Coping with Your Difficult Older Parent

Coping with Your Difficult Older Parent
Author: Grace Lebow
Publisher: Harper Collins
Total Pages: 297
Release: 2011-08-02
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 0062111965

Do You Have An Aging Parent Who -- Blames you for everything that goes wrong? Cannot tolerate being alone, wants you all the time? Is obsessed with health problems, real, or imagined? Make unreasonable and/or irrational demands of you? Is hostile, negative and critical? Coping with these traits in parents is an endless high-stress battle for their children. Though there's no medical defination for "difficult" parents, you know when you have one. While it's rare for adults to change their ways late in life, you can stop the vicious merry-go-round of anger, blame, guilt and frustration. For the first time, here's a common-sense guide from professionals, with more than two decades in the field, on how to smooth communications with a challenging parent. Filled with practical tips for handling contentious behaviors and sample dialogues for some of the most troubling situations, this book addresses many hard issues, including: How to tell your parent he or she cannot live with you. How to avoid the cycle of nagging and recriminations How to prevent your parent's negativity from overwhelming you. How to deal with an impaired parent who refuses to stop driving. How to asses the risk factors in deciding whether a parent is still able to live alone.

Families Caring for an Aging America

Families Caring for an Aging America
Author: National Academies of Sciences, Engineering, and Medicine
Publisher: National Academies Press
Total Pages: 367
Release: 2016-11-08
Genre: Medical
ISBN: 0309448093

Family caregiving affects millions of Americans every day, in all walks of life. At least 17.7 million individuals in the United States are caregivers of an older adult with a health or functional limitation. The nation's family caregivers provide the lion's share of long-term care for our older adult population. They are also central to older adults' access to and receipt of health care and community-based social services. Yet the need to recognize and support caregivers is among the least appreciated challenges facing the aging U.S. population. Families Caring for an Aging America examines the prevalence and nature of family caregiving of older adults and the available evidence on the effectiveness of programs, supports, and other interventions designed to support family caregivers. This report also assesses and recommends policies to address the needs of family caregivers and to minimize the barriers that they encounter in trying to meet the needs of older adults.

How to Care for Aging Parents

How to Care for Aging Parents
Author: Virginia Morris
Publisher: Workman Publishing
Total Pages: 724
Release: 2004-10-15
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN:

Thoroughly updated and expanded, a compassionate, single-volume reference to the many emotional, legal, financial, medical, and logistical issues associated with caring for aging parents covers such areas as nursing homes, finances, finding a good doctor, legal arrangements, redefining parental relationships, and handling emotional challenges. Original.

Coping with Un-Cope-Able Parents

Coping with Un-Cope-Able Parents
Author: Carol-Ann Hamilton
Publisher: BalboaPress
Total Pages: 134
Release: 2012-09-14
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 1452554862

Do you: Meet unquantifiable resistance in merely hinting its time your headstrong parents leave their decades-old residence? Battle belligerently at daring to suggest household caregivers to your defiant folks, given their progressive inability to perform basic daily tasks? Serve up your total human capacity to your unappreciative relatives without coming close to filling their bottomless pit? Enter resident expert Carol-Ann Hamilton. Her unique termun-cope-ableperfectly describes her own intractable duo. Through painful personal experience across decades, Carol-Ann has discovered and tested twelve innovative Keys to Coping. Eureka! Success! Engage with the Impossible Parents Questionnaire and overcome 10 hair-yanking eldercare challenges Apply 6 LOVING attitudes and stay centered during crazy-making exchanges Gain 6 down-to-earth ACTION strategies that guarantee your targeted efforts will achieve headway Be inspired by others illuminating stories, knowing youre not alone anymore Benefit from Carol-Anns hard-won lessons. Share her poignant yet hilarious journey. Get the support you needNOW. Say good-bye to feeling victimized and over-burdened. Say hello to relief and hope in Coping with Un-cope-able Parents!

The Caregiving Season

The Caregiving Season
Author: Jane Daly
Publisher: NavPress
Total Pages: 209
Release: 2016-09-01
Genre: Religion
ISBN: 1624057675

Caring for elderly parents is challenging. It’s a season of life that requires grace and strength that can only come from God. In The Caregiving Season, Jane Daly shares personal caregiving stories, offering practical advice to help you honor your aging parents well and deepen your personal relationship with Christ along the journey.

Forget Me Not

Forget Me Not
Author: Alan P. Siegal
Publisher:
Total Pages: 176
Release: 1993
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 9780890876916

Offers advice for making decisions related to the care of an elderly parent and discusses the emotional consequences and support services available for the caregiver and family members.

Role Reversal

Role Reversal
Author: Iris Waichler, MSW, LCSW
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Total Pages: 259
Release: 2016-08-16
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 163152092X

Designed to help caregivers understand how to cope with and overcome the overwhelming challenges that arise while caregiving for a loved one—especially an aging parent—Role Reversal is a comprehensive guide to navigating the enormous daily challenges faced by caregivers. In these pages, Waichler blends her personal experience caring for her beloved father with her forty years of expertise as a patient advocate and clinical social worker. The result is a book offering invaluable information on topics ranging from estate planning to grief and anger to building a support network and finding the right level of care for your elderly parent.

Taking Care of Parents Who Didn't Take Care of You

Taking Care of Parents Who Didn't Take Care of You
Author: Eleanor Cade
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Total Pages: 143
Release: 2009-08-19
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1592858600

A self-help guide for those who have to take care of their aging parents. Caring for aging parents is difficult-it's exhausting, expensive, time-consuming, and under appreciated. And that's under the best of circumstances, when the caregiver loves and respects his or her aging parent. What happens when adult children are asked to care for elderly parents who were abusive, neglectful, or absent? Here is a compassionate and practical guide to facing the psychological and emotional issues that arise when caring for aging parents. Eleanor Cade offers sound as well as personal accounts from individuals who have made the choice to care for difficult parents. The result is a powerful guide to moving beyond feelings of anger, regret, and grief in order to build healthy new family dynamics based on decency and mercy.Target audience For individuals who are caring for aging, dysfunctional parents, as well as counselors and therapists who work with familiesFeaturesan authoritative resource for baby boomers caring for aging parentsdefines differences between "normal" and "dysfunctional" familiespersonal stories validate the experiences and feelings of readers

When Your Aging Parent Needs Help

When Your Aging Parent Needs Help
Author: Leslie Kernisan, MD
Publisher:
Total Pages: 220
Release: 2021-02-11
Genre:
ISBN: 9781736153208

It's scary and stressful when it happens ... noticing changes in your parent and becoming increasingly worried about their health and safety. Maybe it's Mom leaving the stove on, Dad getting lost on his way home, or unpaid bills that trigger this realization. Or perhaps there have been falls or emergency room visits. Whatever it is, you know something's wrong. You wonder about a diagnosis. And you want your aging parent to accept help, or perhaps move. Helping an older parent can be gratifying. But it's especially hard if they're blowing off your concerns, refusing to make changes, or otherwise resisting your efforts. You want them to listen, but they get upset or withdraw when you try to talk about this. What to do? You don't have to remain stuck in conflict with your parent (or other family members). You don't have to keep getting the runaround from doctors or feel stumped about next steps. Instead, use an expert's clear plan on how to help your aging parent. In this practical, step-by-step guide, geriatrician Leslie Kernisan, MD, walks you through what to do and what to say in order to offer respectful assistance and intervention to a declining elderly parent. Full of actionable advice and insider tips, When Your Aging Parent Needs Help provides practical and flexible steps that move concerned families toward effective elder care action, while respecting a parent's dignity and autonomy. You'll discover: How to communicate with your aging parent to reduce conflicts and enhance cooperation The A-B-C-D-E assessment framework for Alzheimer or other dementia concerns, safety issues, or independent living - and steps to implement change Strategies to overcome parental resistance, health provider reluctance to share information, and family disagreement How to get a medical evaluation for memory loss and, if applicable, a diagnosis for Alzheimer's or another dementia What to know about possible mental "incompetence," powers of attorney, HIPAA, and other options for gaining legal authority as a caregiver How to find geriatric care managers and other eldercare professionals to assist Downloadable worksheets, symptom checkers, and checklists to bring to doctor visits "What this looks like" family stories that show you what these action steps look like in real-world situations Transform good intentions into workable solutions and improved relationships. If you're concerned about an aging parent's health, wellbeing, or safety, you'll find encouragement and direction for this next life stage in When Your Aging Parent Needs Help.