A Man's Tools for Addressing Betrayal

A Man's Tools for Addressing Betrayal
Author: Sibylle Georgianna, Ph.D.
Publisher: Sibylle Georgianna
Total Pages: 65
Release: 2021
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 1638778124

If you have been injured by a significant other's betrayal, use the tools described in this book to determine the options you have, interrupt triggers, calm down your stress levels, and become clear on what you can request. Your greatest wounding is to believe that nothing that you experienced with your significant other was real. You experience an out-of-the-blue grief response to the sudden loss of what you thought was your life. At some point you need to mourn the relationship you thought you had. Reactions such as anger, sadness, numbness or craving to go out and cheat yourself show the humongous loss. The betrayal wound causes you to no longer trust your significant other and yourself. You have many questions: Was my relationship with the one who betrayed me an illusion? What’s my sense of reality that I did not see the dual life of the one who betrayed me sooner? How could I have entrusted myself and my family to a person I did not know? You have been wounded on so many levels. At the same time, betrayal trauma is not your fault. Pick up this manual for keys to unlocking freedom and a clear vision to moving forward. "This book is a got to get for anybody who wants to improve their skills and work through their own betrayal trauma, and it’s for men who clearly don’t have enough resources. I just can’t thank you, Sibylle, enough for helping this very special population heal. It’s amazing and thanks again." Carol A. Juergensen Sheets, LCSW, Author "Help Her Heal"

A Man's Tools for Addressing Betrayal

A Man's Tools for Addressing Betrayal
Author: Sibylle Georgianna
Publisher: Sibylle Georgianna, Ph.D.
Total Pages: 76
Release: 2021-04-15
Genre:
ISBN: 9781638778134

If you have been injured by a significant other's betrayal, use the tools described in this book to determine the options you have, interrupt triggers, calm down your stress levels, and become clear on what you can request. Your greatest wounding is to believe that nothing that you experienced with your significant other was real. You experience an out-of-the-blue grief response to the sudden loss of what you thought was your life. At some point you need to mourn the relationship you thought you had. Reactions such as anger, sadness, numbness or craving to go out and cheat yourself show the humongous loss. The betrayal wound causes you to no longer trust your significant other and yourself. You have many questions: Was my relationship with the one who betrayed me an illusion? What's my sense of reality that I did not see the dual life of the one who betrayed me sooner? How could I have entrusted myself and my family to a person I did not know? What if I encounter the same triggers over and over again? Does it mean that I am not healing? You have been wounded on so many levels. At the same time, betrayal trauma is not your fault. Pick up this manual for keys to unlocking freedom and a clear vision to moving forward.

Intimate Deception

Intimate Deception
Author: Dr. Sheri Keffer
Publisher: Baker Books
Total Pages: 336
Release: 2018-03-20
Genre: Religion
ISBN: 1493412639

Nothing destroys trust like sexual betrayal. Beyond broken vows, a woman who discovers that the man she loves has been viewing pornography or having an affair must deal with devastating blows to her self-image and self-worth. She must grapple with the fact that the man she thought she knew has lied and deceived her. She may even bear the brunt of shame and judgment when the people around her find out. Drawing from her experience both as a marriage and family therapist and a woman who personally experienced the devastation of sexual betrayal, Dr. Sheri Keffer walks women impacted by betrayal through the pain and toward recovery. She explains how the trauma of betrayal affects our minds, bodies, spirits, and sexuality. She offers practical tools for dealing with emotional triggers and helps women understand the realities of sexual addiction. And she shows women how to practice self-care, develop healthy boundaries, protect themselves from abuse or manipulation, and find freedom from the burden of shame and guilt.

Beyond Betrayal

Beyond Betrayal
Author: Richard B. Gartner
Publisher: Turner Publishing Company
Total Pages: 294
Release: 2010-12-07
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 1118040082

"With compassion and clarity, Richard Gartner shares insights from years of working with male survivors. Among this book's greatest strengths is the extensive use of examples from Dr. Gartner's clinical practice to illustrate problems and solutions on the path to healing. Beyond Betrayal offers support, encouragement, and useful skills to men in recovery." --Mike Lew, M.Ed., author of Victims No Longer and Leaping upon the Mountains "If you have been sexually abused, this book will give you information, hope, direction, and most importantly, the assurance that you are not alone. Dr. Gartner has written an accessible, compassionate book that clearly lays out the healing process for men who were hurt or abused as children. Whether you were abused by a mother, a camp counselor, a neighborhood boy, or a priest, Beyond Betrayal will give you the tools you need to reclaim your life and move on. If you're going to take one book with you on the healing journey, this should be the one." --Laura Davis, coauthor of The Courage to Heal and author of The Courage to Heal Workbook "Compassionate, insightful, and hopeful, Beyond Betrayal shines a bright light. It is a must-read for anyone concerned." --Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D., author of Silently Seduced "Beyond Betrayal cuts through the shame, confusion, misunderstanding, and fear that so often accompany the abuse of males and replaces them with clear information. I will begin to use it immediately with my patients and think that other clinicians will do so as well." --Christine A. Courtois, Ph.D., author of Healing the Incest Wound and Recollections of Sexual Abuse "Beyond Betrayal offers men straightforward words of hope and a meaningful way to overcome the invisibility, stigma, and shame they have endured. Many men and their families will find this book a healing aid." --Jack Drescher, M.D., author of Psychoanalytic Therapy and the Gay Man "Dr. Gartner writes in a manner any reader will find accessible. Not only does he understand the topic of males, sexual abuse, and recovery, but he can explain it to those who need to know." --Dr. Mic Hunter, author of Abused Boys and editor of Adult Survivors of Sexual Abuse: Treatment Innovations

Betrayal of Trust

Betrayal of Trust
Author: Stanley J. Grenz
Publisher: Baker Books
Total Pages: 222
Release: 2001-09-01
Genre: Religion
ISBN: 1441215379

Sexual misconduct by clergy is a devastating issue that reaches across all denominations, damaging the credibility of the church in its wake. The media regularly reports on the moral failure of leaders and abuse at the hands of those who are supposed to be trustworthy. Betrayal of Trust focuses on a common scenario of abuse--sexual involvement between a male pastor and a female congregant--and offers practical solutions on how to respond to and prevent this betrayal of trust. This book presents methods that will help churches respond sensitively to victims and implement policies and procedures to prevent abuse from taking place. For clergy who may be at risk for this behavior, it offers help in establishing appropriate boundaries. This second edition includes a new chapter that offers help for the wandering pastor and a risk-determination questionnaire for pastors who may become abusers.

With Edged Tools

With Edged Tools
Author: Henry Seton Merriman
Publisher: Good Press
Total Pages: 306
Release: 2019-12-03
Genre: Fiction
ISBN:

'With Edged Tools' is a novel that begins by introducing us to Henry Seton Merriman, Sir John Meredith and Lady Cantourne as they observe the ballroom with their seasoned eyes, criticizing the new generation of young people and their behavior. They focus on the belle of the ball, Millicent Chyne, who is a social success but lacks heart. When Guy Oscard, a rugged and adventurous young man, enters the scene, Millicent is immediately intrigued. As they dance, she discovers that he has just returned from Africa and is drawn to his sincerity and strength.

What Makes Love Last?

What Makes Love Last?
Author: John Gottman
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Total Pages: 304
Release: 2013-09-10
Genre: Family & Relationships
ISBN: 1451608489

"One of the foremost relationship experts at work today offers creative insight on building trust and avoiding betrayal, helping readers to decode the mysteries of healthy love and relationships"--

Moving Beyond Betrayal

Moving Beyond Betrayal
Author: Vicki Tidwell Palmer
Publisher: Central Recovery Press, LLC
Total Pages: 175
Release: 2016-05-16
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 1942094159

A go-to guide on how to confront, heal from, and ultimately thrive after the devastation of betrayal by a partner's compulsive sexual or other addictive behavior The first book specifically for partners affected by addictive behavior that addresses, in detail, how to identify, create, and maintain boundaries as a vital component of self-care and an indispensable tool for healing and growth. Through working the 5-Step Boundary Solution partners will gain clarity; reduce the chaos inherent in relationships impacted by sex addiction; feel more empowered and in control of their lives; discover whether or not their relationship with the addict is salvageable. Vicki Tidwell Palmer is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner (SEP) in private practice in Houston, Texas. She is the author of the blog for partners Survival Strategies for Partners of Sex Addicts.

Understanding the Sexual Betrayal of Boys and Men

Understanding the Sexual Betrayal of Boys and Men
Author: Richard B. Gartner
Publisher: Routledge
Total Pages: 407
Release: 2017-08-15
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 1317375572

Understanding the Sexual Betrayal of Boys and Men: The Trauma of Sexual Abuse is an indispensable go-to book for understanding male sexual victimization. It has become increasingly clear since the 1980s that men and boys, like women and girls, are sexually abused and assaulted in alarming numbers. Yet there have been few resources available to victims, their loved ones, or those trying to help them. Richard B. Gartner was in the vanguard of clinicians treating male sexual victimization and has written extensively about it, initially in professional papers, then in his landmark 1999 book for clinicians Betrayed as Boys: Psychodynamic Treatment of Sexually Abused Men, continuing with his 2005 work Beyond Betrayal: Taking Charge of Your Life after Boyhood Sexual Abuse. He has been a tireless teacher, clinician, and advocate for male victims of sexual abuse in the classroom, the lecture hall, and of course the consulting room as well as in newspaper, television, radio, and online interviews. Dr. Gartner has gathered together expert colleagues from the trauma, psychoanalytic, medical, and survivor treatment fields. Together, they have created a comprehensive guide to what was once thought to be a rarity but now is clearly an all-too-common occurrence. Understanding the Sexual Betrayal of Boys and Men looks at the realities of male sexual victimization, guiding clinicians and lay people alike to understand the complexities of the devastation it causes in victimized boys and men. It considers topics as diverse as: sexual assault in institutions like the military, sports teams, schools, universities, and religious organizations; sex trafficking of boys and adolescents; neurobiology and brain chemistry of male survivors of sexual abuse; gender and sexual dysfunctions and confusions resulting from sexual exploitation and trauma; physicians’ treatment of sexually abused men’s medical problems; socio-cultural influences on processing and treating men’s and boys’ sexual victimization. Understanding the Sexual Betrayal of Boys and Men is required reading for anyone working with male victims of sexual abuse and assault at any level – psychotherapists, rape counselors, attorneys, journalists, guidance counselors, physicians, clergy, graduate students, and lawmakers – and helpful to lay people interested in this often-unrecognized problem.

Affective Betrayal

Affective Betrayal
Author: Jean Tsui
Publisher: State University of New York Press
Total Pages: 458
Release: 2024-09-01
Genre: Religion
ISBN: 1438498802

Affective Betrayal uses "affect" as an analytical category to explicate the fragility and fragmentation of Chinese political modernity. In so doing, the book uncovers some of the unresolved moral and philosophical obstacles China encountered in the past, as well as the cultural predicament the country faces at present. At the turn of the twentieth century, China's leading reformer Liang Qichao (1873–1929) presented modern political knowledge in musical and visual representational formats that were designed to stimulate readers' bodily senses. By expanding the reception of textual knowledge from "reading" to "listening" and "visualizing experiences," Liang generated an epistemic shift, and perhaps an all-inclusive internal intellectual, philosophical, and moral transition, alongside China's modern political reform. By tracing the marginalized academic and philosophical positions Liang sought to restore in China's incipient democratic movement, Affective Betrayal examines how his attempts to conjoin Confucian morality and liberal democracy expose hidden anxieties as well as inherent contradictions between these two systems of thought. These conflicts, besides disrupting the stability of China's burgeoning modern political order, explain why the import of modern concepts led to China's continued political impasse, rather than rationality and progress, after the 1911 revolution.