Insecure in Love

Insecure in Love
Author: Leslie Becker-Phelps
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
Total Pages: 224
Release: 2014-06-01
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1608828174

Has your romantic partner called you clingy, insecure, desperate, or jealous? No one wants to admit that they possess these qualities; but if you find yourself constantly on the alert, anxious, or worried when it comes to your significant other, you may suffer from anxious attachment, a fear of abandonment that is often rooted in early childhood experiences. In Insecure in Love, you'll learn how to overcome attachment anxiety using compassionate self-awareness, a technique that can help you recognize your negative thoughts or unhealthy behavior patterns and respond to them in a nurturing way—rather than beating yourself up. You’ll also learn how insecurity can negatively affect healthy dialog between you and your partner (or potential partners) and develop the skills needed to stop you from reverting back to old patterns of neediness and possessiveness. If you suffer from anxious attachment, you probably know that you need to change, and yet you have remained stuck. With compassionate self-awareness, you can successfully explore old anxiety-perpetuating perceptions and habits without being overwhelmed or paralyzed by them. By understanding the psychological factors at the root of your attachment anxiety, you will learn to cultivate secure, healthy relationships to last a lifetime. If you’re ready to stop getting stuck in the same hurtful relationship patterns and finally break the cycle of heartache, this book can show you how to get the love you deserve—and keep it!

Love Me, Don't Leave Me

Love Me, Don't Leave Me
Author: Michelle Skeen
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
Total Pages: 140
Release: 2014-09-01
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1608829545

Everyone thrives on love, comfort, and the safety of family, friends, and community. But if you are denied these basic comforts early in life, whether through a lack of physical affection or emotional bonding, you may develop intense fears of abandonment that can last well into adulthood—fears so powerful that they can actually cause you to push people away. If you suffer from fears of abandonment, you may have underlying feelings of anger, shame, fear, anxiety, depression, and grief. These emotions are intense and painful, and when they surface they can lead to a number of negative behaviors, such as jealousy, clinging, and emotional blackmail. In Love Me, Don’t Leave Me, therapist Michelle Skeen combines acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), schema therapy, and dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) to help you identify the root of your fears. In this book you’ll learn how schema coping behaviors—deeply entrenched and automatic behaviors rooted in childhood experiences and fears—can take over and cause you to inadvertently sabotage your relationships. By recognizing these coping behaviors and understanding their cause, you will not only gain powerful insights into your own mind, but also into the minds of those around you. If you are ready to break the self-fulfilling cycle of mistrust, clinginess, and heartbreak and start building lasting, trusting relationships, this book will be your guide.

Attached

Attached
Author: Amir Levine
Publisher: Penguin
Total Pages: 305
Release: 2010-12-30
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1101475161

“Over a decade after its publication, one book on dating has people firmly in its grip.” —The New York Times We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle. Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways: • Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back. • Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. • Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving. Attached guides readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.

Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair

Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair
Author: Daniel P. Brown PhD
Publisher: W. W. Norton & Company
Total Pages: 1003
Release: 2016-09-13
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 0393711536

Winner of the 2018 International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation (ISSTD) Pierre Janet Writing Award. A comprehensive treatment approach for the repair and resolution of attachment disturbances in adults, for use in clinical settings. With contributions by Paula Morgan-Johnson, Paula Sacks, Caroline R. Baltzer, James Hickey, Andrea Cole, Jan Bloom, and Deirdre Fay. Attachment Disturbances in Adults is a landmark resource for (1) understanding attachment, its development, and the most clinically relevant findings from attachment research, and (2) using this understanding to inform systematic, comprehensive, and clinically effective and efficient treatment of attachment disturbances in adults. It offers an innovative therapeutic model and set of methods for treating adult patients with dismissing, anxious-preoccupied, or disorganized attachment. In rich detail, it integrates historical and leading-edge attachment research into practical, effective treatment protocols for each type of insecure attachment. Case transcripts and many sample therapist phrasings illustrate how to apply the methods in practice. Part I, "Foundational Concepts," features a comprehensive overview of the field of attachment, including its history, seminal ideas, and existing knowledge about the development of attachment bonds and behaviors. Part II, "Assessment," addresses the assessment of attachment disturbances. It includes an overview of attachment assessment for the clinician and a trove of practical recommendations for assessing patients' attachment behavior and status both outside of and within the therapeutic relationship. In Part III, "Treatment," the authors not only review existing treatment approaches for attachment disorders in adults, but also introduce an unprecedented, powerful new treatment method. This method, the "Three Pillars" model, is built on three essential clinical ingredients: Systematically utilizing ideal parent figure imagery to develop a new positive, stable internal working model of secure attachment Fostering a range of metacognitive skills Fostering nonverbal and verbal collaborative behavior in treatment Used together, these interdependent pillars form a unified and profoundly effective method of treatment for attachment disturbances in adults—a must for any clinician. In Part IV, "Type-Specific Treatment," readers will learn specific variations of the three treatment pillars to maximize efficacy with each type of insecure attachment. Finally, Part V, "A Treatment Guide and Expected Outcomes," describes treatment in a step-by-step format and provides a success-assessment guide for the Three Pillars approach. This book is a comprehensive educational resource and a deeply practical clinical guide. It offers clinicians a complete set of tools for effective and efficient treatment of adult patients with attachment disturbances.

Overcoming Destructive Anger

Overcoming Destructive Anger
Author: Bernard Golden
Publisher: JHU Press
Total Pages: 224
Release: 2016-06-15
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1421419742

"Readers will be drawn to this book because their lives have been affected, even devastated, by anger. Job loss, divorce, family estrangement, substance abuse, and imprisonment are just some of the potential fallouts from uncontrolled anger. Many people do not know how to start making changes to turn destructive anger into healthy anger. This book offers understanding and tools for making those changes. In helping readers understand anger, psychologist Bernie Golden explains that while anger serves a purpose, it can easily become destructive. In this book he offers strategies to overcome anger that.

Anxiously Attached

Anxiously Attached
Author: Jessica Baum
Publisher: Penguin
Total Pages: 305
Release: 2022-06-14
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0593331060

A road map for building strong and secure relationships for those who struggle with anxiety in their romantic connections. An estimated 47 million Americans identify as having an anxious attachment style, which can make being in relationships turbulent and emotionally taxing for them. According to groundbreaking research in the field of attachment, anxious types are more prone to insecurity, jealousy, codependency, and other behaviors that get in the way of finding and sustaining love. In Anxiously Attached, seasoned psychotherapist and couples counselor Jessica Baum guides readers through understanding their attachment style at its core and building the inner strength and self-love that will lead them to more secure and satisfying relationships. Developed over ten years in private practice, Baum’s signature Self-full® Method has helped her clients get off the toxic roller coaster of anxious attachment and discover the secure and mutually supportive relationships they deserve. In this book readers will learn how to: Create boundaries to safeguard their sense of self-sovereignty in relationships Communicate to their partners what they need to feel safe and secure in the relationship Develop a secure sense of self-worth and emotional stability Learn the true meaning of a healthy/interdependent relationship and how to establish one with their partner or future partner. Discover a compassionate path towards healing through experiences like mediation practices where they can start to develop more insight into their internal landscape. Attain a deep understanding of the anxious-avoidant dance that is extremely common in intimacy struggles. Anxiously Attached offers a practical and holistic approach for overcoming anxious attachment issues to discover happier, more fulfilling relationships.

Attachment Theory

Attachment Theory
Author: Sharon McKinsey
Publisher:
Total Pages: 198
Release: 2021-02-05
Genre:
ISBN:

Expert Psychologist Reveals: How To Gradually Heal Attachment Disorder In Your Child, Relative, Friend Or Even Yourself and... START LIVING THAT HAPPY, SOCIAL, AND ANXIETY-FREE LIFE EVERYBODY DESERVES! Are you an adopted parent whose little one has been abused and emotionally hurt in the past, and until this day, you are still trying to figure out how to help him? Maybe you are a therapist who is looking for extra knowledge to help your clients take-over 'AD - Attachment Disorder' and enjoy that joyful life everyone dreams about? Or maybe you are sick and tired of AD yourself and want to get rid of it once and for all? If you answered "Yes" to at least one of these questions, please read on... Listen... 'AD' is not something you'd want to take lightly, especially if the person you want to help is not a child anymore. And we all know how difficult it is to get rid of those obsolete behavior patterns and habits. You must act fast! Throughout this book, I will teach you something called "Attachment Theory," but don't get me wrong. Even though it's called a theory, you'll find special strategies and tools you'll be able to use to help your loved one or yourself live that Negative Attachment, Fear, and Anxiety-Free Life you have always been dreaming about! Take a look at what's inside: How to recognize AD? (some of the key features that will determine what actions you have to take in order to overcome this disorder the fastest time possible!) What is an 'Attachment Theory'? And why is it important to understand it at least a little bit to put it into practice? 4 types of attachment disorders and how to treat each one? Children vs. Adults, what are the key differences? (That's why you must take action fast! Hint: It's never too late either, but it'll take more effort to get rid of AD as you get older) The most dangerous adult attachment mistakes you can make (and the most important lessons learned from them that'll help you to build a passionate and meaningful relationship) 5 steps to overcome insecure attachment and how to stop it from shaping your life? How to overcome the fear of abandonment and 2 Common relationship-destroying characters you must avoid at all cost? Much much more... I forgot to mention: 'If you decide to purchase the Audio Version of this book, you'll get PDF absolutely FREE!' And you don't need to be an experienced psychologist to really understand and use all the things I just mentioned. We all have a choice to live a happy and joyful life, so why not use the tools that can help us do that? So don't wait, scroll up; click on "Buy Now" and Start Reading!

Understanding Disorganized Attachment

Understanding Disorganized Attachment
Author: David Shemmings
Publisher: Jessica Kingsley Publishers
Total Pages: 244
Release: 2011
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 1849050449

Disorganized attachment, the most extreme form of insecure attachment, can develop in a child when the person who is meant to protect them becomes a source of danger. This book provides a comprehensive text on disorganized attachment.

Anxious Attachment No More!!

Anxious Attachment No More!!
Author: Taha Zaid
Publisher:
Total Pages:
Release: 2021-05-05
Genre:
ISBN: 9781736389645

The book is dedicated to people with anxious attachment, and they keen to turn their anxiety into security in relationships.

The Jealousy Cure

The Jealousy Cure
Author: Robert L. Leahy
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
Total Pages: 185
Release: 2018-03-01
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1626259771

"The Jealousy Cure unlocks the positive power of jealousy for happy relationships." —Foreword Reviews "Solid counsel for those whose relationships are plagued by jealousy and the individuals it targets." —Library Journal starred review​ Could jealousy be a positive thing? In this groundbreaking book, Robert L. Leahy—author of the hugely popular self-help guide, The Worry Cure—invites you to gain a greater understanding of your jealous feelings, keep jealousy from hijacking your life, and create healthier relationships. We’ve all heard tales of the overly jealous spouse or significant other. Maybe we’ve even been that jealous person, though we may not want to admit it. It’s hard to imagine anyone sailing through life without either having feelings of jealousy or being the target of someone’s jealousy. But what if jealousy isn’t just a neurotic weakness? What if it signals that your relationship matters to you? In short—what if jealousy serves a purpose? In The Jealousy Cure, renowned psychologist Robert L. Leahy takes a more nuanced approach to tackling feelings of jealousy. In this compelling book, you’ll uncover the evolutionary origins of jealousy, and how and why it’s served to help us as a species. You’ll also learn practices based in emotional schema theory, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), and mindfulness to help you overcome the shame jealousy can bring, improve communication with your partner, and ultimately make room for jealousy while also making your relationship more meaningful. You will learn that confronting jealousy in your relationship does not have to be a catastrophe, but can redirect you and your partner to build more trust, acceptance, and connection. We often feel jealous because we fear losing the things or people that matter to us the most. With this insightful guide, you’ll discover how jealousy can both help and hurt your relationship, and learn proven-effective skills to keep jealousy in its place. This book has been selected as an Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies Self-Help Book Recommendation— an honor bestowed on outstanding self-help books that are consistent with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) principles and that incorporate scientifically tested strategies for overcoming mental health difficulties. Used alone or in conjunction with therapy, our books offer powerful tools readers can use to jump-start changes in their lives.