Motherhood without Guilt

Motherhood without Guilt
Author: Debra Gilbert Rosenberg
Publisher: Sourcebooks, Inc.
Total Pages: 306
Release: 2004-10-01
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1402230508

Moms feel guilty about everything... They think they're not doing enough for themselves, for their children and for their spouses. They question their decisions about working vs. staying at home. They agonize over keeping up with housework, struggle in their relationship with their husband, wrestle with negative feelings about their children from time to time and worry that they don't measure up to their own or others' expectations. In short, feeling guilty is pervasive among mothers; it just seems to come with the territory. Motherhood without Guilt uses a question-and-answer format to address all the issues that cause a mother to feel bad about her mothering, and shows how to: --Reconcile working vs. staying at home --Be emotionally available to your kids in just the right way --Take good care of yourself, too --Create partnership in parenting with your husband --Nurture friendships and get support from others Related title: The New Mom's Companion 1-4022-0014-5

Mommy Guilt

Mommy Guilt
Author: Julie Bort
Publisher: AMACOM/American Management Association
Total Pages: 276
Release: 2005-04
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 9780814413685

The authors encourage parents to let go of unobtainable--and ill-advised--goals in favor of parenting philosophies that concentrate on the whole family. This eye-opening book presents the results of an original, never-before-published nationwide survey of over 1,300 parents.

Parenting Without Guilt

Parenting Without Guilt
Author: Charles C. Larson, Ph.d.
Publisher: CreateSpace
Total Pages: 186
Release: 2014-04-01
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 9781497525351

There are times when what a youngster does or says is absolutely baffling to mom or dad. How can 15-year-old Sarah spend hours prepping her hair and not give one second to cleaning her room? Likewise, what's wrong with 10-year-old Mark who knows he shouldn't bully his little brother but does so anyway? Certainly parents want answers, and no one is surprised when a parent falls back on interrogating a child or teen with repeated “Why?” or “What were you thinking?” questions.Unfortunately, searching for the reasons children behave as they do by asking the ubiquitous “Why?” is ultimately unsuccessful and, frankly, irrelevant. “I don't know,” “Because,” or “I wasn't thinking,” is the usual child response, resulting in frustrated parents and youngsters who feel embarrassed, stupid or annoyed.Drs. Charles C. Larson and John B. Dockstader, each with more than thirty years of experience working with parents and youngsters, advise parents to step back from situations such as those described and offer, instead, techniques for evaluating and solving family problems without needing to know “Why?”. The authors counsel parents how to determine if a problem exists, who owns the problem and who is best equipped to solve it. Numerous real-life examples are presented to illustrate the problem-solving process and solutions.In Parenting Without Guilt, parents learn not only to solve family problems, but also why the challenges parents and youngsters face today are more demanding than ever before. In addition, parents are guided through each stage of child development, from birth to young adulthood, with attention to typical problems any parent may anticipate. Resources that parents can use to help them resolve family discords are discussed, to include working with educators, clergy, pediatricians, private practitioners and others.With compassion, humor and wisdom gained through practical experience, Drs. Larson and Dockstader offer information and advice that provides any parent with the skills to raise successful children without guilt, anxiety or distress.

The Not Good Enough Mother

The Not Good Enough Mother
Author: Sharon Lamb
Publisher: Beacon Press
Total Pages: 202
Release: 2019-06-25
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0807082465

A psychologist who evaluates the fitness of parents when their children have been removed from their custody finds herself reassessing her own mothering when her son falls victim to the opioid crisis. Psychologist and expert witness Dr. Sharon Lamb evaluates parents, particularly in high-stakes cases concerning the termination of parental rights. The conclusions she reaches can mean that some children are returned home from foster homes. Others are freed for adoption. Well-trained, Lamb generally can decide what’s in the best interests of the child. But when her son’s struggle with opioid addiction comes to light, she starts to doubt her right to make judgments about other mothers. As an expert, a professor, and a mother, Lamb gives voice to the near impossible standards demanded by a society prone to blame mothers when anything befalls their children. She describes vividly the plight of individual parents, mothers in particular, struggling with addiction and mental illness and trying to make stable homes for their kids amid the economic and emotional turmoil of their lives—all in the context of the opioid epidemic that has ravaged her home state of Vermont. In her office, during visits with their children, and in the family court, the parents we meet wait anxiously for Lamb’s verdict: Have they turned their lives around under child welfare’s watchful eye? Do they understand their children’s needs? In short, are they good enough? But what is good enough? Lamb turns that question on herself in the midst of her gradual realization of her son’s opioid addiction. Amazed at her own denial, feeling powerless to help him, Lamb confronts the heartache she can bring into the lives of others and her power to tear families apart.

Being There

Being There
Author: Erica Komisar
Publisher: Penguin
Total Pages: 290
Release: 2017-04-11
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1101992212

A powerful look at the importance of a mother’s presence in the first years of life **Featured in The Wall Street Journal, and seen on Good Morning America, Fox & Friends, and CBS New York** In this important and empowering book, veteran psychoanalyst Erica Komisar explains why a mother's emotional and physical presence in her child's life--especially during the first three years--gives the child a greater chance of growing up emotionally healthy, happy, secure, and resilient. In other words, when it comes to connecting with your baby or toddler, more is more. Compassionate and balanced, and focusing on the emotional health of children and moms alike, this book shows parents how to give their little ones the best chance for developing into healthy and loving adults. Based on more than two decades of clinical work, established psychoanalytic theory, and the most cutting-edge neurobiological research on caregiving, attachment, and brain development, Being There explains: • How to establish emotional connection with a newborn or young child--regardless of whether you're able to work part-time or stay home • How to ease transitions to minimize stress for your baby or toddler • How to select and train quality childcare • What's true and false about widely held beliefs like "I'm not good with babies" and “I’ll make up for it when he’s older” • How to recognize and combat feelings of postpartum depression or boredom • Why three months of maternity leave is not long enough--and how parents can take control of their choices to provide for their family's emotional needs in the first three years Being a new mom isn’t easy. But with support, emotional awareness, and coping skills, it can be the most magical—and essential—work we’ll ever do.

Making Motherhood Work

Making Motherhood Work
Author: Caitlyn Collins
Publisher: Princeton University Press
Total Pages: 361
Release: 2020-05-05
Genre: Political Science
ISBN: 0691202400

The work-family conflict that mothers experience today is a national crisis. Women struggle to balance breadwinning with the bulk of parenting, and social policies aren't helping. Of all Western industrialized countries, the United States ranks dead last for supportive work-family policies. Can American women look to Europe for solutions? Making Motherhood Work draws on interviews that Caitlyn Collins conducted over five years with 135 middle-class working mothers in Sweden, Germany, Italy, and the United States. She explores how women navigate work and family given the different policy supports available in each country. Taking readers into women's homes, neighborhoods, and workplaces, Collins shows that mothers' expectations depend on context and that policies alone cannot solve women's struggles. With women held to unrealistic standards, the best solutions demand that we redefine motherhood, work, and family.

I Was a Really Good Mom Before I Had Kids

I Was a Really Good Mom Before I Had Kids
Author: Trisha Ashworth
Publisher: Chronicle Books
Total Pages: 463
Release: 2010-07-01
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0811871665

I don't know how she does it! is an oft-heard refrain about mothers today. Funnily enough, most moms agree they have no idea how they get it done, or whether they even want the job. Trisha Ashworth and Amy Nobile spoke to mothers of every stripe--working, stay-at-home, part-time--and found a surprisingly similar trend in their interviews. After enthusing about her lucky life for twenty minutes, a mother would then break down and admit that her child's first word was "Shrek." As one mom put it, "Am I happy? The word that describes me best is challenged." Fresh from the front lines of modern motherhood comes a book that uncovers the guilty secrets of moms today . . . in their own words. I Was a Really Good Mom Before I Had Kids diagnoses the craziness and offers real solutions, so that mothers can step out of the madness and learn to love motherhood as much as they love their kids.

Mom Brain

Mom Brain
Author: Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco
Publisher: Guilford Publications
Total Pages: 290
Release: 2021-05-23
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1462543219

Becoming a mother is a joyful rite of passage, but it can also bring overwhelming emotional upheaval, exhaustion, and self-doubt. And is it any wonder? Motherhood changes everything, right down to a woman's brain chemistry. No one understands "mom brain" better than psychologist Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco, a mother of two herself who specializes in treating women with young children. In this compassionate guide, Dr. Dobrow DiMarco shares science-based psychological strategies to help moms cope with common challenges and make peace with their transformed identity. Candid, witty stories from her own life and the lives of women she has worked with illustrate ways to tame self-critical thoughts; navigate the "new normal" of work, marriage, and friendships; and mindfully accept the highs and lows of parenting--even in the toughest moments.

The Kids Will Be Fine

The Kids Will Be Fine
Author: Daisy Waugh
Publisher: Metropolitan Books
Total Pages: 238
Release: 2014-04-29
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1627790136

A bracing, hilarious manifesto for motherhood as it ought to be: spontaneous, loving, and just a little bit selfish Pre-chewing toddler food. Flash cards for two-year-olds. Endless hours of school gatherings to sit through in smiling silence. How did motherhood—which even under the best circumstances comes with a million small costs and compromises—become a venue for female martyrdom, verging on a sort of socially approved mass masochism? How did the great natural force of maternal love get channeled into a simpering, slavish adherence to an inflexible social norm, a repressive sentimentality festooned with hideous pastel baby accessories? How did the bar to good motherhood get set so high that it's impossible for modern mothers not to feel like they're failing? It doesn't have to be this way—and Daisy Waugh is here to tell us how to opt out of the masochism cycle. Part feminist manifesto, part hilarious rant, The Kids Will Be Fine asks modern mothers to stop confusing love with subjugation. This is a book for moms everywhere who are fed up with the constant stream of unsolicited, impractical, guilt-inducing advice directed their way; for moms who have always secretly suspected that children would turn out okay even without handmade organic snacks or protective toddler headgear. With biting wit and lancing observations, Waugh gives women permission to slough off the judgments, order in some pizza, and remember that motherhood is also about the mother.

Mom Guilt

Mom Guilt
Author: Lauren Whitman
Publisher:
Total Pages: 24
Release: 2022-08-22
Genre:
ISBN: 9781645072652