy pace. Life will be good for these kids. In the worst case scenario, kids who do not get their needs met at all will experience a failure to thrive and many will even die from these emotional wounds, also known as original pain of abandonment of childhood dependency needs. When parents do not meet the needs of their children it is not usually because the parents don't love them. Most parents do the best they can. In fact, I cannot count the times I have heard parents say "I try hard to make sure my kids have it better than I did." But wounded people, wound people. Because of this one might ask, "So, why go back and dig all that up again?" This book answers that question.

Thawing Toxic Relationships

Thawing Toxic Relationships
Author: Don Carter MSW, LCSW
Publisher: Speedy Publishing LLC
Total Pages: 183
Release: 2012-09-17
Genre:
ISBN: 1632877511

Thawing Toxic Relationships is number three of a four part series entitled Thawing the Iceberg. The Thawing the Iceberg Series is designed to address various issues outlined in the author's bestselling book, Thaw - Freedom from Frozen feelings. The other two books in the Series are: Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome and Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues. Thawing Toxic Relationships is a book about healing and co-creating healthy, functional relationships for those who grew up in a dysfunctional family. If you relate to Don Carter's Iceberg Model, would like to have a genuinely happy and functional relationship then this book is for you. Building healthy relationships, a skill that eludes most people who have been raised in a less-than-nurturing family, is the ultimate objective for Thawing Toxic Relationships. These three books take the reader into three specialized pathways to healing the abandonment, shame, and contempt outline in Carter's Book Thaw - Freedom from Frozen Feelings Read about the Cycle of Drama, the Chemistry of drama how to save your marriage, improve communication, how to set and maintain healthy boundaries, be assertiveness, identify relationship mind games (Distance and Pursuit games, the Punishment Cycle, the Drama Triangle - and why we play them). Gather the tools and skills necessary to overcome these and many other dysfunctional relationship patterns. Growing up in a moderate-to-severely dysfunctional family does not offer the necessary training to co-create a healthy, happy & functional relationship. Just as Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome heals your relationship with yourself; Thawing Toxic Relationships helps you heal your relationships with those who are most important to you.

Thaw - Freedom from Frozen Feelings

Thaw - Freedom from Frozen Feelings
Author: Don Carter
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
Total Pages: 0
Release: 2011-10-23
Genre: Adult child abuse victims
ISBN: 9781466456402

The author prresents a therepeutic model for dealing with the emotional wounds of abandonment, shame, and contempt created by growing up in a less than nurturing family.--From back cover.

Thawing Addiction

Thawing Addiction
Author: Lcsw Don Carter Msw
Publisher: Thawing the Iceberg
Total Pages: 222
Release: 2018-10-04
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 9781726667388

"Thawing Addiction - The Tip of the Iceberg" is the 5th book in Don Carter's Thawing the Iceberg Series. Addiction comes in many forms and while each of them have their own idiosyncrasies, recovery from them is generally the same process. Carter believes "What works for most people - works for most people!" The more than 200 Twelve-Step programs available today are testimony that what works for addiction is Twelve-Step recovery in the vast majority of cases. But beginning a Twelve-Step journey begins AFTER transition from a lifestyle of addiction to a lifestyle based upon recovery. In Thawing Addiction, the author draws upon more than 30 years of service in the treatment of addiction to outline the most critical issues to be faced during the transition, stabilization, and early stages of recovery. Anyone struggling with any type of addiction will benefit from understanding and addressing these critical issues. Carter lays out the issues in an organized and systematic way culminating with a "Universal Step One" for all addictions. That first step is based upon all of the knowledge outlined in the preceding chapters. As with the other books in the series, Thawing Addiction begins with a presentation of the authors Iceberg Model. Each book then zooms in on a specific aspect such as complex PTSD, childhood abandonment issues, Adult/Child Syndrome, toxic relationships, and in this case treatment and recovery from all forms of addiction including Codependency. In Thawing Addiction, Carter outlines how Codependency is an "addiction to the outside" of one's self. He demonstrates how the signs and symptoms of Codependency follow those same signs and symptoms for any addiction. Don Carter has over three decades of professional experience as a licensed Clinical Social Worker helping people recover from addiction, toxic shame, PTSD, codependency, Adult/Child Syndrome, and the relationship problems resulting from these issues. His Iceberg Model is a 30,000-foot view of the big picture as the model synthesizes Addiction, Codependency, and Adult/Child Syndrome into one systemic model that is easily understood by people who have grown up in a less-than-nurturing or otherwise dysfunctional family. The Iceberg Model is presented in each of the other books so that the reader can start with whatever aspect they are most impacted by without having to read the other books first. In other words, each book in the series stands alone. Thawing Addiction may be the fifth book in the series but if addiction is at issue then it is definitely the one to start with because healing the issues outlined in the Iceberg Model must proceed from the top down. Addiction is at the "Tip of the Iceberg" for many reasons. Most of all, because if one begins working on the most painful issues first, it can and usually does stir up a compulsion to seek comfort and relief the only way the addicted person knows how - by engaging in their addiction of choice. Thawing Addiction is a complete guide to the many critical issues that must be addressed during the transition and stabilization period of early recovery. One must develop a lifestyle of recovery with all the supports in place to achieve abstinence and possess the coping skills and resources to face the deeper issues. The author defines addiction as an unhealthy, primary relationship with an object or activity designed to produce the desired mood swing - on that brings momentary comfort and relief. "Thawing Addiction - The Tip of the Iceberg" presents the issues relevant to anyone in early recovery from any addiction.

Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome and Other Codependent Patterns

Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome and Other Codependent Patterns
Author: Don Carter
Publisher: Createspace Independent Pub
Total Pages: 236
Release: 2012-04-01
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 9781475022711

"...geared toward surfacing the underlying patterns of behavior and limiting beliefs that keep us stuck in unproductive relationships, the original wounds of abandonment, shame, and contempt, and how our subconscious mind adapted to the unique circumstances of our childhood by creating survival skills that now interfere with healthy coping." --P. [4] of cover.

Healing the Child Within

Healing the Child Within
Author: Charles Whitfield
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Total Pages: 216
Release: 2010-01-01
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 0757397573

Dr. Whitfield provides a clear and effective introduction to the basic principles of recovery. This book is a modern classic, as fresh and useful today as it was more than a decade ago when first published. Here, frontline physician and therapist Charles Whitfield describes the process of wounding that the Child Within (True Self) experiences and shows how to differentiate the True Self from the false self. He also describes the core issues of recovery and more. Other writings on this topic have come and gone, while Healing the Child Within has remained a strong introduction to recognizing and healing from the painful effects of childhood trauma. Highly recommended by therapists and survivors of trauma.

Loneliness as a Way of Life

Loneliness as a Way of Life
Author: Thomas Dumm
Publisher: Harvard University Press
Total Pages: 208
Release: 2010-05-01
Genre: Philosophy
ISBN: 067403113X

“What does it mean to be lonely?” Thomas Dumm asks. His inquiry, documented in this book, takes us beyond social circumstances and into the deeper forces that shape our very existence as modern individuals. The modern individual, Dumm suggests, is fundamentally a lonely self. Through reflections on philosophy, political theory, literature, and tragic drama, he proceeds to illuminate a hidden dimension of the human condition. His book shows how loneliness shapes the contemporary division between public and private, our inability to live with each other honestly and in comity, the estranged forms that our intimate relationships assume, and the weakness of our common bonds. A reading of the relationship between Cordelia and her father in Shakespeare’s King Lear points to the most basic dynamic of modern loneliness—how it is a response to the problem of the “missing mother.” Dumm goes on to explore the most important dimensions of lonely experience—Being, Having, Loving, and Grieving. As the book unfolds, he juxtaposes new interpretations of iconic cultural texts—Moby-Dick, Death of a Salesman, the film Paris, Texas, Emerson’s “Experience,” to name a few—with his own experiences of loneliness, as a son, as a father, and as a grieving husband and widower. Written with deceptive simplicity, Loneliness as a Way of Life is something rare—an intellectual study that is passionately personal. It challenges us, not to overcome our loneliness, but to learn how to re-inhabit it in a better way. To fail to do so, this book reveals, will only intensify the power that it holds over us.