Coping with Control and Manipulation

Coping with Control and Manipulation
Author: Vera Sonja Maass
Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing USA
Total Pages: 174
Release: 2010-09-16
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 0313385785

You can't always avoid becoming a manipulator's target, but you CAN avoid becoming a victim. This revealing book gives you the power to resist the people who want to control you. Who is pushing your buttons—and what can you do about it? Coping with Control and Manipulation: Making the Difference Between Being a Target and Becoming a Victim examines the various spheres in which people encounter control and manipulation and shows how avoiding such victimization is absolutely possible. Knowing the players, understanding what motivates them, identifying their goals, and learning the techniques they use can help potential victims avoid, or at least survive, control and manipulation attempts. In her comprehensive look at this potentially harmful human drive, clinical psychologist Vera Sonja Maass shows just how prevalent control and manipulation are. She examines manipulators' goals and techniques as they relate to personality structure and offers a "menu" of techniques commonly used to exercise control. Arming readers through an in-depth analysis of controllers' behaviors toward targeted persons, Dr. Maass enables such targets to predict future actions—and prepare responses that will prevent victimization.

Liking the Child You Love

Liking the Child You Love
Author: Jeffrey Bernstein
Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books
Total Pages: 274
Release: 2009-06-09
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 073821261X

How to recognize and cope with Parent Frustration Syndrome (PFS): negative thoughts and feelings about your children"

Manipulation

Manipulation
Author: Sarah Nielsen
Publisher: Lulu.com
Total Pages: 184
Release: 2016-03-22
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 132999163X

Do you find yourself helping others even when you don't want? Are you always feeling guilty when you tell others no? Do your friends tend to guilt trip you into doing things for them? Are you tired of feeling like you have no control over your life? Are you tired of being victimized? If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, then "Manipulation" is the perfect book for you. Inside this book by Sarah Nielsen, you are going to learn everything that you need to know about manipulation, including why people do it and how you can learn to deal with it. One of the first things that you will learn about when reading through "Manipulation" is the warnings signs of an emotional manipulator. These warning signs will give you an idea of what to look for to try and help you determine if the person is manipulating you. Some of the most basic signs include negative reinforcement, as well as punishing you in some form for not doing what it is they want.

Manipulation

Manipulation
Author: June Hunt
Publisher: Rose Publishing
Total Pages: 52
Release: 2022-02-01
Genre: Religion
ISBN: 1596367970

Manipulation is the number one guilt game played by narcissistic, controlling people. This means manipulative and controlling people try to make you feel guilty to get their own way, regardless of what's good for you. They'll accuse you of insensitivity or disloyalty or a lack of Christian kindness, in order to pressure you into giving your time, your money, or even yourself into doing what they want—even though you are not being led by the Lord to do so. In this mini-book on manipulation, you will learn what tactics are used by controlling people, why you have been manipulated, and how to stop being manipulated. In other words, this Hope for the Heart mini-book, Manipulation, gives Christians the confidence to say no to people so they can say yes to God. Did you know that there are several verbal and non-verbal types of manipulation? Spiritual manipulation is not often talked about, but very present in the Bible, and is very common today. Learn all 16 types of manipulation, and how manipulators use words, seductive gestures, power, and spite to get what they want. In the section titled, "Steps to Solution," June Hunt gives you practical advice on: The first 4 steps away from manipulationHow to discover your own manipulative maneuvers9 ways to say "No" to manipulatorsHow to answer common questions on manipulationAnd much more To stop being manipulated, you must sometimes say no to people so you can say yes to God. Manipulative traits are often passed on from generation to generation, but you have the power to stop the abuse and start the healing. Manipulation and deceit started all the way back in the Garden of Eden when Satan convinced Adam and Eve to sin. The root cause is our own selfish desires, but they can be stopped with God's help, and you can walk once again on the path to wholeness. This mini-book is a quick overview and is easy-to-understand. It focuses on the key issues and is perfect for the busy person who needs instant advice.

The Gaslight Effect

The Gaslight Effect
Author: Dr. Robin Stern
Publisher: Harmony
Total Pages: 306
Release: 2018-01-09
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 0767924460

In this groundbreaking guide, the prominent therapist Dr. Robin Stern shows how the Gaslight Effect works, how you can decide which relationships can be saved and which you have to walk away from—and how to gasproof your life so you'll avoid gaslighting relationship. Your husband crosses the line in his flirtations with another woman at a dinner party. When you confront him, he asks you to stop being insecure and controlling. After a long argument, you apologize for giving him a hard time. Your mother belittles your clothes, your job, and your boyfriend. But instead of fighting back, you wonder if your mother is right and figure that a mature person should be able to take a little criticism. If you think things like this can’t happen to you, think again. Gaslighting is an insidious form of emotional abuse and manipulation that is difficult to recognize and even harder to break free from. Are you being gaslighted? Check for these telltale signs: 1) Does your opinion of yourself change according to approval or disapproval from your spouse? 2) When your boss praises you, do you feel as if you could conquer the world? 3) Do you dread having small things go wrong at home—buying the wrong brand of toothpaste, not having dinner ready on time, a mistaken appointment written on the calendar? 4) Do you have trouble making simple decisions and constantly second guess yourself? 5) Do you frequently make excuses for your partner's behavior to your family and friends? 6) Do you feel hopeless and joyless?

A Clinician's Guide to Pathological Ambivalence

A Clinician's Guide to Pathological Ambivalence
Author: Linda Paulk Buchanan
Publisher:
Total Pages: 198
Release: 2019-03
Genre:
ISBN: 9780990344568

Resistant. Oppositional. Borderline. Mental health professionals commonly use such terms to describe patients who, despite expressing a strong desire to reduce their emotional distress, repeatedly reject or ignore their therapist's interpretations andadvice. When this continues session after session, both patient and therapist end up feeling stuck and frustrated.This book offers an alternative interpretation of patients' apparent resistance, termed pathological ambivalence, which is rooted in early experience, biological functioning, and psychological narrative. The concept of pathological ambivalence draws from several established theoretical perspectives in explaining why some people seem to sabotage their progress in psychotherapy and how some therapists become unintentional enablers.

Who's Pulling Your Strings?: How to Break the Cycle of Manipulation and Regain Control of Your Life

Who's Pulling Your Strings?: How to Break the Cycle of Manipulation and Regain Control of Your Life
Author: Harriet Braiker
Publisher: McGraw Hill Professional
Total Pages: 274
Release: 2003-09-22
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 0071435689

A powerful program to stop manipulators in their tracks In Who's Pulling Your Strings?, Dr. Harriet B. Braiker, New York Times bestselling author of The Disease to Please, explains how depression, low self-esteem, anger, and feelings of helplessness can be caused by relationships with manipulative people. She exposes the most common methods of manipulators, and with the help of selfassessment quizzes, action plans, and how-to exercises, she helps you recognize and end the manipulative cycle for good.

The Elephant in the Brain

The Elephant in the Brain
Author: Kevin Simler
Publisher: Oxford University Press
Total Pages: 417
Release: 2018
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 0190495995

Human beings are primates, and primates are political animals. Our brains, therefore, are designed not just to hunt and gather, but also to help us get ahead socially, often via deception and self-deception. But while we may be self-interested schemers, we benefit by pretending otherwise. The less we know about our own ugly motives, the better - and thus we don't like to talk or even think about the extent of our selfishness. This is the elephant in the brain. Such an introspective taboo makes it hard for us to think clearly about our nature and the explanations for our behavior. The aim of this book, then, is to confront our hidden motives directly - to track down the darker, unexamined corners of our psyches and blast them with floodlights. Then, once everything is clearly visible, we can work to better understand ourselves: Why do we laugh? Why are artists sexy? Why do we brag about travel? Why do we prefer to speak rather than listen? Our unconscious motives drive more than just our private behavior; they also infect our venerated social institutions such as Art, School, Charity, Medicine, Politics, and Religion. In fact, these institutions are in many ways designed to accommodate our hidden motives, to serve covert agendas alongside their official ones. The existence of big hidden motives can upend the usual political debates, leading one to question the legitimacy of these social institutions, and of standard policies designed to favor or discourage them. You won't see yourself - or the world - the same after confronting the elephant in the brain.

Fierce Marriage

Fierce Marriage
Author: Ryan Frederick
Publisher: Baker Books
Total Pages: 221
Release: 2018-04-17
Genre: Religion
ISBN: 1493412779

Ryan and Selena Frederick were newlyweds when they landed in Switzerland to pursue Selena's dream of training horses. Neither of them knew at the time that Ryan was living out a death sentence brought on by a worsening genetic heart defect. Soon it became clear he needed major surgery that could either save his life--or result in his death on the operating table. The young couple prepared for the worst. When Ryan survived, they both realized that they still had a future together. But the near loss changed the way they saw all that would lie ahead. They would live and love fiercely, fighting for each other and for a Christ-centered marriage, every step of the way. Fierce Marriage is their story, but more than that, it is a call for married couples to put God first in their relationship, to measure everything they do and say to each other against what Christ did for them, and to see marriage not just as a relationship they should try to keep healthy but also as one worth fighting for in every situation. With the gospel as their foundation, Ryan and Selena offer hope and practical help for common struggles in marriage, including communication problems, sexual frustration, financial stress, family tension, screen-time disconnection, and unrealistic expectations.

30 Covert Emotional Manipulation Tactics

30 Covert Emotional Manipulation Tactics
Author: Adelyn Birch
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
Total Pages: 0
Release: 2015-12-26
Genre: Control (Psychology)
ISBN: 9781522922841

Learn the manipulator's game, so they can't play it with you. Identifying covert emotional manipulation is tricky. You sense something is wrong, but you can't quite put your finger on the problem. This powerful book will reveal to you if manipulation is at play in your relationships. It will open your eyes. You will learn thirty tactics manipulators use to get what they want. You will also learn to spot the warning signs within yourself that expose covert manipulation is taking place, even if you can't identify the specific tactics being used. This book is geared toward romantic relationships, including those involving a pathological partner. Even so, many of the manipulation tactics are the same as those used by family members, coworkers, friends and others. Covert emotional manipulation tactics are underhanded methods of control. Emotional manipulation methodically wears down your self-worth and damages your trust in your own perceptions. It can make you unwittingly compromise your personal boundaries and lose your self-respect, and even lead to a warped concept of yourself and of reality. With your defenses weakened or completely disarmed in this manner, you are left even more vulnerable to further manipulation and psychological harm. Empower yourself and get your life back! "An excellent and concise guide to emotional abuse. Here is a concise listing with well written descriptions of each method and tactic of emotional abusers. In my opinion everyone should read this book. Forewarned is forearmed." "Clear, concise, accurate portrayal of complex subject matter impacting many people. I appreciate the accessibility to the general public of a topic that is often overlooked, but impacts morale not only in romantic relationships, but in the family, at work and in myriad social situations." "Wow. What a sap I've been. I've been victimized by a control freak domineering wife for nearly 30 years. I knew I was passive but I had no idea how cutthroat she really was. Very eye opening." "This author nails it. Some examples were direct quotes from people I know, so I know I am not alone in having been manipulated. It is directly applicable to my life and gives excellent guidance for how to recognize and therefore avoid manipulations in the future. I am recommending it to a number of my friends." "At first I thought this was another of those "little books" with no content. I went ahead and got it anyway. Immediately I realized I was wrong. Good choice." "Knowing the tactics made me far less emotional about what has been happening, better able to deal with the manipulation. Consequently, I look less crazy, I count that as a win!" "BRAVO! Everyone should read this... if you're in a controlling relationship, man or woman, this will help you spell it out. Don't let these people in at ANY cost..it's not worth your LIFE" "Short and right to the point. Worth re-reading and, because of the format, it was easy to locate points that I wanted to find again. This book provides instant clarity." "Must read for anyone who interacts with other people, ever! VERY useful information everyone should be aware of!" "Great! This is one of those great little book that you come across once in a while. The book is short because it left all the bulls*** and fillers out!" "Excellent! A must read for anyone that is lost in a relationship. I would like to thank the author for an eye opening experience! This book has clarified more for me than I have ever understood in my entire life time. "Impressive! Short, direct, and thought-provoking. I only wish I had read it years ago! Every young person should read this before dating!" "If you're wondering . . . "gee, should I read this book?" The answer is YES.It should be required for every human adult's relationship toolkit."