Putting Children First

Putting Children First
Author: JoAnne Pedro-Carroll
Publisher: Penguin
Total Pages: 354
Release: 2010-05-04
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1101427388

An internationally renowned authority on children and divorce reveals the latest research-based strategies for helping children survive and thrive before, during, and long after their parents divorce. The breakup of a family can have an enduring impact on children. But as Dr. JoAnne Pedro-Carroll explains with clarity and compassion in this powerful book, parents can positively alter the immediate and long-term effects of divorce on their children. The key is proven, emotionally intelligent parenting strategies that promote children's emotional health, resilience, and ability to lead satisfying lives. Over the past three decades, Pedro-Carroll has worked with families in transition, conducted research, and developed and directed award- winning, court-endorsed programs that have helped thousands of families navigate divorce and its aftermath. Now she shares practical, research-based advice that helps parents: -gain a deeper understanding of what their children are experiencing -develop emotionally intelligent parenting strategies with the critical combination of boundless love and appropriate limits on behavior -reduce conflict with a former spouse and protect children from conflict's damaging effects -learn what recent brain research reveals about stress and children's developing capabilities Filled with the voices and drawings of children and the stories of families, Putting Children First delivers a positive vision for a future of hope and healing.

Our Happy Divorce

Our Happy Divorce
Author: Benjamin Heldfond
Publisher:
Total Pages: 184
Release: 2019-10
Genre:
ISBN: 9781631779978

"From weeknight dinners and homework sessions with their son to Christmas card photos and vacations, Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond have created a tight-knit, enviable family. They work and play well together, from the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life eventsƒƒ‚ƒƒ‚‚‚ƒƒ‚‚ƒ‚‚"ƒƒ‚ƒƒ‚‚‚ƒƒ‚‚ƒ‚‚€ƒƒ‚ƒƒ‚‚‚ƒƒ‚‚ƒ‚‚"and it only took a divorce to get them there. Though their marriage has been over for nearly a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their new amazing spouses and children. Ben and Nikki had hoped their wedding would start their happily ever afterƒƒ‚ƒƒ‚‚‚ƒƒ‚‚ƒ‚‚"ƒƒ‚ƒƒ‚‚‚ƒƒ‚‚ƒ‚‚€ƒƒ‚ƒƒ‚‚‚ƒƒ‚‚ƒ‚‚"but seven years, one child, and countless financial and familial entanglements later, their I do-s had turned into We can't-s. Armed with their fierce love for their son and a desire to give him the best, they realized they needed to find an alternative to the seemingly inevitable toxic divorce that loomed over their lives.

Putting Kids First in Divorce

Putting Kids First in Divorce
Author: Jeremy Kossen
Publisher:
Total Pages: 256
Release: 2016-04-17
Genre:
ISBN: 9780692676929

Going through a divorce is never easy. Tension can be high, and too often, the adversarial family court system only escalates the conflict. Sadly, children can become collateral damage. Fortunately - as in life - in divorce, you have choices. You don't need to go down the traditional path of hiring a divorce attorney and battling it out in court. Instead, you can choose cooperation over conflict, and put your children first! Putting Kids First in Divorce, brings together eleven leading divorce, co-parenting, and relationship professionals, who share their insights and perspectives on communication, conflict resolution, and supporting children through a transition. You'll learn about alternatives to litigation such as collaborative law, mediation and divorce coaching - which are far less adversarial and more economical than family court. In an easy-to-read interview-style format, Putting Kids First in Divorce, will enlighten, empower and inspire you. Filled with wisdom from leading experts, you'll learn everything from creating a cooperative child-centric separation to resolving conflict; approaching divorce with mindfulness to raising resilient children; communicating with your ex to co-parenting with compassion. Equipped with the knowledge you will acquire in this book, our hope is that you see divorce does not have to be a battlefield, but an opportunity for growth where you can create an environment to ensure your children thrive! As Karen Bonnell, a co-contributor to the book is fond of saying, "When it comes to a child's sense of family, what divorce breaks apart, solid co-parenting rebuilds." Putting Kids First in Divorce is comprised of ten value-packed chapters featuring content and interviews with high-integrity divorce professionals, unified by a common theme: putting the needs of children first through cooperative processes. The topics covered include: � Choose Cooperation Over Combat by Jeremy S. Kossen & Mark B. Baer, Esq. � Stay Out of Court! Choose Mediation or Collaborative Divorce Over Litigation by Mark B. Baer & Jeremy S. Kossen � For Kids, What Divorce Breaks Apart, Strong Co-Parenting Rebuilds by Karen Bonnell, ARNP, MS � Using Mediation to Build a Happy Blended Family by Amanda D. Singer, Esq., MDR, CDFA(tm) & Jennifer M. Segura, JD, CDFA(tm) � Approaching Divorce With Mindfulness And Compassion by Belinda N. Zylberman � How to Establish Boundaries and Promote Healthy Communication by Maida V. Farrar, Esq., CDC � The Road to Resiliency: How to Raise Resilient Children Through a Family Transition by Kristine Clay, MA � How to Work on Your Marriage When It No Longer Works by Sara Freed � How to Help Your Teen Survive and Thrive After Divorce by Nicola Beer � Guilt-Free Parenting in Divorce by Cherie D. Morris

Grown and Flown

Grown and Flown
Author: Lisa Heffernan
Publisher: Flatiron Books
Total Pages: 352
Release: 2019-09-03
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1250188954

PARENTING NEVER ENDS. From the founders of the #1 site for parents of teens and young adults comes an essential guide for building strong relationships with your teens and preparing them to successfully launch into adulthood The high school and college years: an extended roller coaster of academics, friends, first loves, first break-ups, driver’s ed, jobs, and everything in between. Kids are constantly changing and how we parent them must change, too. But how do we stay close as a family as our lives move apart? Enter the co-founders of Grown and Flown, Lisa Heffernan and Mary Dell Harrington. In the midst of guiding their own kids through this transition, they launched what has become the largest website and online community for parents of fifteen to twenty-five year olds. Now they’ve compiled new takeaways and fresh insights from all that they’ve learned into this handy, must-have guide. Grown and Flown is a one-stop resource for parenting teenagers, leading up to—and through—high school and those first years of independence. It covers everything from the monumental (how to let your kids go) to the mundane (how to shop for a dorm room). Organized by topic—such as academics, anxiety and mental health, college life—it features a combination of stories, advice from professionals, and practical sidebars. Consider this your parenting lifeline: an easy-to-use manual that offers support and perspective. Grown and Flown is required reading for anyone looking to raise an adult with whom you have an enduring, profound connection.

Co-Parenting Through Separation and Divorce

Co-Parenting Through Separation and Divorce
Author: Jann Blackstone
Publisher:
Total Pages: 0
Release: 2020-06-16
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 9781610023801

As you face one of life's most difficult transitions, divorce and child custody mediator Dr. Blackstone and pediatrician Dr. Hill offer step-by-step guidance on how to put your children first. This road map covers communicating the news in a developmentally appropriate way, helping children cope and preventing the effects of toxic stress, shared custody and parenting plans, confronting bad-mouthing and other challenges to positive co-parenting, handling concerns about safety or abuse, remarriage and blending families, co-parenting for the long haul, through the teen years and beyond, and more, with the goal of healthy, happy kids informing every step along the way

Parenting Apart

Parenting Apart
Author: Christina McGhee
Publisher: Random House
Total Pages: 418
Release: 2011-06-02
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1446458806

When a marriage ends, the most important thing divorcing parents can do is to help their children through this difficult transition and remain united as parents even if they are no longer united as a couple. In Parenting Apart divorce coach Christina McGhee offers practical advice on how to help children adjust and thrive during and after separation and divorce. She looks at all the different issues parents may face with their children of different ages, offering immediate solutions to the most critical parenting problems divorce brings, including: ·When to tell your children about the divorce and what to say ·How to create a loving, secure home if your child doesn't live with you full time ·What to do if your child is angry or sad ·How to manage the legal system, including information on family law and issues of custody ·How to deal with a difficult ex This is an invaluable resource that offers parents quick access to the information you most need at a time when you need it most.

Primal Loss

Primal Loss
Author: Leila Miller
Publisher: Lcb Publishing
Total Pages: 326
Release: 2017-05-20
Genre: Adult children of divorced parents
ISBN: 9780997989311

Seventy now-adult children of divorce give their candid and often heart-wrenching answers to eight questions (arranged in eight chapters, by question), including: What were the main effects of your parents' divorce on your life? What do you say to those who claim that "children are resilient" and "children are happy when their parents are happy"? What would you like to tell your parents then and now? What do you want adults in our culture to know about divorce? What role has your faith played in your healing? Their simple and poignant responses are difficult to read and yet not without hope. Most of the contributors--women and men, young and old, single and married--have never spoken of the pain and consequences of their parents' divorce until now. They have often never been asked, and they believe that no one really wants to know. Despite vastly different circumstances and details, the similarities in their testimonies are striking; as the reader will discover, the death of a child's family impacts the human heart in universal ways.

The Truth About Children and Divorce

The Truth About Children and Divorce
Author: Robert E. Emery Ph.D.
Publisher: Penguin
Total Pages: 292
Release: 2006-01-31
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1101157011

Nationally recognized expert Robert Emery applies his twenty-five years of experience as a researcher, therapist, and mediator to offer parents a new road map to divorce. Dr. Emery shows how our powerful emotions and the way we handle them shape how we divorce—and whether our children suffer or thrive in the long run. His message is hopeful, yet realistic—divorce is invariably painful, but parents can help promote their children’s resilience. With compassion and authority, Dr. Emery explains: • Why it is so hard to really make divorce work • How anger and fighting can keep people from really separating • Why legal matters should be one of the last tasks • Why parental love—and limit setting—can be the best “therapy” for kids • How to talk to children, create workable parenting schedules, and more

Stepmonster

Stepmonster
Author: Wednesday Martin
Publisher: HarperCollins
Total Pages: 333
Release: 2011-01-21
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0547394314

An honest and groundbreaking guide to understanding the complicated emotions that develop between stepmothers and children. When faced with often overwhelming challenges, what woman with stepchildren is unfamiliar with that “stepmonster” feeling? Half of all women in the United States will live with or marry a man with children. To guide women new to this role—and empower those who are struggling with it—Wednesday Martin draws upon her own experience as a stepmother. She's frank about the harrowing process of becoming a stepmother, she considers the myths and realities of being married to a man with children, and she counteracts the cultural notion that stepmothers are solely responsible for the problems that often develop. Along the way, she interviews other stepmothers and stepchildren and offers up fascinating insights from literature, anthropology, psychology, and evolutionary biology that explain the little-understood realities of this unique parent-child relationship and—in an unexpected twist—shows why the myth of the Wicked Stepmother is the single best tool for understanding who real stepmothers are and how they feel.

The Good Divorce

The Good Divorce
Author: Constance Ahrons
Publisher: Harper Collins
Total Pages: 536
Release: 2009-10-06
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0061981931

It's never too late to have a good divorce Based on two decades of groundbreaking research, The Good Divorce presents the surprising finding that in more than fifty percent of divorces couples end their marriages, yet preserve their families. Dr. Ahrons shows couples how they can move beyond the confusing, even terrifying early stages of breakup and learn to deal with the transition from a nuclear to a "binuclear" family--one that spans two households and continues to meet the needs of children. The Good Divorce makes an important contribution to the ongoing "family values" debate by dispelling the myth that divorce inevitability leaves emotionally troubles children in its wake. It is a powerful tonic for the millions of divorcing and long-divorces parents who are tired of hearing only the damage reports. It will make us change the way we think about divorce and the way we divorce, reconfirming our commitment to children and families.