Thawing Adult-Child Syndrome

Thawing Adult-Child Syndrome
Author: Don Carter
Publisher: Overcoming (Self Help)
Total Pages: 247
Release: 2012-04-05
Genre:
ISBN: 9781632877468

Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome and other Codependent Patterns is the first in the four-part Thawing the Iceberg Series by Don Carter, MSW, LCSW. All of the books in the series are written to stand on their own as a complete program. The Thawing the Iceberg Series is a set of programs designed to assist in the healing of the emotional wounds outlined in the author's original work, Thaw - Freedom from Frozen Feelings. Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome is geared toward surfacing the underlying patterns of behavior and limiting beliefs that keep us stuck in unproductive relationships, the original wounds of abandonment, shame, and contempt, and how our subconscious mind adapted to the unique circumstances of our childhood by creating survival skills that now interfere with healthy coping. Anyone who has ever found themselves repeating dysfunctional patterns that has cause problems in their life and relationships, and then wonder "Why do I do that?" or "Why am I like this?" is likely to experiencing habitual subconscious programming that has been referred to as Adult-Child Syndrome. Thawing Adult-Child Syndrome and other Codependent Patterns focuses in on the "here-and-now" symptoms of dysfunction in our adult life and relationships. This insight-oriented program helps bring one's "Inner Family of Self" & "Life Script" to the surface so that appropriate changes can be made. The program helps heal the relationship with self, which is based upon the idea that "One cannot have a healthy relationship with others until they first develop a healthy relationship with themselves."

Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome and Other Codependent Patterns

Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome and Other Codependent Patterns
Author: Don Carter
Publisher: Createspace Independent Pub
Total Pages: 236
Release: 2012-04-01
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 9781475022711

"...geared toward surfacing the underlying patterns of behavior and limiting beliefs that keep us stuck in unproductive relationships, the original wounds of abandonment, shame, and contempt, and how our subconscious mind adapted to the unique circumstances of our childhood by creating survival skills that now interfere with healthy coping." --P. [4] of cover.

Old Patterns, New Truths

Old Patterns, New Truths
Author: Earnie Larsen
Publisher: Hazelden Publishing & Educational Services
Total Pages: 116
Release: 1988
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 9780894865398

"Do you respond to situations and relationships in your life today with behavior patterns learned during childhood? Are today's responses causing negative consequences? Is it time to examine yourself, your adult child group, and your recovery program? Earnie Larsen...provides help ...to all of us who are seeking new directions in our life of recovery. Step-by-step, he helps adult children identify the problem areas in their programs, grasp the patterns of their present dysfunction, learn to alleviate feelings of fear and powerlessness, and take personal responsibility for their recovery." -- Back cover.

Thawing Toxic Relationships

Thawing Toxic Relationships
Author: Don Carter MSW, LCSW
Publisher: Speedy Publishing LLC
Total Pages: 183
Release: 2012-09-17
Genre:
ISBN: 1632877511

Thawing Toxic Relationships is number three of a four part series entitled Thawing the Iceberg. The Thawing the Iceberg Series is designed to address various issues outlined in the author's bestselling book, Thaw - Freedom from Frozen feelings. The other two books in the Series are: Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome and Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues. Thawing Toxic Relationships is a book about healing and co-creating healthy, functional relationships for those who grew up in a dysfunctional family. If you relate to Don Carter's Iceberg Model, would like to have a genuinely happy and functional relationship then this book is for you. Building healthy relationships, a skill that eludes most people who have been raised in a less-than-nurturing family, is the ultimate objective for Thawing Toxic Relationships. These three books take the reader into three specialized pathways to healing the abandonment, shame, and contempt outline in Carter's Book Thaw - Freedom from Frozen Feelings Read about the Cycle of Drama, the Chemistry of drama how to save your marriage, improve communication, how to set and maintain healthy boundaries, be assertiveness, identify relationship mind games (Distance and Pursuit games, the Punishment Cycle, the Drama Triangle - and why we play them). Gather the tools and skills necessary to overcome these and many other dysfunctional relationship patterns. Growing up in a moderate-to-severely dysfunctional family does not offer the necessary training to co-create a healthy, happy & functional relationship. Just as Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome heals your relationship with yourself; Thawing Toxic Relationships helps you heal your relationships with those who are most important to you.

When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart

When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart
Author: Joel Young
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield
Total Pages: 267
Release: 2013-12-03
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 1493003968

Behind nearly every adult who is accused of a crime, becomes addicted to drugs or alcohol, or who is severely mentally ill and acting out in public, there is usually at least one extremely stressed-out parent. This parent may initially react with the bad news of their adult child behaving badly with, "Oh no!" followed by, "How can I help to fix this?" A very common third reaction is the thought, "Where did I go wrong--was it something I said or did, or that I failed to do when my child was growing up that caused these issues? Is this really somehow all my fault?" These parents then open their homes, their pocketbooks, their hearts, and their futures to "saving" their adult child--who may go on to leave them financially and emotionally broken. Sometimes these families also raise the children their adult children leave behind: 1.6 million grandparents in the U.S. are in this situation. This helpful book presents families with quotations and scenarios from real suffering parents (who are not identified), practical advice, and tested strategies for coping. It also discusses the fact that parents of adult children may themselves need therapy and medications, especially antidepressants. The book is written in a clear, reassuring manner by Dr. Joel L. Young, medical director of the Rochester Center for Behavioral Medicine in Rochester Hills, Michigan; with noted medical writer Christine Adamec, author of many books in the field. In the wake of the Newtown shooting and the viral popularity of the post "I Am Adam Lanza's Mother," America is now taking a fresh look, not only at gun control, but also on how we treat mental illness. Another major issue is our support or stigmatization of those with adult children who are a major risk to their families as well to society itself. This book is part of that conversation.

Thawing Toxic Relationships

Thawing Toxic Relationships
Author: Don Carter
Publisher: Createspace Independent Pub
Total Pages: 194
Release: 2012-09-17
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 9781479325412

Thawing Toxic Relationships is number three of a four part series entitled Thawing the Iceberg. The Thawing the Iceberg Series is designed to address various issues outlined in the author's bestselling book, Thaw – Freedom from Frozen feelings. The other two books in the Series are: Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome and Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues. Thawing Toxic Relationships is a book about healing and co-creating healthy, functional relationships for those who grew up in a dysfunctional family. If you relate to Don Carter's Iceberg Model, would like to have a genuinely happy and functional relationship then this book is for you! Building healthy relationships, a skill that eludes most people who have been raised in a less-than-nurturing family, is the ultimate objective for Thawing Toxic Relationships. Read about the Cycle of Drama, the Chemistry of drama how to save your marriage, improve communication, how to set and maintain healthy boundaries, be assertiveness, identify relationship mind games (Distance and Pursuit games, the Punishment Cycle, the Drama Triangle - and why we play them). Gather the tools and skills necessary to overcome these and many other dysfunctional relationship patterns. Thawing Toxic Relationships - Sample of content • NOTE: All books in the Thawing the Iceberg Series contain the Iceberg Model in the first five chapters so that they stand-alone as a complete work. • Chapter 1: "What the hell is wrong with you?" (p.4) Motivation, Dependency Needs, Iceberg Model • Chapter 2: Anatomy of an Emotional Wound (p.16) Abandonment, Shame, & Contempt - False Self • Chapter 3: The Art of Survival (p.28) External Focus, Impression Management - Invented Self • Chapter 4: Who am I Really? (p.36) Imperfect World & Spirituality - True Self • Chapter 5: Distractions & Dependencies (p.40) Addictions, Obsessions/Compulsions, and Other Issues Sample of Exercises & Recovery Activities: • Workbook Introduction: Separateness & Connectedness (p.46) Distance & Pursuit; Ego-State Functioning • From Section 1.1: Core Issues & Relationships Styles (p.49) Externalizers & Internalizers; Codependents & Counter-Dependents • From Section 1.2: Exploring Your Developmental Stages (p.54) Assessing the Development of Psychological Positions & Relationship Styles • From Section 1.3: Infatuation & Identification vs. True Intimacy (p.65) Why we Hurt the Ones we Love: Cycles of Abandonment, Shame, and Contempt • From Section 1.4: Psychological Sweatshirt's (p.72) Examples of Mixed Messages & Relationship Polarities • From Section 2.1: Structuring Time & the Three Hungers of the Inner Child (p.76) Structure Hunger, Stimulus Hunger, & Position Hunger • From Section 2.3: Games We Play (p.86) Complimentary & Crossed Transactions • From Section 2.3: Distorted Perceptions, Payoffs for Playing Games (p.94) Some Classic Mind Games, Moves, and Payoffs • From Section 3.3: Are You Living Life in Reaction? (p.110) Friend or Foe? - Treating Each Other Like an Enemy • From Section 3.7: Key Relationship Skills (p.119) Communication & Ego-State Functioning • From Section 3.7.6: Analyzing Your Transactions (p.127) Analyzing Communication, Feelings & Emotions

Thaw - Freedom from Frozen Feelings

Thaw - Freedom from Frozen Feelings
Author: Don Carter
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
Total Pages: 0
Release: 2011-10-23
Genre: Adult child abuse victims
ISBN: 9781466456402

The author prresents a therepeutic model for dealing with the emotional wounds of abandonment, shame, and contempt created by growing up in a less than nurturing family.--From back cover.

Thawing Addiction

Thawing Addiction
Author: Lcsw Don Carter Msw
Publisher: Thawing the Iceberg
Total Pages: 222
Release: 2018-10-04
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 9781726667388

"Thawing Addiction - The Tip of the Iceberg" is the 5th book in Don Carter's Thawing the Iceberg Series. Addiction comes in many forms and while each of them have their own idiosyncrasies, recovery from them is generally the same process. Carter believes "What works for most people - works for most people!" The more than 200 Twelve-Step programs available today are testimony that what works for addiction is Twelve-Step recovery in the vast majority of cases. But beginning a Twelve-Step journey begins AFTER transition from a lifestyle of addiction to a lifestyle based upon recovery. In Thawing Addiction, the author draws upon more than 30 years of service in the treatment of addiction to outline the most critical issues to be faced during the transition, stabilization, and early stages of recovery. Anyone struggling with any type of addiction will benefit from understanding and addressing these critical issues. Carter lays out the issues in an organized and systematic way culminating with a "Universal Step One" for all addictions. That first step is based upon all of the knowledge outlined in the preceding chapters. As with the other books in the series, Thawing Addiction begins with a presentation of the authors Iceberg Model. Each book then zooms in on a specific aspect such as complex PTSD, childhood abandonment issues, Adult/Child Syndrome, toxic relationships, and in this case treatment and recovery from all forms of addiction including Codependency. In Thawing Addiction, Carter outlines how Codependency is an "addiction to the outside" of one's self. He demonstrates how the signs and symptoms of Codependency follow those same signs and symptoms for any addiction. Don Carter has over three decades of professional experience as a licensed Clinical Social Worker helping people recover from addiction, toxic shame, PTSD, codependency, Adult/Child Syndrome, and the relationship problems resulting from these issues. His Iceberg Model is a 30,000-foot view of the big picture as the model synthesizes Addiction, Codependency, and Adult/Child Syndrome into one systemic model that is easily understood by people who have grown up in a less-than-nurturing or otherwise dysfunctional family. The Iceberg Model is presented in each of the other books so that the reader can start with whatever aspect they are most impacted by without having to read the other books first. In other words, each book in the series stands alone. Thawing Addiction may be the fifth book in the series but if addiction is at issue then it is definitely the one to start with because healing the issues outlined in the Iceberg Model must proceed from the top down. Addiction is at the "Tip of the Iceberg" for many reasons. Most of all, because if one begins working on the most painful issues first, it can and usually does stir up a compulsion to seek comfort and relief the only way the addicted person knows how - by engaging in their addiction of choice. Thawing Addiction is a complete guide to the many critical issues that must be addressed during the transition and stabilization period of early recovery. One must develop a lifestyle of recovery with all the supports in place to achieve abstinence and possess the coping skills and resources to face the deeper issues. The author defines addiction as an unhealthy, primary relationship with an object or activity designed to produce the desired mood swing - on that brings momentary comfort and relief. "Thawing Addiction - The Tip of the Iceberg" presents the issues relevant to anyone in early recovery from any addiction.

Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues

Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues
Author: Don Carter
Publisher: Overcoming
Total Pages: 196
Release: 2012-06
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 9781632877482

Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues is an "Inner Child" approach for grieving abandonment issues and healing the unfinished business of childhood. Since the wounds of unmet childhood needs are emotional in nature, recovery from these wounds needs a healing process emotional in nature. We humans are also meaning-makers and information processors who need to know why and how we are the way we are. That's why Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues is designed with an insight-oriented (cognitive) component as well as an experiential (emotional) component. The program integrates an interactive workbook with approximately 60 MP3 Audio programs that are designed to help release blocked emotions and resolve childhood grief & loss issues. While the audios are not absolutely necessary, they will enhance healing process dramatically. Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues is the second in the four-part Thawing the Iceberg Series by Don Carter, MSW, LCSW.