Nice and Mean

Nice and Mean
Author: Jessica Leader
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Total Pages: 276
Release: 2010-06-08
Genre: Juvenile Fiction
ISBN: 1442406690

Marina is mean. Sachi is nice. Marina is Barney’s. Sachi is Burlington Coat Factory. It’s bad enough they’re forced to coexist in their middle-school’s high-profile video elective—but now they’re being forced to work together on the big semester project. Marina’s objective? Out her wannabe BFF as a fashion victim to the entire middle school. Sachi’s objective? Prove that she’s not just the smiley class pencil-lender and broaden her classmates’ cultural horizons. Work together in harmony? Yeah, that would be a "no." How can Sachi film something meaningful, and Marina, something fabulous, if they’re yoked to each other?

Nice Card Mean Card

Nice Card Mean Card
Author: Athol Kay
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
Total Pages: 162
Release: 2019-01-10
Genre:
ISBN: 9781543277777

You aren't crazy for being Too Nice, you just need a new strategy.Nice Card Mean Card cuts clears away all the verbal fluff and misdirection, to show how being Too Nice isn't some kind of mental disorder, but a learned strategy from childhood. But rather than deep diving into trying to process your childhood like a therapy session, it provides a winning strategy you can use right now to start changing your life.Most books on dealing with being Too Nice can only describe the problem in great depth, and encourage you to solve it. Nice Card Mean Card gives you a four-step plan to stand up for yourself, and improve your relationships.The Nice Card is the Agreeable Yes. The Mean Card is the Disagreeable No.Rule 1: Play Nice Cards by Default.Rule 2: Retaliate against hostile Mean Cards.Rule 3: Resume Nice Cards if they are sorry.Rule 4: Don't feud and try and even up the score.These four rules help you win the power games in your relationship, without turning into an angry ogre, or a horrible person.You also learn;Why being nice doesn't make people like you.How you got addicted to being Too Nice in the first place.Why it feels emotionally impossible to stop being Too Nice.Why bad relationships last as long as they do.Why only 2% of your social interactions really matter.How every relationship has some form of Contracting.How Covert Contracts are passive-aggressive.What your personal Boundaries really are.Why being codependent means you can't stand up for yourself.Why saying no won't turn you evil.Why standing up for yourself creates drama in the short term, but peace in the long term.Why people hold grudges and why apologies are often required.How there are two types of trust in a relationship.Why reading a bunch of revenge stories makes you unhappy, How to Forgive someone.How to handle a spouse that is particularly sensitive.Why violence means the conversation is over.Why when your partner puts you down based on your social group, your relationship is deeply in trouble.How knowing who you are makes standing up for yourself easier.Why being Too Nice at work can cost you your career or business.Why shipping the battle of the sexes into your relationship can wreck it.How being Too Nice in a romantic relationship can damage your relationship.Why you need to be nice to yourself.How to spot people worth your time to be friends with.Nice Card Mean Card is devoid of fluff and filler, full of insights and revelations, and an easy read

Opening Up by Writing It Down, Third Edition

Opening Up by Writing It Down, Third Edition
Author: James W. Pennebaker
Publisher: Guilford Publications
Total Pages: 225
Release: 2016-07-15
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 1462524923

"Expressing painful emotions is hard--yet it can actually improve our mental and physical health. Distinguished psychologist James W. Pennebaker has spent decades studying what happens when people take just a few minutes to write about deeply felt personal experiences or problems. This lucid, compassionate book has introduced tens of thousands of readers to an easy to use self help technique that has been proven to heal old emotional wounds, promote a sense of well being, decrease stress, improve relationships, and boost the immune system. Updated with findings from hundreds of new studies, the significantly revised second edition now contains practical exercises to help readers try out expressive writing. It features extensive new information on specific health benefits, as well as when the approach may not be helpful"--

What Does It Mean to Be Kind?

What Does It Mean to Be Kind?
Author: Rana DiOrio
Publisher: Sourcebooks, Inc.
Total Pages: 35
Release: 2015-08-22
Genre: Juvenile Nonfiction
ISBN: 1619891166

"...a beautiful book with a beautiful message...the book shows young children how easy it is to be kind through small acts and in simple ways..."—R.J. Palacio, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Wonder What Does It Mean to Be Kind? is a rare kindness book for children because it uses a proactive, not reactive, introduction to a conversation about kindness. Part of the award-winning What Does It Mean to Be...? series, What Does It Mean to Be Kind? explains the idea of kindness in an accessible and understandable way. Being kind means... Smiling at the new student in class. Giving someone a compliment. Celebrating the differences in others. When the girl in the red hat finds the courage to be kind to the new student in class, her kindness spreads. Kind act by kind act, her whole community experiences the magical shift that happens when everyone understands—and acts on—what it means to be kind. What Does it Mean to Be Kind? is a teacher must-have for the classroom, and for parents in search of kindness and feelings books for children. More Awards for What Does It Mean to Be Kind? 2015 Moonbeam Gold Medalist

Say What You Mean

Say What You Mean
Author: Oren Jay Sofer
Publisher: Shambhala Publications
Total Pages: 306
Release: 2018-12-11
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 161180583X

Find your voice, speak your truth, listen deeply—a guide to having more meaningful and mindful conversations through nonviolent communication We spend so much of our lives talking to each other, but how much are we simply running on automatic—relying on old habits and hoping for the best? Are we able to truly hear others and speak our mind in a clear and kind way, without needing to get defensive or go on the attack? In this groundbreaking synthesis of mindfulness, somatics, and Nonviolent Communication, Oren Jay Sofer offers simple yet powerful practices to develop healthy, effective, and satisfying ways of communicating. The techniques in Say What You Mean will help you to: • Feel confident during conversation • Stay focused on what really matters in an interaction • Listen for the authentic concerns behind what others say • Reduce anxiety before and during difficult conversations • Find nourishment in day-to-day interactions “Unconscious patterns of communication create separation not only in our personal lives, they also perpetuate patterns of misunderstanding and violence that pervade our world. With clarity and great insight, Oren Jay Sofer offers teachings and practices that train us to speak and listen with presence, courage, and an open heart.” —Tara Brach, author of Radical Acceptance and True Refuge

Mean Girls at Work: How to Stay Professional When Things Get Personal

Mean Girls at Work: How to Stay Professional When Things Get Personal
Author: Katherine Crowley
Publisher: McGraw Hill Professional
Total Pages: 209
Release: 2012-11-02
Genre: Business & Economics
ISBN: 0071802053

One of the New York Post's Top 10 Career Books of 2012 and a Booklist Top 10 Business Book DO YOU WORK WITH A MEAN GIRL? A woman’s field guide to the new frontier of professional development—working with other women Women-to-women relationships in the workplace are . . . complicated. When they’re good, they’re great. But when they’re bad, they can ruin your day, your week—even your year. Packed with proven advice from two of today’s leading experts in workplace relationships, this one-of-a-kind guide gives women the tools they need to navigate difficult situations unique to women-to-women relationships—whether with a boss, a colleague, a client, or an employee. Have you dealt with a woman in the workplace who: “Accidentally” excludes you from important meetings? Seems intent on taking you down professionally? Gossips about you with other coworkers? Makes you look bad by missing deadlines? Forms a “pack” of mean girls to make your life miserable? Mean Girls at Work isn’t just about surviving difficult situations. It’s about transforming a toxic relationship into one that benefits and supports both of you. This book is also for women who engage in mean behavior . . . but don’t know it. After all, who hasn’t gossiped about a female coworker? Who hasn’t rolled her eyes in the presence of a woman she doesn’t like? Who hasn’t scanned another woman head to toe—which is just a nonverbal way of saying, “You’ve just been judged”? The authors provide invaluable advice to the more subtle ways of being mean—even if they’re not intended. With a workforce composed of a higher percentage of women than ever, workplace dynamics have changed. Crowley and Elster cover every conceivable scenario, providing critical advice on how to rise above the fray and move forward professionally. Mean Girls at Work is your map to dodging the mines and moving forward in today’s transformed workplace. Praise for Mean Girls at Work “An invaluable suit of armor for surviving nine to five!” —Leil Lowndes, bestselling author of How to Talk to Anyone “If you think the emotional cruelty of comedies like Mean Girls and Heathers doesn’t exist in the real world workplace, think again. In Mean Girls at Work, Katherine Crowley and Kathi Elster valuably chronicle female vs. female predators and offer solid defensive strategies.” —Ann Kreamer, author of It’s Always Personal: Navigating Emotion in the New Workplace “Whether you are in your twenties and just starting your professional career, your midcareer forties, when you are supposed to have figured it out already, or a woman in her fifties or sixties who’s seen it all—this book is a must-read. . . . The authors have finally given women the tools and the sound advice necessary to deal with . . . conflicts that keep us all from succeeding. . . . Carry this book with you to work every day!” —Carolyn Cassin, President, Michigan Women’s Foundation “A must-read for women of all ages in today’s workforce. This book offers what we all need to develop the capacities to endure this ever-changing workplace. We know it is all about relationships and you need the skills outlined in this book to survive and thrive when the Mean Girls attack.” —Kim Harrington, Coordinator, Professional Development and Training, Office of Human Resources, California State University, Sacramento

Be Kind

Be Kind
Author: Pat Zietlow Miller
Publisher:
Total Pages: 37
Release: 2018-02-06
Genre: Juvenile Fiction
ISBN: 1626723214

A thoughtful picture book illustrating the power of small acts of kindness, from the award-winning author of Sophie's Squash.

No More Mr Nice Guy

No More Mr Nice Guy
Author: Dr Robert A Glover
Publisher: Sanage Publishing House Llp
Total Pages: 0
Release: 2022-11-02
Genre:
ISBN: 9789391560485

Originally published as an e-book that became a controversial media phenomenon, No More Mr. Nice Guy! landed its author, a certified marriage and family therapist, on The O'Reilly Factor and the Rush Limbaugh radio show. Dr. Robert Glover has dubbed the "Nice Guy Syndrome" trying too hard to please others while neglecting one's own needs, thus causing unhappiness and resentfulness. It's no wonder that unfulfilled Nice Guys lash out in frustration at their loved ones, claims Dr. Glover. He explains how they can stop seeking approval and start getting what they want in life, by presenting the information and tools to help them ensure their needs are met, to express their emotions, to have a satisfying sex life, to embrace their masculinity and form meaningful relationships with other men, and to live up to their creative potential.

God, Are You Nice or Mean?

God, Are You Nice or Mean?
Author: Debra Delulio Jones, MEd
Publisher: WestBow Press
Total Pages: 110
Release: 2012-05-18
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1449748244

Through a journey of joys, tears, struggle, and hopelessness, Debra Delulio Jones found herself shaking her fist in the air and screaming, God, are you nice or mean? Debra and her husband, Alan, believed they were following Gods will when they adopted Dane from an orphanage in Romania in 1991. Scars of communism left their mark on this infant, and Debra searched for many years for answers for her troubled son. She found some answers, but what she didnt expect to find was that her relationship with God was much like that of an orphaned child who didnt really trust her adopted heavenly father. Dane didnt know how to trust the love of his parents due to his early abandonment and attachment issues. In his confusion he would say, Mommy, are you nice or mean? As she learned ways to connect to her son, Debra realized a twenty year course in clinging to God paralleled her parenting journey. She came to understand that her doubts about God were rooted in fear and pain, just like her sons maladaptive behaviors. As an adoptive mother in the role of healing parent, she gained insight into knowing God as her healer through lessons she learned in her relationship with Dane. In her transparent and humorous way, Debra shares how she went from living as a spiritual orphan to a trusting daughter in her daily walk with God.

Nice Racism

Nice Racism
Author: Dr. Robin DiAngelo
Publisher: Beacon Press
Total Pages: 226
Release: 2021-06-29
Genre: Social Science
ISBN: 0807074136

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER Building on the groundwork laid in the New York Times bestseller White Fragility, Robin DiAngelo explores how a culture of niceness inadvertently promotes racism. In White Fragility, Robin DiAngelo explained how racism is a system into which all white people are socialized and challenged the belief that racism is a simple matter of good people versus bad. DiAngelo also made a provocative claim: white progressives cause the most daily harm to people of color. In Nice Racism, her follow-up work, she explains how they do so. Drawing on her background as a sociologist and over 25 years working as an anti-racist educator, she picks up where White Fragility left off and moves the conversation forward. Writing directly to white people as a white person, DiAngelo identifies many common white racial patterns and breaks down how well-intentioned white people unknowingly perpetuate racial harm. These patterns include: • rushing to prove that we are “not racist” • downplaying white advantage • romanticizing Black, Indigenous and other peoples of color (BIPOC) • pretending white segregation “just happens” • expecting BIPOC people to teach us about racism • carefulness • and feeling immobilized by shame. DiAngelo explains how spiritual white progressives seeking community by co-opting Indigenous and other groups’ rituals create separation, not connection. She challenges the ideology of individualism and explains why it is OK to generalize about white people, and she demonstrates how white people who experience other oppressions still benefit from systemic racism. Writing candidly about her own missteps and struggles, she models a path forward, encouraging white readers to continually face their complicity and embrace courage, lifelong commitment, and accountability. Nice Racism is an essential work for any white person who recognizes the existence of systemic racism and white supremacy and wants to take steps to align their values with their actual practice. BIPOC readers may also find the “insiders” perspective useful for navigating whiteness. Includes a study guide.