Losing Control, Finding Serenity

Losing Control, Finding Serenity
Author: Daniel A. Miller
Publisher: Ebb and Flow Press
Total Pages: 196
Release: 2012-07-12
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 0982893000

ForeWord Reviews 2012 Book of the Year Award Finalist! What Would Your Life Be Like If You Simply Let Go of Control? At work, they oversee every detail of every project and expect nothing less than perfection from their coworkers.At home, they obsess over finding the "right" person. Then, they criticize their lover or spouse for doing everything wrong.As parents, they practice zero tolerance for their children's preferred study practices, choice of friends, dress choices, and differing life views.Sound familiar? Everyone knows the type: micromanagers, nitpickers, and domestic despots. Yet, most people fail to recognize the signs of a compulsion to control in themselves-or realize the toll of their behavior on their career, their family, their friendships, and their own happiness. In Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control Hurts Us and How to Let It Go (Ebb and Flow Press, 2011) Daniel Miller pinpoints the dangers of excessive control, which goes far beyond setting limits and standards, in all aspects of life. What's more, he shows those who feel the pressure to control how to break free and reap unexpected gifts. Sharing his journey of transformation, Miller reveals what happened when he finally decided to "surrender": his blinders fell away, new opportunities emerged, and he experienced unprecedented, profound inner peace.Drawing on psychological insights, spiritual wisdom, and the real-life stories of acknowledged "control freaks," Losing Control, Finding Serenity guides readers through an honest inventory of their control patterns-whether prodding, cajoling, withdrawing, playing the martyr, or intimidating-down to the roots. As most controllers will discover, their compulsion to control is provoked by deep-seated fear, anxieties, and insecurities, then aggravated by anger and resentments. Filled with enlightening true stories, Losing Control, Finding Serenity gives readers the knowledge, the courage, the strategies, and the "decontrol" tools to: *Identify and overcome the control triggers of fear, anger, and resentment. *Avoid avoidance, with techniques for overcoming procrastination and reassuring exercises for resisting the urge to withdraw from loved ones. *Become a less domineering parent, build a family democracy, and reduce the struggles with children. *Find and keep the right person by accepting who he or she is rather than trying to change their romantic partner. *Delegate to and trust coworkers to reap increases in productivity, efficiency, and job satisfaction-and reduce conflict and dissension. *Learn to be patient and calmly accept "what is," even when adversity strikes, to enjoy a more fulfilling and serene life. * Pursue your passions and achieve greater life balance in a chaotic, unpredictable world that's frequently beyond anyone's control Losing Control, Finding Serenity offers welcome encouragement and validation for going with the flow of life as it is: an ongoing, every changing mystery. Find out how losing control really means gaining control!

Losing Control, Finding Serenity

Losing Control, Finding Serenity
Author: Daniel Miller
Publisher:
Total Pages:
Release: 2017
Genre:
ISBN: 9780982893043

ForeWord Reviews Book of the Year Award Finalist!What Would Your Life Be Like If You Simply Let Go of Control?At work, they oversee every detail of every project and expect nothing less than perfection from their coworkers.At home, they obsess over finding the "right" person. Then, they criticize their lover or spouse for doing everything wrong.As parents, they practice zero tolerance for their children's preferred study practices, choice of friends, dress choices, and differing life views.Sound familiar? Everyone knows the type: micromanagers, nitpickers, and domestic despots. Yet, most people fail to recognize the signs of a compulsion to control in themselves--or realize the toll of their behavior on their career, their family, their friendships, and their own happiness.In Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control Hurts Us and How to Let It Go, Daniel A. Miller pinpoints the dangers of excessive control. What's more, he shows those who feel the pressure to control how to break free and reap unexpected gifts.Sharing his journey of transformation, Miller reveals what happened when he finally decided to "surrender": his blinders fell away, new opportunities emerged, and he experienced unprecedented, profound inner peace.Drawing on psychological insights, spiritual wisdom, and the real-life stories of acknowledged "control freaks," Losing Control, Finding Serenity guides readers through an honest inventory of their control patterns--whether prodding, cajoling, withdrawing, playing the martyr, or intimidating--down to the roots. As most controllers will discover, their compulsion to control is provoked by deep-seated fear, anxieties, and insecurities, then aggravated by anger and resentments.Filled with enlightening true stories, Losing Control, Finding Serenity gives readers the knowledge, the courage, the strategies, and the "decontrol" tools to:Identify and overcome the control triggers of fear, anger, and resentment.Become a less domineering parent, build a family democracy, and reduce the struggles with children.Find and keep the right person by accepting who he or she is rather than trying to change their romantic partner.Free your creative flow and process.Delegate to and trust coworkers to reap increases in productivity, efficiency, and job satisfaction--and reduce conflict and dissension.Learn to be patient and calmly accept "what is," even when adversity strikes, to enjoy a more fulfilling and serene life.In a chaotic, unpredictable world that's frequently beyond anyone's control, Losing Control, Finding Serenity offers welcome encouragement and validation for going with the flow of life as it is: an ongoing, every changing mystery.Find out how losing control really means gaining control.Critical Acclaim For the Book:"Daniel A. Miller has done an amazing job in delving deeply into the crevices of how most us would need to be in control, one way or another--in varying degrees--not always realizing how it rules and affects our lives and even more so--the lives and happiness of others. Daniel has clearly lived it, seen the damage, and has learned from it and has designed a formula to teach people how to change these controls by finding, understanding and releasing issues one step at a time. He has created a way of guiding and educating the reader, in a very understandable and logical way, to help everyone "Let Go". A must read for everyone!"--IN LIGHT TIMES

The Gifts of Acceptance: Embracing People and Things As They Are

The Gifts of Acceptance: Embracing People and Things As They Are
Author: Daniel A Miller
Publisher: Ebb and Flow Press
Total Pages: 218
Release: 2022-01-27
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN:

A Library Journal Best Wellness Book of 2018! 2018 Self-Help Silver Medal Winner--Independent Book Publishers Association! 2018 Non-Fiction Audio Book Silver Medal Winner--Independent Book Publishers Association! 2018 Foreword Reviews Book of the Year Award Finalist--Family & Relationships! WHAT WOULD YOUR LIFE BE LIKE IF YOU ACCEPTED PEOPLE AND THINGS AS THEY ARE? Do you wish your parents had been more nurturing and supportive? Are you wondering if you’ll ever find your perfect soul mate and dream boss? Do you wish you had “perfect” children, relatives who never fight, and friends who always agree with you? No one gets to sail through life free of turbulence. What separates people who shake it off, bounce back, and stay positive from the bitter, never satisfied, and defeated? Best-selling author and former compulsive controller Daniel A. Miller convincingly attests that the answer is choosing acceptance. In THE GIFTS OF ACCEPTANCE: EMBRACING PEOPLE AND THINGS AS THEY ARE, Danny shares what he’s learned—through extensive research, inspiring true stories, and his own experience with hardships—about the integral relationship between accepting the facts of life and others, with their quirks, flaws, and differences, and enjoying greater satisfaction in life. Recognizing the benefits of acceptance isn’t difficult. Yet the reality of accepting an unexpected job loss or financial setbacks, a friend’s betrayal, a child’s struggle with addiction, a serious illness, or even the annoying traits of a loved one can be extremely challenging. To make it easier, THE GIFTS OF ACCEPTANCE offers insights, intentions, and strategies for practicing acceptance of parents, a significant other, children, siblings and extended family, coworkers, friends, and foes; of life’s adversities and the limitations of getting older; and, perhaps toughest of all, of yourself. You will learn how practicing acceptance helps you * Navigate life’s ups and downs more easily * Enjoy greater trust, openness, and intimacy with your loved ones and those closest to you * Survive control freaks, foes, and other crazy makers *Lift self-imposed burdens and obligations and experience less stress, frustration, and worry * Reduce the struggle with your children * Strengthen bonds with coworkers and business associates * Discover new choices and opportunities in the most discouraging situations * Turn setbacks and failures to future successes * Find the path to assured self-acceptance THE GIFTS OF ACCEPTANCE is a book with the potential to repair relationships, revitalize careers, and make the world a better place.

Letting go of the Need to Control

Letting go of the Need to Control
Author: Ann M.
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Total Pages: 22
Release: 2011-01-25
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 1616491132

Control issues are common among those of us who are chemically dependent. This pamphlet provides constructive methods to let go of self-defeating behaviors. Control issues are common among those of us who are chemically dependent. This pamphlet provides constructive methods to let go of self-defeating behaviors.

Finding Serenity

Finding Serenity
Author: Jane Espenson
Publisher: Smart Pop
Total Pages: 258
Release: 2005-03-11
Genre: Fiction
ISBN:

In this eclectic anthology of essays, former cast member Jewel Staite, "Kaylee," philosopher Lyle Zynda, sex therapist Joy Davidson, and noted science fiction and fantasy authors Mercedes Lackey, David Gerrold, and Lawrence Watt-Evans contribute to a clever and insightful analysis of the short-lived cult hit "Firefly."

Finding Peace in an Out of Control World

Finding Peace in an Out of Control World
Author: Cindy Nolte
Publisher:
Total Pages: 246
Release: 2015-01-08
Genre:
ISBN: 9780615959900

"The ideas in this book can help you take back your power, connect with yourself, feel strong connections within, and recognize that everything has a purpose. Coming from that perspective, you will not only believe that everything will be okay, you'll also feel it and live it every day." Finally achieve the inner peace for which you've always searched with #1 bestselling author Cindy Nolte's inspirational new book, "Finding Peace in an Out of Control World." As daily life pummels us with its everyday stresses and unexpected obstacles, it is sometimes difficult to see a way out. But with Nolte's no-nonsense approach, achieving your dreams is more possible now than ever before. Encouraging a balanced lifestyle that brings peace to the mind, body, and spirit, this easy-to-read volume guides you through the journey of becoming reacquainted-with yourself! Readers will learn to become present in their own lives and enjoy each moment for what it is instead of what they wish it to be. Embrace a life of passion with" Finding Peace in an Out of Control World" and gain a new clarity about what life has in store.

Surrender, Submit, Serve Her.

Surrender, Submit, Serve Her.
Author: Key Barrett
Publisher:
Total Pages: 151
Release: 2016-12-22
Genre:
ISBN: 9781520203263

What is 'Female Leadership'? It's accepting that 'She knows best' in all matters. From the finances to the household to how best to accomplish long-term goals. It's trusting in Her judgement to run things and embracing 'Her way'. This doesn't make the man weak, just the opposite, because men are the best at 'getting things done' when the task is clearly defined but difficult to do. A Female Dominant Household plays to both side's strengths and minimizes weaknesses, leading to Female empowerment, greater satisfaction in the relationship, trust, bonding and yes, mind-blowing sex.Surrender, Submit, Serve Her seeks to help implement your Female Led household through tools like the Command and Conquer meeting (commanding and conquering tasks and roadblocks, not people), laying out the contract of servitude (clearly defining her dominion and removing unnecessary confusion) and crafting your own pledge that personalizes and empowers the act of his submission.Surrender, Submit, Serve Her has been nominated for the BDSM Writers Con 2017 Golden Flogger Awards for BEST BDSM Book of the Year in the Non-fiction category.Updated for 2018! Better formatting and new content.

Chasing Serenity: A River Rain Novel

Chasing Serenity: A River Rain Novel
Author: Kristen Ashley
Publisher: Blue Box Press
Total Pages: 588
Release: 2021-09-07
Genre: Fiction
ISBN: 1952457556

New York Times and USA Today bestselling author Kristen Ashley brings a new novel in her River Rain series… From a very young age, Chloe Pierce was trained to look after the ones she loved. And she was trained by the best. But when the man who looked after her was no longer there, Chloe is cast adrift—just as the very foundation of her life crumbled to pieces. Then she runs into tall, lanky, unpretentious Judge Oakley, her exact opposite. She shops. He hikes. She drinks pink ladies. He drinks beer. She’s a city girl. He’s a mountain guy. Obviously, this means they have a blowout fight upon meeting. Their second encounter doesn’t go a lot better. Judge is loving the challenge. Chloe is everything he doesn’t want in a woman, but he can’t stop finding ways to spend time with her. He knows she’s dealing with loss and change. He just doesn’t know how deep that goes. Or how ingrained it is for Chloe to care for those who have a place in her heart, how hard it will be to trust anyone to look after her… And how much harder it is when it’s his turn.

Wit's End

Wit's End
Author: Sue Scheff
Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.
Total Pages: 194
Release: 2008-04-29
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0757306977

Sue Scheff turned to a therapeutic boarding school for solutions to her out-of-control teenage daughters behavior problems. Wits End is the story of how her attempt at saving her troubled teen turned into a nightmare and includes the program that she now implements to consult other parents who are at wits end through her national organization Parents Universal Resource Experts (PURE).

That's Outside My Boat

That's Outside My Boat
Author: Charlie Jones
Publisher: Andrews McMeel Publishing
Total Pages: 222
Release: 2013-07-30
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 1449442404

The sportscaster and New York Times–bestselling author shares a mantra for success that changed his life—and can change your business. When veteran television announcer Charlie Jones got assigned to the hinterlands of Olympic broadcasting to cover rowing, canoeing, and kayaking, he serendipitously discovered a powerful philosophy for focused living: That’s Outside My Boat. He learned that Olympic rowers never let anything outside their boat prevent them from achieving their goals. Wind, rain, sun, lane assignments, and broken oars were outside their boat, and therefore, simply did not exist. Here, Jones, with coauthor Kim Doren, shows how the world of business—and all aspects of life—can greatly benefit when this same perspective is applied. The book uses the power of the personal example to show how deciding what’s important and focusing on it fosters success. Bob Wright, vice chairman of General Electric; Terry Bradshaw, NFL broadcaster and TV personality; Jack Kemp, codirector of Empower America; Liz Dolan, former Nike corporate vice president; and many other business leaders apply this philosophy to their own experience in That’s Outside My Boat—a powerful tool for business and for life. “A veteran TV announcer finds in Olympic rowing a metaphor for focused living and working.” —Publishers Weekly “An Olympic-size lesson in focus.” —Inc.