Thaw

Thaw
Author: Don Carter
Publisher: Overcoming (Self Help)
Total Pages: 186
Release: 2011-10-23
Genre:
ISBN: 9781632877604

THAW - Freedom from Frozen Feelings, is a book about the emotional wounds of abandonment, shame, and contempt created by growing up in a less-than-nurturing family. If you experience abandonment issues, emotional flooding, toxic shame, a pattern of dysfunctional relationships, or you help people who do, THAW - Freedom from Frozen Feelings is a "must have". The book outlines the wounding process experienced by those who were raised in a less-than-nurturing family; how those emotional wounds show up in various personal and interpersonal problems in adulthood. An innovative, easy to understand, integrated model of addiction, codependency, enabling relationships, Adult/Child Syndrome and other manifestations of emotional abandonment is presented. Moderate to severe cases of abandonment comes from situations in which the child does not fully or consistently get their emotional dependency needs met such as when the child lives in a shame-based family system. In such families the children get messages of disapproval through constant criticism rather than messages of approval and warmth. A shame-based family system is characterized by the parent's use of shame to provide direction. Children who get their dependency needs met fully on a regular basis will thrive, flourish, and grow at a healthy pace. Life will be good for these kids. In the worst case scenario, kids who do not get their needs met at all will experience a failure to thrive and many will even die from these emotional wounds, also known as original pain of abandonment of childhood dependency needs. When parents do not meet the needs of their children it is not usually because the parents don't love them. Most parents do the best they can. In fact, I cannot count the times I have heard parents say "I try hard to make sure my kids have it better than I did." But wounded people, wound people. Because of this one might ask, "So, why go back and dig all that up again?" This book answers that question.

Thaw - Freedom from Frozen Feelings

Thaw - Freedom from Frozen Feelings
Author: Don Carter
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
Total Pages: 0
Release: 2011-10-23
Genre: Adult child abuse victims
ISBN: 9781466456402

The author prresents a therepeutic model for dealing with the emotional wounds of abandonment, shame, and contempt created by growing up in a less than nurturing family.--From back cover.

Thawing Toxic Relationships

Thawing Toxic Relationships
Author: Don Carter
Publisher: Createspace Independent Pub
Total Pages: 194
Release: 2012-09-17
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 9781479325412

Thawing Toxic Relationships is number three of a four part series entitled Thawing the Iceberg. The Thawing the Iceberg Series is designed to address various issues outlined in the author's bestselling book, Thaw – Freedom from Frozen feelings. The other two books in the Series are: Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome and Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues. Thawing Toxic Relationships is a book about healing and co-creating healthy, functional relationships for those who grew up in a dysfunctional family. If you relate to Don Carter's Iceberg Model, would like to have a genuinely happy and functional relationship then this book is for you! Building healthy relationships, a skill that eludes most people who have been raised in a less-than-nurturing family, is the ultimate objective for Thawing Toxic Relationships. Read about the Cycle of Drama, the Chemistry of drama how to save your marriage, improve communication, how to set and maintain healthy boundaries, be assertiveness, identify relationship mind games (Distance and Pursuit games, the Punishment Cycle, the Drama Triangle - and why we play them). Gather the tools and skills necessary to overcome these and many other dysfunctional relationship patterns. Thawing Toxic Relationships - Sample of content • NOTE: All books in the Thawing the Iceberg Series contain the Iceberg Model in the first five chapters so that they stand-alone as a complete work. • Chapter 1: "What the hell is wrong with you?" (p.4) Motivation, Dependency Needs, Iceberg Model • Chapter 2: Anatomy of an Emotional Wound (p.16) Abandonment, Shame, & Contempt - False Self • Chapter 3: The Art of Survival (p.28) External Focus, Impression Management - Invented Self • Chapter 4: Who am I Really? (p.36) Imperfect World & Spirituality - True Self • Chapter 5: Distractions & Dependencies (p.40) Addictions, Obsessions/Compulsions, and Other Issues Sample of Exercises & Recovery Activities: • Workbook Introduction: Separateness & Connectedness (p.46) Distance & Pursuit; Ego-State Functioning • From Section 1.1: Core Issues & Relationships Styles (p.49) Externalizers & Internalizers; Codependents & Counter-Dependents • From Section 1.2: Exploring Your Developmental Stages (p.54) Assessing the Development of Psychological Positions & Relationship Styles • From Section 1.3: Infatuation & Identification vs. True Intimacy (p.65) Why we Hurt the Ones we Love: Cycles of Abandonment, Shame, and Contempt • From Section 1.4: Psychological Sweatshirt's (p.72) Examples of Mixed Messages & Relationship Polarities • From Section 2.1: Structuring Time & the Three Hungers of the Inner Child (p.76) Structure Hunger, Stimulus Hunger, & Position Hunger • From Section 2.3: Games We Play (p.86) Complimentary & Crossed Transactions • From Section 2.3: Distorted Perceptions, Payoffs for Playing Games (p.94) Some Classic Mind Games, Moves, and Payoffs • From Section 3.3: Are You Living Life in Reaction? (p.110) Friend or Foe? - Treating Each Other Like an Enemy • From Section 3.7: Key Relationship Skills (p.119) Communication & Ego-State Functioning • From Section 3.7.6: Analyzing Your Transactions (p.127) Analyzing Communication, Feelings & Emotions

Thawing Toxic Relationships

Thawing Toxic Relationships
Author: Don Carter MSW, LCSW
Publisher: Speedy Publishing LLC
Total Pages: 183
Release: 2012-09-17
Genre:
ISBN: 1632877511

Thawing Toxic Relationships is number three of a four part series entitled Thawing the Iceberg. The Thawing the Iceberg Series is designed to address various issues outlined in the author's bestselling book, Thaw - Freedom from Frozen feelings. The other two books in the Series are: Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome and Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues. Thawing Toxic Relationships is a book about healing and co-creating healthy, functional relationships for those who grew up in a dysfunctional family. If you relate to Don Carter's Iceberg Model, would like to have a genuinely happy and functional relationship then this book is for you. Building healthy relationships, a skill that eludes most people who have been raised in a less-than-nurturing family, is the ultimate objective for Thawing Toxic Relationships. These three books take the reader into three specialized pathways to healing the abandonment, shame, and contempt outline in Carter's Book Thaw - Freedom from Frozen Feelings Read about the Cycle of Drama, the Chemistry of drama how to save your marriage, improve communication, how to set and maintain healthy boundaries, be assertiveness, identify relationship mind games (Distance and Pursuit games, the Punishment Cycle, the Drama Triangle - and why we play them). Gather the tools and skills necessary to overcome these and many other dysfunctional relationship patterns. Growing up in a moderate-to-severely dysfunctional family does not offer the necessary training to co-create a healthy, happy & functional relationship. Just as Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome heals your relationship with yourself; Thawing Toxic Relationships helps you heal your relationships with those who are most important to you.

Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome and Other Codependent Patterns

Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome and Other Codependent Patterns
Author: Don Carter
Publisher: Createspace Independent Pub
Total Pages: 236
Release: 2012-04-01
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 9781475022711

"...geared toward surfacing the underlying patterns of behavior and limiting beliefs that keep us stuck in unproductive relationships, the original wounds of abandonment, shame, and contempt, and how our subconscious mind adapted to the unique circumstances of our childhood by creating survival skills that now interfere with healthy coping." --P. [4] of cover.

A Strong and Sudden Thaw

A Strong and Sudden Thaw
Author: Rebecca W. Day
Publisher: Lethe Press
Total Pages: 282
Release: 2008
Genre: Dragons
ISBN: 1590210638

Dragons terrorize a Virginia town, and one young man finds friendship--and love--in unlikely places in this near-future, post-apocalyptic romance from Lambda award finalist Day.

If I Stay

If I Stay
Author: Gayle Forman
Publisher: Penguin
Total Pages: 320
Release: 2009-04-02
Genre: Young Adult Fiction
ISBN: 1101046341

The critically acclaimed, bestselling novel from Gayle Forman, author of Where She Went, Just One Day, and Just One Year. Soon to be a major motion picture, starring Chloe Moretz! In the blink of an eye everything changes. Seventeen ­year-old Mia has no memory of the accident; she can only recall what happened afterwards, watching her own damaged body being taken from the wreck. Little by little she struggles to put together the pieces- to figure out what she has lost, what she has left, and the very difficult choice she must make. Heartwrenchingly beautiful, this will change the way you look at life, love, and family. Now a major motion picture starring Chloe Grace Moretz, Mia's story will stay with you for a long, long time.

Thawing Addiction

Thawing Addiction
Author: Lcsw Don Carter Msw
Publisher: Thawing the Iceberg
Total Pages: 222
Release: 2018-10-04
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 9781726667388

"Thawing Addiction - The Tip of the Iceberg" is the 5th book in Don Carter's Thawing the Iceberg Series. Addiction comes in many forms and while each of them have their own idiosyncrasies, recovery from them is generally the same process. Carter believes "What works for most people - works for most people!" The more than 200 Twelve-Step programs available today are testimony that what works for addiction is Twelve-Step recovery in the vast majority of cases. But beginning a Twelve-Step journey begins AFTER transition from a lifestyle of addiction to a lifestyle based upon recovery. In Thawing Addiction, the author draws upon more than 30 years of service in the treatment of addiction to outline the most critical issues to be faced during the transition, stabilization, and early stages of recovery. Anyone struggling with any type of addiction will benefit from understanding and addressing these critical issues. Carter lays out the issues in an organized and systematic way culminating with a "Universal Step One" for all addictions. That first step is based upon all of the knowledge outlined in the preceding chapters. As with the other books in the series, Thawing Addiction begins with a presentation of the authors Iceberg Model. Each book then zooms in on a specific aspect such as complex PTSD, childhood abandonment issues, Adult/Child Syndrome, toxic relationships, and in this case treatment and recovery from all forms of addiction including Codependency. In Thawing Addiction, Carter outlines how Codependency is an "addiction to the outside" of one's self. He demonstrates how the signs and symptoms of Codependency follow those same signs and symptoms for any addiction. Don Carter has over three decades of professional experience as a licensed Clinical Social Worker helping people recover from addiction, toxic shame, PTSD, codependency, Adult/Child Syndrome, and the relationship problems resulting from these issues. His Iceberg Model is a 30,000-foot view of the big picture as the model synthesizes Addiction, Codependency, and Adult/Child Syndrome into one systemic model that is easily understood by people who have grown up in a less-than-nurturing or otherwise dysfunctional family. The Iceberg Model is presented in each of the other books so that the reader can start with whatever aspect they are most impacted by without having to read the other books first. In other words, each book in the series stands alone. Thawing Addiction may be the fifth book in the series but if addiction is at issue then it is definitely the one to start with because healing the issues outlined in the Iceberg Model must proceed from the top down. Addiction is at the "Tip of the Iceberg" for many reasons. Most of all, because if one begins working on the most painful issues first, it can and usually does stir up a compulsion to seek comfort and relief the only way the addicted person knows how - by engaging in their addiction of choice. Thawing Addiction is a complete guide to the many critical issues that must be addressed during the transition and stabilization period of early recovery. One must develop a lifestyle of recovery with all the supports in place to achieve abstinence and possess the coping skills and resources to face the deeper issues. The author defines addiction as an unhealthy, primary relationship with an object or activity designed to produce the desired mood swing - on that brings momentary comfort and relief. "Thawing Addiction - The Tip of the Iceberg" presents the issues relevant to anyone in early recovery from any addiction.

Let's Pretend This Never Happened

Let's Pretend This Never Happened
Author: Jenny Lawson
Publisher: Penguin
Total Pages: 384
Release: 2012-04-17
Genre: Biography & Autobiography
ISBN: 1101573082

The #1 New York Times bestselling (mostly true) memoir from the hilarious author of Furiously Happy. “Gaspingly funny and wonderfully inappropriate.”—O, The Oprah Magazine When Jenny Lawson was little, all she ever wanted was to fit in. That dream was cut short by her fantastically unbalanced father and a morbidly eccentric childhood. It did, however, open up an opportunity for Lawson to find the humor in the strange shame-spiral that is her life, and we are all the better for it. In the irreverent Let’s Pretend This Never Happened, Lawson’s long-suffering husband and sweet daughter help her uncover the surprising discovery that the most terribly human moments—the ones we want to pretend never happened—are the very same moments that make us the people we are today. For every intellectual misfit who thought they were the only ones to think the things that Lawson dares to say out loud, this is a poignant and hysterical look at the dark, disturbing, yet wonderful moments of our lives. Readers Guide Inside

Gathering Frost (Once Upon A Curse Book 1)

Gathering Frost (Once Upon A Curse Book 1)
Author: Kaitlyn Davis
Publisher: Kaitlyn Davis
Total Pages: 268
Release:
Genre: Juvenile Fiction
ISBN:

**A USA Today Must-Read Romance!** Even a princely kiss may not revive this beauty's frozen heart... Don't miss GATHERING FROST, a fantasy romance from bestselling author Kaitlyn Davis that reimagines the classic fairy tale of Sleeping Beauty. "I wish I could say I was the hero of the story. A resister. A rebel. Someone who lived to bring an end to the queen who stole my childhood--my mother, my life, my very world. But I'm not. I'm not the good guy. I'm the one who puts the good guys in their graves." Jade was only a little girl when the earthquake struck. Before her eyes, half of New York City disappeared, replaced by a village that seemed torn out of a storybook. Horses and carriages. Cobblestone streets. A towering castle. And, above all, a queen with the magical ability to strip emotions away. Ten years later and Jade has forgotten what it is to feel, to care...even to love. Working as a member of the queen's guard, she spends most of her time on the city wall staring at the crumbling skyscrapers of old New York. But everything changes when the queen's runaway son, Prince Asher, returns. Under his relentless taunts, her blood begins to boil. Under his piercing gaze, her heart begins to flutter. And the more her icy soul begins to thaw, the more Jade comes to question everything she's ever known--and, more importantly, whose side she's really on. Keywords: Teen & Young Adult, Fairytale, Fairy Tale, Retelling, Adaptation, Fairy Tale Adaptation, Sleeping Beauty, Romance, Dystopian, Paranormal Romance, Urban Fantasy, Love, Action & Adventure, Magic, Fantasy, Evil Queen, Prince Charming RAVE REVIEWS for Gathering Frost! "My favorite thing about this book is the action. Jade isn't a sleeping princess. She's the best fighter and so fierce in her "empty" state. I felt like this was an urban fantasy with all the steam of a romance." - Jessie Potts, USA Today 'Happy Ever After Blog' "Davis writes with confidence and poise, and the story's many twists and turns stave off predictability and allow readers to become immersed in a starkly magical world filled with last hopes." - Publisher's Weekly "Gathering Frost is just awesome in every way. Beautiful prose, lots of heart-wrenching emotion, action and romance, a great, unstoppable villain, and a smart, tough heroine who will fight for what she wants." - Geeks In High School "The writing is flawless as always and I must say, way to take a classic and make such a creative and wonderful twist to it...It's well thought out and it unbelievably magnificent. I seriously couldn't put it down. Wait I never actually put it down. I started and finished in one sitting because it's just that good. This one is a MUST READ." - Happy Tails and Tales Blog "I loved everything about this book! The different take on Sleeping Beauty, the strong female characters, and the overall vibe of the book/series to come. Jade is amazing and leaped off the page...This is not just a romance! It has great action scenes where Jade is kicking some major ass and there are surprises at every corner." - Hooked In A Book "I loved this book. To me is it a very loose reimagined world of Sleeping Beauty, but that is a good thing. It kept me guessing and really kept me on the edge of my seat. I stayed up late reading as I just had to know what happens next." - Michelle's Paranormal Vault of Books