Married Men Coming Out

Married Men Coming Out
Author: David Christel
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
Total Pages: 240
Release: 2017-08-13
Genre: Coming out (Sexual orientation)
ISBN: 9781495933752

"Married Men Coming Out" enables a man to come to terms with the issues surrounding his coming out, reduce and alleviate some of his fears, and give him the strength and courage to become not only a role model for others, but a pioneer and an educator. "The greatest gift you can give anyone is the truest essence of yourself." The purpose of this book is not to provide reasons for or against homosexuality. It is, though, a guidebook for those who, having lived a heterosexual lifestyle, realize that they've made a mistake in denying and suppressing their true identity - that of being attracted to members of their own sex - and now realize that being married and even having children, they can no longer live a double life. They need to be who and what they are: gay. This particular subject receives intense public scrutiny, mostly by way of scandals, thus, making the prospect of coming out that much more terrifying for any man. This book alleviates many of the fears attached to coming out by covering everything a man must face giving him in-depth, personal and data-rich insights, clarity, and focus. Personal stories of those who attended the Married Men's Coming Out Group that I facilitated for six years illustrate numerable situations, many poignant, some heartbreaking, and others humorous. Married men were and still are coming out of the woodwork to finally be who they truly are. No more are they willing to compartmentalize their lives, their relationships, and their hearts - no matter what their religion, state and federal laws, or current trends may be telling them. At heart, this book is about authenticity. Being a non-denominational term, authenticity is described as: "...having a genuine...authority in opposition to that which is false, fictitious, or counterfeit." All human beings want to be the opposite of false, fictitious or counterfeit, yet the vicissitudes of life are such that we work incredibly hard doing just the opposite. Hence, the need for this book is paramount as we each seek to live authentically and in so doing, find some level of inner peace, self-acceptance, integrity, joy, and love without which the world may not evolve to reflect these essential attributes for all of mankind.

Facing the Truth of Your Life

Facing the Truth of Your Life
Author: Merle Yost, LMFT
Publisher: Merle Yost
Total Pages: 392
Release: 2018-01-05
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 0999154710

Among the messages that fly in the face of the usual feel-good sentiments of self-help books, Yost offers readers real challenges to their belief systems: • People “download” much of what their parents have programmed them with, consciously or unconsciously, over generations. Much of it is no longer useful, and is in fact destructive for relationships in today’s world. • Forgiveness is too often used as a cure-all that will make pain go away. It won’t. • Confronting and working through emotional pain is the path to healing and happiness. • Outdated religious mores can actually prevent victims from healing. About the Book Facing the Truth of Your Life will help the reader reframe their view of themselves and their place in life, creating the space to explore and question what they think they know: in short, to face their real truth. With short life stories, exercises and chapters covering spirituality, being a victim, how to parent healthy children, the many faces of shame and how it complicates all of our relationships, Facing the Truth of Your Life challenges the reader to address many of the things we do to prevent our feelings and keep from knowing ourselves. Facing the Truth of Your Life is about walking through your pain. It is about understanding how you became you, how to discard what you were taught about yourself, and how to find out who you really are.

Over the Cliff

Over the Cliff
Author: Bonnie Kaye
Publisher: CCB Publishing
Total Pages: 197
Release: 2011-05
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1926918614

"Over the Cliff" is a self-help book for husbands and wives living in straight/gay marriages. Over three million gay men in the United States and millions more around the world are living double lives in marriages to women due to societal pressures or a lack of understanding their homosexuality at the time of marriage. This book has over a dozen interviews with men who have lived through this experience and offer their insights to others. The book is co-authored by Bonnie Kaye, M.Ed., an internationally recognized counseling specialist for straight wives married to gay men and Doug Dittmer, a gay husband peer counselor who has worked with Kaye over the past five years helping numerous gay men in marriages come to terms with their homosexuality so they can move on to more fulfilling lives. About the Authors Bonnie Kaye is an internationally recognized Relationship Counselor/Author in the field of straight/gay marriages. She has provided relationship counseling for over 25 years with more than 70,000 women who have sexually dysfunctional husbands due to homosexuality, bisexuality, transgenderism or sexual addictions. She is considered an authority in this field by other professionals and the media. Kaye has published five books on straight/gay relationships, which have sold thousands of copies. Her website www.Gayhusbands.com has consistently remained in the number one position on Google, Yahoo, and other major search engines since it's launching in 2000. When media contacts want an expert, they come to Bonnie Kaye who has more experience and expertise than any other person in this country. Her official book website is located at www.BonnieKayeBooks.com. Kaye's other books include: "The Gay Husband Checklist for Women Who Wonder; Doomed Grooms: Gay Husbands of Straight Wives; ManReaders: A Woman's Guide to Dysfunctional Men; Straight Wives: Shattered Lives; Bonnie Kaye's Straight Talk;" and "How I Made My Husband Gay: Myths About Straight Wives." With over 30 years experience in business management, Talent Acquisition and Executive Recruitment, Doug Dittmer's career has depended on his ability to coach clients and employees in problem resolution. Eighteen years into his marriage, Doug faced his own crisis and announced that he was gay. In 1981 Doug put his skills to work to fight discrimination against lesbian, gay and bisexual people. Doug began as a Legislative Lobbyist for the Michigan Organization for Human Rights (MOHR), the State's premier gay rights organization. Within a short time he was elected as the group's Education Officer, charged with the responsibility of educating the general public about lesbian and gay issues. Doug went on to be elected President of the organization. Under his leadership, a task force of volunteer litigation attorneys was recruited to overturn Michigan's sodomy statutes. Two years later, in MOHR v. Kelly, MOHR achieved that objective when the Wayne County Circuit Court ruled the statute as unconstitutional. In November 1985, the Detroit City Council recognized his achievements and leadership in the area of human rights by awarding him the Spirit of Detroit Award. Over the years since, Doug has reached out to other gay men coming to terms with their sexuality in mid-life, acting as peer counselor and coach.

Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi?

Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi?
Author: Joe Kort
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield
Total Pages: 241
Release: 2014-09-11
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 144222326X

Jennifer can’t believe it. Just married and pregnant, she discovers that her husband has been meeting Brad for sex. When confronted, Tom doesn’t deny it, but he insists it’s just “a thing” and he isn’t gay. Elsewhere, John’s wife, Karen, discovers that her husband likes to watch gay porn. John doesn’t understand his wife’s reaction. Why does she care what he watches if he’s not unfaithful? In couple’s therapy, Karen and Jennifer raise the same questions: Does this mean my husband is gay? Can my marriage survive? These and other stories illustrate the difficulties inherent when a wife or girlfriend finds out her man has had or wants to have sexual contact with other men. But many times, the man is not gay or even bisexual. Of course, some men with gay sexual interests are gay men in a process of self-discovery; they are “coming out.” These desires may only reflect a different side of a man’s sexuality or some response to childhood trauma or experiences they have not fully processed. Here Joe Kort and Alexander P. Morgan make the distinction between gay men and “straight men with gay interests” clearer to women who want to know how they can overcome these revelations. The authors explain the many reasons why straight men may be drawn to gay sex; how to tell whether a man is gay, straight, or bisexual; and what the various options are for these couples, who can often go on to have very fulfilling marriages. Is My Husband Gay, Straight or Bi? is intended to help couples understand how male sexuality can express itself in ways that may be difficult to understand. Many marriages have been hurriedly terminated when couples (and their therapists) have lacked the information they needed to understand their current situations. This book provides the clarity, describes the choices, and (in many cases) offers hope for relationships and marriages that have been brushed off as doomed.

An Impossible Marriage

An Impossible Marriage
Author: Laurie Krieg
Publisher: InterVarsity Press
Total Pages: 231
Release: 2020-10-27
Genre: Religion
ISBN: 0830847944

Laurie and Matt Krieg are in a mixed-orientation marriage: Laurie is primarily attracted to women—and so is Matt. With vulnerability and wisdom, they tell the story of how they met and got married, the challenges and breakthroughs of their journey, and what they've learned about how marriage is meant to point us to the love and grace of Jesus.

Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others

Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others
Author: John T. Molloy
Publisher: Grand Central Publishing
Total Pages: 138
Release: 2008-12-14
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0446554138

A groundbreaking book--based on years of the same thorough research that made the "Dress For Success" books national bestsellers--about how women can statistically improve their chances of getting married.

Finally Out

Finally Out
Author: Loren A. Olson
Publisher:
Total Pages: 304
Release: 2017-04
Genre: Biography & Autobiography
ISBN: 9780997961430

Dr. Loren A. Olson has frequently been asked two questions: How could you not know that you were gay until the age of forty? Wasn't your marriage just a sham to protect yourself at your wife's expense? In Finally Out, Dr. Olson answers these questions by telling the inspiring story of his evolving sexuality, into which he intelligently weaves psychological concepts and gay history. This book is a powerful exploration of human sexuality, particularly the sexuality of mature men who, like Dr. Olson, lived a large part of their lives as straight men--sometimes long after becoming aware of their same-sex attractions. Readers will come to understand: - That there is no universal model for coming out - Why many older LGBTQ men came out late, do not come out at all, or come out to varying degrees in different environments - How stigma has created mental health problems for isolated and closeted men who have sex with men, particularly in geographical areas and cultures where there is little or no acceptance of homosexuality - How sexual function changes but perhaps even improves for older men - That aging creates opportunities that one has never had and may never have again, e.g., freedom from the tyranny of ambition - That some people consistently prefer an older sexual partner and this can lead to stable, intergenerational relationships - How same-sex sexual activity was considered prior to the Stonewall uprising in 1969 contrasted with the way it is perceived after Stonewall - How age, culture, geographical location, heterosexual marriage, and children impact a person's decision to come out - Why "conversion therapy" does not work and may be harmful - The difference between homophobia and homonaïveté - The archetypes of self-identified straight men who seek occasional or regular sex with other men - How to overcome the shame and guilt experienced by men who are sexually attracted to other men

The Lie

The Lie
Author: William Dameron
Publisher: Little a
Total Pages: 0
Release: 2019
Genre: BIOGRAPHY & AUTOBIOGRAPHY
ISBN: 9781542044745

A candid memoir of denial, stolen identities, betrayal, faking it, and coming out. Do you know me?, the email began, sparking tremors of fear that turned into a full quake of panic when William Dameron discovered that his selfie had been stolen by strangers. On social networks and dating sites, his image and identity--a forty-year-old straight white male--had been used to hook countless women into believing in lies of love and romance. Was it all an ironic cosmic joke? Almost a decade prior, William himself had been living a lie that had lasted for more than twenty years. His secret? He was a gay man, a fact he hid from his wife and two daughters for almost as long as he had hidden it from himself. In this emotional and unflinchingly honest memoir of coming out of the closet late in life, owning up to the past, and facing the future, William Dameron confronts steroid addiction, the shame and homophobia of his childhood, the sledgehammer of secrets that slowly tore his marriage apart, and his love for a gay father of three that would once again challenge the boundaries of trust. At the true heart of The Lie is a universal story about turning self-doubt into self-acceptance and about pain, anger, and the long journey of both seeking and giving forgiveness.

Just Tell the Truth

Just Tell the Truth
Author: Terry L. Norman
Publisher:
Total Pages: 171
Release: 1998
Genre: Coming out (Sexual orientation)
ISBN: 9780966479607

Love What Matters

Love What Matters
Author: LoveWhatMatters
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Total Pages: 413
Release: 2017-05-02
Genre: Body, Mind & Spirit
ISBN: 1501169149

In the bestselling tradition of The Five People You Meet in Heaven and Humans of New York comes a collection of authentic, emotional, and inspiring stories about life’s most important moments, as curated by the editors at Love What Matters. “90% of the reads bring me to tears. I just can't believe the love this world truly has when all we see is hate. This is so uplifting.” —Shelsea Where do you go when you want to feel inspired? When you want to forget about the divisiveness and the anger? For over five million people, that place is Love What Matters, a digital platform dedicated to finding and sharing the daily moments of kindness, compassion, and love that so often go overlooked. This curated collection of powerful stories features first person accounts and photographs that perfectly capture each moment: A husband learning he’s about to be a dad. A new mom embracing her body. A cashier inadvertently teaching a young girl a lesson about patience. A bagel from a stranger that saved a homeless man’s life. From long overdue adoptions to military heroes returning home; from a fireman’s touching 9/11 tribute to what an old dinner plate found at a bake sale can teach us all about life—these are the moments that matter. They are genuine. Authentic. Raw. And they are perfect in their imperfection—just like all of us. You will no doubt experience goosebumps and tears, but this mosaic of life’s moments will leave you with something even more profound: a reminder that, in the end, love always wins. “This really is the best page on Facebook. It renews your love of humanity. There are still good people. We need more reports of acts of kindness.” —Johnny