Sanctuary: Hope and Help for Victims of Domestic Abuse

Sanctuary: Hope and Help for Victims of Domestic Abuse
Author: Sydney Millage
Publisher: Focus Publishing (MN)
Total Pages: 224
Release: 2018-10
Genre:
ISBN: 9781936141500

Oppressed, hurting women continue to look for help and safety, but there is a disconnection between their need and provision. Women are seeking help. Church leaders, many of whom are volunteers, want to help. Individuals are concerned. Why, then, are women failing to find help in local churches? What prevents our churches from effectively helping women who are abused by their husbands? The missing piece is an understanding of domestic abuse and how to apply the good news of Jesus, His Word and character to what has remained unseen, unknown, and misunderstood. "ƒ‚‚]ƒ‚‚€ƒ‚‚](Sydney Millage has) provided comprehensive hope and help for victims of domestic abuse, counselors and friends who come alongside them, and churches striving to shepherd members righteously and compassionately." Dr. Brent Aucoin, President of Faith Bible Seminary, Pastor and Counselor at Faith Church in Lafayette, IN

Suffering and the Heart of God

Suffering and the Heart of God
Author: Diane Langberg
Publisher: New Growth Press
Total Pages: 316
Release: 2015-09-01
Genre: Religion
ISBN: 1942572034

She's seen slave dungeons in Ghana. Genocide in Rwanda. Systemic sexual abuse in Brazil. Child abuse and domestic violence in the US. After forty years of counseling abuse survivors around the world, Dr. Diane Langberg, a world renowned trauma expert, remains certain that what trauma destroys, Christ can and does restore. This book will convince you, too, of the healing heart of God. But it's not a fast process, instead much patience is required from family, friends, and counselors as they wisely and respectfully help victims unpack their traumatic suffering through talking, tears, and time. And it's not a process that can be separated from the work of God in both a counselor and counselee. Dr. Langberg calls all of those who wish to help sufferers to model Jesus's sacrificial love and care in how they listen, love, and guide. The heart of God is revealed to sufferers as they grow to understand the cross of Christ and how their God came to this earth and experienced such severe suffering that he too is "well-acquainted with grief." The cross of Christ is the lens that transforms and redeems traumatic suffering and its aftermath, not only for the sufferer, but it also transforms those who walk with the suffering. This book will be a great help to anyone who loves, listens to, and seeks to help someone impacted by trauma and abuse. There is no quick fix, but there is the hope for healing through the love of God in Christ.

Crazy Love

Crazy Love
Author: Leslie Morgan Steiner
Publisher: Macmillan + ORM
Total Pages: 202
Release: 2009-03-31
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 142996233X

The New York Times bestseller: “[A] brutally honest memoir of a brave, smart, fresh-faced young woman’s descent into domestic hell.” —Monica Holloway, author of Driving with Dead People At 22, Leslie Morgan Steiner seemed to have it all: a Harvard diploma, a glamorous job at Seventeen magazine, a downtown New York City apartment. Plus a handsome, funny, street-smart boyfriend who adored her. But behind her façade of success, this golden girl hid a dark secret. She’d made a mistake shared by millions: she fell in love with the wrong person. At first Leslie and Conor seemed as perfect together as their fairy-tale wedding. Then came the fights she tried to ignore: he pushed her down the stairs of the house they bought together, poured coffee grinds over her hair as she dressed for a critical job interview, choked her during an argument, and threatened her with a gun. Several times, he came close to making good on his threat to kill her. With each attack, Leslie lost another piece of herself. Gripping and utterly compelling, Crazy Love takes you inside the violent, devastating world of abusive love. Conor said he’d been abused since he was a young boy, and love and rage danced intimately together in his psyche. Why didn’t Leslie leave? She stayed because she loved him. Find out for yourself if she had fallen truly in love—or into a psychological trap. Crazy Love will draw you in—and never let go. “Compulsively readable.” —People “A must read for anyone in a consuming relationship.” —Iris Krasnow, New York Times–bestselling author

Coercive Control

Coercive Control
Author: Evan Stark
Publisher: Oxford University Press
Total Pages: 465
Release: 2009
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0195384040

Drawing on cases, Stark identifies the problems with our current approach to domestic violence, outlines the components of coercive control, and then uses this alternate framework to analyse the cases of battered women charged with criminal offenses directed at their abusers.

How to Rise Above Abuse

How to Rise Above Abuse
Author: June Hunt
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers
Total Pages: 434
Release: 2010-09-01
Genre: Religion
ISBN: 0736938168

With nearly 150,000 books sold, Christian counselor June Hunt has fast become a favorite for readers seeking biblical counsel for their problems. In How to Rise Above Abuse, June offers compassionate, practical guidance for the tough issues of verbal and emotional abuse, spouse abuse, childhood sexual abuse, rape recovery, victimization, and spiritual abuse. Readers will learn the definitions, characteristics, and causes that, once understood, empower them to take steps toward lasting solutions. They’ll find out how to... identify and deal with unresolved anger, grief, or pain rely on Christ for strength when they have none forgive their offender and help other victims regain confidence, hope, and peace for the future place complete trust in God at all times Only the Lord Jesus Christ can heal broken hearts. This book for counselors and counselees will show how those who are hurting can yield to His care.

Creating Sanctuary

Creating Sanctuary
Author: Sandra L Bloom
Publisher: Routledge
Total Pages: 370
Release: 2013-04-12
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 1136739521

Creating Sanctuary is a description of a hospital-based program to treat adults who had been abused as children and the revolutionary knowledge about trauma and adversity that the program was based upon. This book focuses on the biological, psychological, and social aspects of trauma. Fifteen years later, Dr. Sandra Bloom has updated this classic work to include the groundbreaking Adverse Childhood Experiences Study that came out in 1998, information about Epigenetics, and new material about what we know about the brain and violence. This book is for courses in counseling, social work, and clinical psychology on mental health, trauma, and trauma theory.

Counseling Victims of Violence

Counseling Victims of Violence
Author: Sandra L. Brown
Publisher: Turner Publishing Company
Total Pages: 200
Release: 2013-03-15
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 0897935381

With violence of all kinds — from child abuse and domestic violence to hate crimes and stalking — at an all-time high, today's counselors must be prepared to treat many types of victims. Counseling Victims of Violence offers practical guidance and helps a counselor determine if a victim should be referred to a specialist. Each chapter covers a specific type of violent victimization, detailing which issues to address in each of the three stages of counseling (crisis intervention, short-term, and long-term) and highlighting often-overlooked secondary victimizations and social services resources. Quick-glance reference charts summarize each chapter’s contents.

Love WITH Accountability

Love WITH Accountability
Author: Aishah Shahidah Simmons
Publisher: AK Press
Total Pages: 258
Release: 2019-10-01
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1849353530

Despite the current survivor-affirming awareness around sexual violence, child sexual abuse, most notably when it’s a family member or friend, is still a very taboo topic. There are approximately 42 million child sexual abuse survivors in the U.S. and millions of bystanders who look the other way as the abuse occurs and cover for the harm-doers with no accountability. Documentary filmmaker and survivor of child sexual abuse and adult rape, Aishah Shahidah Simmons invites diasporic Black people to join her in transformative storytelling that envisions a world that ends child sexual abuse without relying on the criminal justice system. Love WITH Accountability features compelling writings by child sexual abuse survivors, advocates, and Simmons’s mother, who underscores the detrimental impact of parents/caregivers not believing their children when they disclose their sexual abuse. This collection explores disrupting the inhumane epidemic of child sexual abuse, humanely.

Religion and Intimate Partner Violence

Religion and Intimate Partner Violence
Author: Nancy Nason-Clark
Publisher: Oxford University Press
Total Pages: 241
Release: 2017-10-23
Genre: Social Science
ISBN: 0190607238

Intimate partner violence is a complex, ugly, fear-inducing reality for large numbers of women around the world. When violence exists in a relationship, safety is compromised, shame abounds, and peace evaporates. Violence is learned behavior and it flourishes most when it is ignored, minimized, or misunderstood. When it strikes the homes of deeply religious women, they are: more vulnerable; more likely to believe that their abusive partners can, and will, change; less likely to leave a violent home, temporarily or forever; often reluctant to seek outside sources of assistance; and frequently disappointed by the response of the religious leader to their call for help. These women often believe they are called by God to endure the suffering, to forgive (and to keep on forgiving) their abuser, and to fulfill their marital vows until death do us part. Concurrently, many batterers employ explicitly religious language to justify the violence towards their partners, and sometime they manipulate spiritual leaders who try to offer them help. Religion and Intimate Partner Violence seeks to navigate the relatively unchartered waters of intimate partner violence in families of deep faith. The program of research on which it is based spans over twenty-five years, and includes a wide variety of specific studies involving religious leaders, congregations, battered women, men in batterer intervention programs, and the army of workers who assist families impacted by abuse, including criminal justice workers, therapeutic staff, advocacy workers, and religious leaders. The authors provide a rich and colorful portrayal of the intersection of intimate partner violence and religious beliefs and practices that inform and interweave throughout daily life. Such a focus on lived religion enables readers to isolate, examine, and evaluate ways in which religion both augments and thwarts the journey towards justice, accountability, healing and wholeness for women and men caught in the web of intimate partner violence.