Free from Lies: Discovering Your True Needs

Free from Lies: Discovering Your True Needs
Author: Alice Miller
Publisher: W. W. Norton & Company
Total Pages: 283
Release: 2010-06-07
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0393338509

"A clarion call from one of the great psychological mins of our time." Saybrook Graduate School and Research Center, San Francisco --

The Truth Will Set You Free

The Truth Will Set You Free
Author: Alice Miller
Publisher: Basic Books
Total Pages: 222
Release: 2007-03-21
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0465004628

More than twenty years ago, a little-known Swiss psychoanalyst wrote a book that changed the way many people viewed themselves and their world. In simple but powerful prose, the deeply moving Drama of the Gifted Child showed how parents unconsciously form and deform the emotional lives of their children. Alice Miller's stories about the roots of suffering in childhood resonated with readers, and her book soon became a backlist best seller. In The Truth Will Set You Free Miller returns to the intensely personal tone and themes of her best-loved work. Only by embracing the truth of our past histories can any of us hope to be free of pain in the present, she argues. Miller uses vivid true stories to reveal the perils of early-childhood mistreatment and the dangers of mindless obedience to parental will. Drawing on the latest research on brain development, she shows how spanking and humiliation produce dangerous levels of denial, which leads in turn to emotional blindness and to mental barriers that cut off awareness and the ability to learn new ways of acting. If this cycle repeats itself, the grown child will perpetrate the same abuse on later generations -- a message vitally important, especially given the increasing popularity of programs like Tough Love and of "child disciplinarians" like James Dobson. The Truth Will Set You Free will provoke and inform all readers who want to know Alice Miller's latest thinking on this important subject.

The Drama of the Gifted Child

The Drama of the Gifted Child
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Publisher: Basic Books
Total Pages: 144
Release: 2008-12-15
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0786743611

This “rare and compelling” (New York Magazine) bestseller examines childhood trauma and the enduring effects it has on an individual's management of repressed anger and pain. Why are many of the most successful people plagued by feelings of emptiness and alienation? This wise and profound book has provided millions of readers with an answer--and has helped them to apply it to their own lives. Far too many of us had to learn as children to hide our own feelings, needs, and memories skillfully in order to meet our parents' expectations and win their "love." Alice Miller writes, "When I used the word 'gifted' in the title, I had in mind neither children who receive high grades in school nor children talented in a special way. I simply meant all of us who have survived an abusive childhood thanks to an ability to adapt even to unspeakable cruelty by becoming numb.... Without this 'gift' offered us by nature, we would not have survived." But merely surviving is not enough. The Drama of the Gifted Child helps us to reclaim our life by discovering our own crucial needs and our own truth.

Banished Knowledge

Banished Knowledge
Author: Alice Miller
Publisher: Anchor
Total Pages: 194
Release: 1991-09-01
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 0385267622

From the author of the bestselling classic The Drama of the Gifted Child—a book that believes that children are inherently good and traces all forms of criminal deeds to past mistreatments. In direct opposition to the Freudian drive theory, "Alice Miller writes lucidly and passionately, asks daring questions and sees through conventions that most of us take for granted" (San Francisco Chronicle).

The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting

The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting
Author: Alice Miller
Publisher: W. W. Norton & Company
Total Pages: 231
Release: 2006-07-25
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0393328635

This is an empowering work from a world-renowned psychoanalyst that enables readers to come to terms with their repressed emotions and break the cycle of violence.

Discover Your True Self

Discover Your True Self
Author: Chip Ingram
Publisher: Baker Books
Total Pages: 240
Release: 2020-08-18
Genre: Religion
ISBN: 1493421395

Seeing yourself as God sees you is essential to overcoming your deepest struggles, having healthy relationships, living in freedom, and fulfilling your life purpose. Yet most of us look at ourselves with warped mirrors, believing lies that lead to shame, guilt, fear, insecurity, and spiritual stagnation. The lies of our past keep us stuck, struggling with the same issues and habits for years. But according to the first three chapters of Ephesians, that's not how God sees us at all. Pastor and author Chip Ingram wants to open your eyes to your true self, the "new you" that God sees, the person who is immeasurably valuable and beautiful. In this Scripture-soaked book, he shows you how getting God's perspective - satisfies your search for significance - undoes your shame - makes you secure - frees you from comparing yourself with others - helps you discover your calling - and more Are you ready to see yourself as God sees you? Then let Chip Ingram show you how to silence the lies of your past and experience your true identity.

Thou Shalt Not Be Aware

Thou Shalt Not Be Aware
Author: Alice Miller
Publisher: Macmillan + ORM
Total Pages: 463
Release: 1998-10-15
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 146680677X

A strong criticism of Sigmund Freud’s research regarding sexually abused children, from the bestselling author of The Drama of the Gifted Child. Originally published in 1984, Thou Shalt Not Be Aware explodes Freud’s notions of “infantile sexuality” and helps to bring to the world’s attention the brutal reality of child abuse, changing forever our thoughts of “traditional” methods of child-rearing. Dr. Alice Miller exposes the harsh truths behind children’s “fantasies” by examining case histories, works of literature, dreams, and the lives of such people as Franz Kafka, Virginia Woolf, Gustave Flaubert, and Samuel Beckett. Now with a new preface by Lloyd de Mause and a new introduction by the author, Thou Shalt Not Be Aware continues to bring an essential understanding to the confrontation and treatment of the devastating effects of child abuse. Praise for Thou Shalt Not Be Aware “Epoch-making . . . Alice Miller’s courage, warmth, experienced intuition and candor yield fascinating insights.” —The Boston Globe “A provocative critique of traditional therapy’s view of childhood . . . This is explosive stuff. I can’t imagine anyone coming away from this book without several newfound discoveries about herself and her relation to her parents.” —Glamour “Thou Shalt Not Be Aware is that rarest of gems, a highly creative and exciting work which throws a multifaceted light upon the development of human nature in the Western World.” —Ashley Montagu “Alice Miller is not out to “hang the bastards,” but rather to help create a world of self-conscious and self-loving individuals who don’t need, want or know how to abuse others.” —San Francisco Chronicle “It is timely. It is powerful. It is painful . . . absorbing, enlightening and provoking.” —Charlotte Observer

For Your Own Good

For Your Own Good
Author: Alice Miller
Publisher: Farrar, Straus and Giroux
Total Pages: 324
Release: 2002-11-14
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 1466806761

For Your Own Good, the contemporary classic exploring the serious if not gravely dangerous consequences parental cruelty can bring to bear on children everywhere, is one of the central works by Alice Miller, the celebrated Swiss psychoanalyst. With her typically lucid, strong, and poetic language, Miller investigates the personal stories and case histories of various self-destructive and/or violent individuals to expand on her theories about the long-term affects of abusive child-rearing. Her conclusions—on what sort of parenting can create a drug addict, or a murderer, or a Hitler—offer much insight, and make a good deal of sense, while also straying far from psychoanalytic dogma about human nature, which Miller vehemently rejects. This important study paints a shocking picture of the violent world—indeed, of the ever-more-violent world—that each generation helps to create when traditional upbringing, with its hidden cruelty, is perpetuated. The book also presents readers with useful solutions in this regard—namely, to resensitize the victimized child who has been trapped within the adult, and to unlock the emotional life that has been frozen in repression.

The Best Lies

The Best Lies
Author: Sarah Lyu
Publisher: Simon & Schuster Books for Young Readers
Total Pages: 352
Release: 2019-07-02
Genre: Young Adult Fiction
ISBN: 1481498835

“A gripping story of love, obsession, and the space in between.” —Kirkus Reviews Gone Girl meets Suicide Notes from Beautiful Girls in this mesmerizing debut novel about a toxic friendship that turns deadly. Remy Tsai used to know how her story would turn out. But now, she doesn’t even know what tomorrow will look like. She was happy once. Remy had her boyfriend Jack, and Elise, her best friend—her soulmate—who understood her better than anyone else in the world. But now Jack is dead, shot through the chest… And it was Elise who pulled the trigger. Was it self-defense? Or something darker than anything Remy could imagine? As the police investigate, Remy does the same, sifting through her own memories, looking for a scrap of truth that could save the friendship that means everything to her. Told in alternating timelines, this twisted psychological thriller explores the dark side of obsessive friendship.