A Boyfriend's Burden

A Boyfriend's Burden
Author: Hannah Vlasblom
Publisher: Lulu.com
Total Pages: 130
Release: 2013-09-27
Genre:
ISBN: 1304495760

Evan Mitchell has it made. He's Captain of his highschool basketball team; his best friend's assistant captain, and he has a gorgeous girlfriend who loves him. Everything seems to be going his way; he couldn't have asked for anything more. but suddenly, everything's going all wrong. Will one night change his life forever?

Since I Laid My Burden Down

Since I Laid My Burden Down
Author: Brontez Purnell
Publisher: The Feminist Press at CUNY
Total Pages: 81
Release: 2017-05-22
Genre: Fiction
ISBN: 155861432X

An uninhibited portrait of growing up gay in 1980s Alabama: exploring art and sex with “more layered insight than the page count should allow” (Hanif Abdurraqib, MTV News). DeShawn lives a high, creative, and promiscuous life in San Francisco. But when he’s called back to his cramped Alabama hometown for his uncle’s funeral, he’s hit by flashbacks of handsome, doomed neighbors and sweltering Sunday services. Amidst prickly reminders of his childhood, DeShawn ponders family, church, and the men in his life, prompting the question: Who deserves love? A modern American classic, Since I Laid My Burden Down is a raw and searing look into the intersections of memory, Blackness, and queerness. “Performance artist Purnell beautifully captures a personality through introspection and memory in this slim novel . . . a compelling portrait of a particular disaffected kind of gay youth caught between religion, culture, and desire.” —Publishers Weekly “It’s a true novel, chaptered, and bound, that not only holds its own as queer literature, with its unapologetically misanthropic narrative, but also expands upon it.” —San Francisco Chronicle “An antidote to the rigamarole of gay lit.” —Mask Magazine “Slim yet potently realized, with a lot to ponder.” —The Bay Area Reporter “Since I Laid My Burden Down has a fearless (sometimes reckless) humor as Brontez Purnell interrogates what it means to be black, male, queer; a son, an uncle, a lover; Southern, punk, and human. An emotional tightrope walk of a book and an important American story rarely, if ever, told.” —Michelle Tea, author of Castle on the River Vistula

Against Empathy

Against Empathy
Author: Paul Bloom
Publisher: HarperCollins
Total Pages: 190
Release: 2016-12-06
Genre: Psychology
ISBN: 0062339354

New York Post Best Book of 2016 We often think of our capacity to experience the suffering of others as the ultimate source of goodness. Many of our wisest policy-makers, activists, scientists, and philosophers agree that the only problem with empathy is that we don’t have enough of it. Nothing could be farther from the truth, argues Yale researcher Paul Bloom. In AGAINST EMPATHY, Bloom reveals empathy to be one of the leading motivators of inequality and immorality in society. Far from helping us to improve the lives of others, empathy is a capricious and irrational emotion that appeals to our narrow prejudices. It muddles our judgment and, ironically, often leads to cruelty. We are at our best when we are smart enough not to rely on it, but to draw instead upon a more distanced compassion. Basing his argument on groundbreaking scientific findings, Bloom makes the case that some of the worst decisions made by individuals and nations—who to give money to, when to go to war, how to respond to climate change, and who to imprison—are too often motivated by honest, yet misplaced, emotions. With precision and wit, he demonstrates how empathy distorts our judgment in every aspect of our lives, from philanthropy and charity to the justice system; from medical care and education to parenting and marriage. Without empathy, Bloom insists, our decisions would be clearer, fairer, and—yes—ultimately more moral. Brilliantly argued, urgent and humane, AGAINST EMPATHY shows us that, when it comes to both major policy decisions and the choices we make in our everyday lives, limiting our impulse toward empathy is often the most compassionate choice we can make.

100 Boyfriends

100 Boyfriends
Author: Brontez Purnell
Publisher: MCD x FSG Originals
Total Pages: 136
Release: 2021-02-02
Genre: Fiction
ISBN: 0374722471

Winner of the 2022 Lambda Literary Award in Gay Fiction. A New York Times Book Review Editors' Choice. Longlisted for the 2022 Mark Twain American Voice in Literature Award and the 2021 Brooklyn Public Library Literary Prize. One of Buzzfeed's Best LGBTQ+ Books of 2021, NBC's 10 Most Notable LGBTQ Books of 2021, and Pink News' Best LGBTQ Books of 2021. "This hurricane of delirious, lonely, lewd tales is a taxonomy and grand unified theory of the boyfriend, in every tense." —Parul Sehgal, The New York Times "I loved this book—raunchy, irreverent, deliberate, sexy, angry, and tender, in its own way." —Roxane Gay An irrerverent, sensitive, and inimitable look at gay dysfunction through the eyes of a cult hero Transgressive, foulmouthed, and brutally funny, Brontez Purnell’s 100 Boyfriends is a revelatory spiral into the imperfect lives of queer men desperately fighting the urge to self-sabotage. As they tiptoe through minefields of romantic, substance-fueled misadventure—from dirty warehouses and gentrified bars in Oakland to desolate farm towns in Alabama—Purnell’s characters strive for belonging in a world that dismisses them for being Black, broke, and queer. In spite of it—or perhaps because of it—they shine. Armed with a deadpan wit, Purnell finds humor in even the darkest of nadirs with the peerless zeal, insight, and horniness of a gay punk messiah. Together, the slice-of-life tales that writhe within 100 Boyfriends are an inimitable tour of an unexposed queer underbelly. Holding them together is the vision of an iconoclastic storyteller, as fearless as he is human.

Overcoming Low Self-Esteem, 1st Edition

Overcoming Low Self-Esteem, 1st Edition
Author: Melanie Fennell
Publisher: Robinson
Total Pages: 225
Release: 2009-07-01
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 1849011567

A Books on Prescription Title Boost your confidence and change your life for the better Melanie Fennell's acclaimed self-help guide will help you to understand your low self-esteem and, armed with this knowledge, break out of the vicious circle of negative self-image, learning the art of self-acceptance and altering your life for the better. Explains the nature of low self-esteem and self-destructive thinking Describes what keeps low self-esteem going Explores how to identify your positive qualities and gain a more balanced view of yourself Contains a complete self-help program and monitoring sheets Based on clinically proven techniques of cognitive behavioural therapy

If a Partner Has AIDS

If a Partner Has AIDS
Author: R. Dennis Shelby
Publisher: Psychology Press
Total Pages: 308
Release: 1992
Genre: AIDS (Disease)
ISBN: 9781560241454

This powerful book is an immersion into the experience of AIDS, loss, and the impact of HIV on the mourning process. It presents a reconstruction of the general range of experiences of well and surviving partners of AIDS diagnosed men from a study focusing on the well partner's perspective from his first suspicion that his partner has AIDS, to caring for him, and through mourning his loss. If a Partner Has AIDS is a comprehensive book that emphasizes the integral role relationships and their loss play in individuals’experience with AIDS and HIV infection. This helpful book discusses the phenomenon of anticipatory grief and mourning in light of advances in clinical theory. Reformulations of grief and mourning are presented in a self-psychological framework, offering insights into the complexity of the partners’experiences and providing a framework for clinical intervention. Psychotherapists and clinicians will find the information in this practical book relevant to their work with homosexuals and persons affected by AIDS and HIV. Students in social work and psychology will find the step-by-step approach through the long processes of terminal illness, death, and mourning vital education for their future work. For couples and surviving partners impacted by AIDS, their friends and families, this important book offers a framework for understanding and healing.

#07 He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not

#07 He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not
Author: Robin Mayhall
Publisher: Graphic Universe ™
Total Pages: 132
Release: 2013-05-01
Genre: Juvenile Fiction
ISBN: 0761387382

Serena Stevens is already popular in her new school in the tiny Texas town of Rojo-so popular she has two guys interested in her. Self-assured Lance is a football star, and introverted Cam is an intellectual who gets nervous just working with her on their English project about Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. In a town with a single-minded obsession with football, Lance is a great catch, but there's something unique about Cam. Between the two of them, Serena has the perfect boyfriend . . . if she can figure out how to keep them apart.Soon there's much more to worry about when two cheerleaders go missing. Serena starts to wonder: could one of the guys be responsible? Appearances might be deceiving . . . and who will Serena end up with when things come to a boil?

Fed Up

Fed Up
Author: Gemma Hartley
Publisher: HarperCollins
Total Pages: 283
Release: 2018-11-13
Genre: Social Science
ISBN: 0062856480

From Gemma Hartley, the journalist who ignited a national conversation on emotional labor, comes Fed Up, a bold dive into the unpaid, invisible work women have shouldered for too long—and an impassioned vision for creating a better future for us all. Day in, day out, women anticipate and manage the needs of others. In relationships, we initiate the hard conversations. At home, we shoulder the mental load required to keep our households running. At work, we moderate our tone, explaining patiently and speaking softly. In the world, we step gingerly to keep ourselves safe. We do this largely invisible, draining work whether we want to or not—and we never clock out. No wonder women everywhere are overtaxed, exhausted, and simply fed up. In her ultra-viral article “Women Aren’t Nags—We’re Just Fed Up,” shared by millions of readers, Gemma Hartley gave much-needed voice to the frustration and anger experienced by countless women. Now, in Fed Up, Hartley expands outward from the everyday frustrations of performing thankless emotional labor to illuminate how the expectation to do this work in all arenas—private and public—fuels gender inequality, limits our opportunities, steals our time, and adversely affects the quality of our lives. More than just name the problem, though, Hartley teases apart the cultural messaging that has led us here and asks how we can shift the load. Rejecting easy solutions that don’t ultimately move the needle, Hartley offers a nuanced, insightful guide to striking real balance, for true partnership in every aspect of our lives. Reframing emotional labor not as a problem to be overcome, but as a genderless virtue men and women can all learn to channel in our quest to make a better, more egalitarian world, Fed Up is surprising, intelligent, and empathetic essential reading for every woman who has had enough with feeling fed up.

Whose Mind Is It Anyway?

Whose Mind Is It Anyway?
Author: Lisa Esile
Publisher: Penguin
Total Pages: 90
Release: 2016-06-07
Genre: Self-Help
ISBN: 1101993618

A sympathetic illustrated guide to learning to live with your mind--even when it tries to trick you. Most of us spend our lives trailing after our minds, allowing our brains to take us in directions that are safe and secure, controlled and conformed. Your mind doesn't want you to take that new job, sign up for that pottery class, or ask someone out. It wants you to stay unemployed, unfulfilled, and single because it enjoys routine and is resistant to change, no matter how positive the change may be. But more often than not, that's not what you want. Whose Mind Is It Anyway? will help you learn how to separate what you want from what your brain wants and how to do less when your mind is trying to trick you into doing more. In a colorful, funny, and nonthreatening way, it answers the difficult question of how we can take control of our self-defeating behaviors. Filled with charming illustrations, this book will be the friendly voice in your head to counter your negative thoughts, and it will teach you how to finally be at peace with all that you are.